Domestice Violence Please Help

Domestice Violence Please Help

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Danielle Douglas-Monday

Kathleen, GA

#1 Aug 12, 2010
Hi, my name is Danielle, and I have a story to tell.

On December 12, 2009, I married Brian Rae Monday. I thought he was a young man that had never had any opportunity to succeed, I felt bad for him, and I wanted to help him. I thought that if I showed him a better life than his father or mother had, that he would be motivated to become something more. Things seemed to be going that way, until we got married.

Within weeks of being married, Brian's dad, Randy, started coming to my house telling Brian what good deals he could get on bulk marijuana and how much money he could make selling it. I told Brian that I didn't want his father at our home if he was going to be encouraging him to sell drugs. It didn't work. Within a month, Brian was selling pot out of my house and had quit his job.

It was around the same time that Brian began to be incredibly controlling over me. I couldn't even carry on a conversation with my own mother without him interrupting. Then, the physical abuse started. The first time Brian hit me was January 29, 2010 because we were fighting and I tried to leave. He took my car keys and the battery from the telephone, and physically prevented me from leaving on foot. He struck me in the face several times. Mike Bernard from Parksville was a witness to this.

Between January 29 and April 12 of 2010, at least four more physical altercations occurred, each one involving me being struck in the face and unlawfully imprisoned in my own home. The final incident was the worst, and I feared for my life as I lay on the ground, trying to scream, with him on top of me, choking me, until the point where I was almost unconscious. I managed to escape, but only because he realized he was going to have to let me go or kill me because I was not giving up.

I'm not claiming to be perfect; I hit him too, but only after I was held against my will. Like most men that commit acts of domestic violence, however, he will try to claim that he only hit me because he couldn't put up with MY abuse anymore. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE.

The reason I'm writing this is because, after having been separated for four months (that's as long as we were married), and my divorce almost final, this man has started harassing me and my family again.

Having not seen him in over a month, he has started to frequent spots where I talk to my friends, knowing we cannot be within five-hundred feet of one another because of the EPO I had placed on him for my personal protection. He tells people that he goes to these places and stays there so that I cannot be there. Four months of separation and this man is still trying to control me.

What's worse, on the night of August 12, 2010, Brian attempted to run my father off the road on his way home. Minutes later, he called my father, threatening to kill him several times over little Brett Caudill's cell phone. When my father arrived at the barn close to his home, a group of people, including Randy and Brian Monday and Becky Wilson came out of the trailer they live in, and began firing shots in his direction.

I am writing this because I fear for my life and the lives of my family members who deserve none of this. Brian is still furious that I won't be with him and his father backs up these ridiculous violent notions he has. Brian continues to watch my home, asking about vehicles that frequent my driveway and about any man I am seen with. I have been called a whore, a drug addict, and a rat along with numerous other obscenities that are not true, and that if they applied to anyone, it would be Brian Monday.

Brian Monday and his father are a danger to society. I am begging the Liberty Police Department, the Sheriff's Department, and Tommy Weddle to please do something more to help me and my family. If anything bad happens to me, I want everyone to know that it will have been Brian or his father that did it. I can see it in his eyes that he wants to kill me, and if something is not done, I will end up dead.
JMO

Douglas, GA

#2 Aug 12, 2010
Why dont u take this to Tommy Weddle? The only thing I would think that is strange about this post is that if you are so scared of him....why would you post this airing all of your and his (and his familys)dirty laundry?. I know how it is to be scared of a man that enjoys the fact that he can over-power you. I have been through the EPOs and DVOs. But with me- the more time that went by, the more my ex let off and has finally started leaving me alone. I dont even know you or your ex but I hope nothing happens and you stay safe.There are shelters for women that have been nattered and abused, they can help you with counseling and anything you need such as the Bethany House. HE CANT come near you then. I hope that you posting this hasnt made things worse for you... you know what they say "the more you stir up sh!t, the worse it stinks" I wish you the best

Danielle Douglas-Monday

Kathleen, GA

#3 Aug 13, 2010
My father did take this to Tommy Weddle. Brian has still showed up to block me. Nothing works.
hank the yank

Lexington, KY

#4 Aug 13, 2010
Tommy Weddle is the bigest joke in Casey County

Since: Mar 08

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#5 Aug 13, 2010
Call the State Police and talk to them!
JMO

Douglas, GA

#6 Aug 13, 2010
What do u mean to 'block' you? If you have a EPO on him....then he cant 'show up' anywhere! Thats when you call the 'police' because he is violating the Emergency Protective Order. With you living with him before I dont know why you didnt get a Domestiv Violence Order (DVO). I was told that with my DVO, that if my ex sees my car at even the store then he has to go somewhere else......that came from Tommy Weddle. Harrassment is still abuse, and if he is following you or showing up where you are at,...then call the law and he will go to jail for violating the EPO
JMO

Douglas, GA

#7 Aug 13, 2010
hank the yank wrote:
Tommy Weddle is the bigest joke in Casey County
you may call him a joke, but he will stand with you not against you when it comes to domestic violence. Tommy, along with everyone I know, has their faults. But if you ever want to get anything done....choices are limited in this county. So its Tommy Weddle or nothing. Because if you take it to a police officer, which I have tried, they will tell you to go talk to Tommy. I mean unless you are in good with a judge...I know Judge Lloyd doesnt have any use for abusive men
prepared

Brownsville, TN

#8 Aug 13, 2010
buy a gun.....
I know it for a fact

Columbus, OH

#9 Aug 13, 2010
let me tell you girl,first off stop pissing around with this bullshit...put your foot down and buy a gun,vidoe tape his ass when ever you can,build your case then shoot his ass,i did and only served 6 months..........
SOSORRY

