All marriage will ever be, from a legal perspective, is a contract.<quoted text>
Huh? How about not throwing the baby out with the bath water? There's a difference between abuse and criminal activity and simply divorcing for trivial matters. So its okay that a wife or husband can no fault divorce, but can be charged criminally in some states for adultery? How about states that allow the offended spouse to sue the "other woman", or "other man"? Do you disagree with that?
Our government isnít in the God business, not in the religion business, not in the culture business.
Our government is in the law business, and their view ( and recognition of ) marriage is only from a legal perspective.
it will always be officially - a piece of paper - form a legal perspective
Now you have a club that wants to make it harder to divorce, go for it, make rules for you club, but donít expect others not of your club to be bound to your clubs rules.
In all your ranting you have yet to explain why divorce is worse than murder. Remember I donít care from a religious perspective, I donít care from a historical perspective, but from the legal perspective of government.
For myself, my wife and I wanted to marry, and we have wanted to stay married as a symbol to one another of our continued commitment to one another. I know it is just a piece of paper to the government, but it means more to us, and I could care less what it means to some church down the street.
I would like to share that with all Americans, regardless of orientation, that they too can make it what they want it to be, and to the garbage can with any that donít want them to.
I personally donít take my commitments lightly, however if I became an abuser, if I changed to be someone other than who I was when she married me, if I made her life miserable because of those changes, I would expect her to divorce me, in fact, I would be proud of her for doing so.
All of my children are married ( save one... one daughter left to go, please send donations for the wedding ) and they too actively work to keep their marriage alive and fresh, and a living thing.
Marriage today, is stronger because of the ease of divorce, making divorce more difficult will only make marriage weaker
I think it helps people that divorce is not all that difficult, that they need to actively engage in their marriages, to keep them healthy, and not the "ah ha... now you married me and are stuck with me so I can be abusive"
what is it that you are so afraid of? What is it that you want to do that your wife is likely to divorce you for?
I did like your question though, it is a lot like the "why donít you become a murderer if you donít think there is a hell?" And the answer is, because this is my life, and I respect my life. I have me to wake up to every morning, and that is going to be someone I am proud to be.
I worry when people ask questions like that, makes me think maybe I should be happy there is religion, because some people would be horrible human beings if they didnít have that threat.
Me... I am past the threat, I am a decent person because I want to be. I donít need punishment or reward to be a decent human being.
I can tell you though. my marriage vow is more than the guy that marries someone and then becomes abusive because he knows he can rely on that piece of paper to keep him married.
My vows are stronger, because they are a living choice, that I hold dear, not an excuse to become a jerk. I disagree, Marriage today, is stronger because of the ease of divorce, making divorce more difficult will only make marriage weaker