Lexington, KY

#10 Aug 13, 2010
JMO wrote:
What do u mean to 'block' you? If you have a EPO on him....then he cant 'show up' anywhere! Thats when you call the 'police' because he is violating the Emergency Protective Order. With you living with him before I dont know why you didnt get a Domestiv Violence Order (DVO). I was told that with my DVO, that if my ex sees my car at even the store then he has to go somewhere else......that came from Tommy Weddle. Harrassment is still abuse, and if he is following you or showing up where you are at,...then call the law and he will go to jail for violating the EPO
why do you think so many women get killed AFTER they go get an epo or dvo?it is because no one pays attention to how serious this subject really is.remember the lady who was killed by her boyfriend (a lawmaker) in lexington that piece of paper does NO GOOD without someone with authority taking it seriously!I know a chick that had one and when her x-boyfriend climbed in her window while in a rage and scared her so bad she could barely speak she was told that since she actually got away without getting hurt there was nothing that could be done. A month later her trailer was burned to the ground.Nothing was ever done about that either. For these orders to work the law has to do their job and generally that's not the case.
evilmonkey

United States

#11 Aug 13, 2010
Or, just sit down, shut the hell up and get with the program. Stop making waves and just be a good wife. The reason you got smacked around is because you bitch and complain too much. Nobody want's to hear your mouth unless you're talking about, here's a beer and are you hungry?

I guess he's mad because he and his father have a great lead on a lucritive home business venture and here you are going to mess it all up. Again, zip it woman. Quiet! What happened to good women supporting their husbands? Sorry not everyone can be a doctor, lawyer or born filthy rich. Some guys have to step it up a bit if they plan on making big bucks without a college education. And granted, that sometimes involves illegal activities. But hey, if he quit his day job, business must be good. And hell, a bad day slinging dope is still better than a good day at the office.

Maybe if you put the same time, energy and effort into supporting your husband instead of fukking it all up, perhaps your relationship would be better?
How about helping him package and weigh the dope? How about you help him cover his ass and help make sure he doesn't get busted. Why don't you try helping the business out instead of trying to go the other direction. Obviously a direction your husband doesn't want to go. Maybe if you helped more and complained less, your home business would take off and you'd have alot more money.

Now get in there, tell him you are sorry for not backing him up, for working against him and trying to screw stuff up because your a pissy little woman who wants this and wants that and doesn't think this is right, doesn't think that's right, waaa waaa waaaa, bitch and complain some more. So apologize for all that, swear you'll back him up, through think and thin, for better or worse. Promise you'll keep your stupid opinions to yourself from now on and you'll figure out a ways to protect him and the home business from getting busted.
this is bull

Falls Of Rough, KY

#12 Aug 13, 2010
Brian needs to stop with it all and his piss a$$ so called father really needs to stop he will run thew the woods if ya see him out by him self and ya say boo to him....i know what ya going thew my daughter is going thew and it isnt anything fun about it.. do like i did get the state police go over liberty's head let the state boys deal with it they wont play no games with them i can promise you that i live like 20 mins out town and with mine he showed up took the state police 4 mins at the most to show up and have him in cuffs and on the ground..so please call them b4 this gets any more out of hand
friend

Lexington, KY

#13 Aug 13, 2010
i dont know you but i do know your father. from the way this sounds it is going down the wrong road and you need to get something done one thing you might want to do is try not going out running around alone this way if something happens you will have a witness and also someone who can help you if needed your dad is like the rest of us getting older but i would be willing to bet if something like this would have happend to him back in his younger days i bet the person wouldnt have wanted to run him off the road a 2nd time come to think of it last time i seen him he still looked to be getting around ok they may want to think twice before they go messing with him and his daughter again
ingodwetrust

Lexington, KY

#14 Aug 13, 2010
better yet work with the cops to set him up saleing his weed, you should get him putt away for a few years,punks like that need some time alone to think about there sorry life and how to change it for the better.good luck girl
evilmonkey

United States

#15 Aug 13, 2010
ingodwetrust wrote:
better yet work with the cops to set him up saleing his weed, you should get him putt away for a few years,punks like that need some time alone to think about there sorry life and how to change it for the better.good luck girl
Selling num-nuts, not saleing. Saleing isn't even a word. There is sailing, as in, sailboat. Or, in flying, sailing, in the wild blue yonder...

So, things can be For Sale or On Sale, but not For Sell and stores do not have 50% off Sells.

Additionally, people are not putt away. They can however be incarcerated, or, put away. With one T not two. Otherwise you are talking about family golf. IE: Putt Putt Golf.

So, in summary, I see it is quite clear. In God we trust, in education we do not.

May want to look into sentence structure and proper use of capitalization.

Here's a video to get you started....

<--Conjunction Junction
MrHothead

Austin, TX

#16 Aug 13, 2010
Houston is the butthole of Texas!
evilmonkey

United States

#17 Aug 13, 2010
MrHothead wrote:
Houston is the butthole of Texas!
Then Round Rock is really Round Cock making you the penis of Texas, which is great, because there's a party in your mouth and everybody is coming!
Danielle Douglas-Monday

Kathleen, GA

#18 Aug 13, 2010
I really appreciate all of your support. I believe the state police are my only option at this point, because the local authorities don't seem to be taking this seriously, even though weapons have been involved and the violence has escalated beyond me to my family members.

I can't even get a return phone call from Tommy Weddle.

It is so important that people understand the gravity of this issue. I am now not only fearing for my own life, but for the lives of my family members.

I believe that the reason local officials will not step in is because Brian has been working as an informant.

My life and the lives of my family are in jeopardy, and authorities are allowing the violence and harassment to continue.

Thanks for all your suggestions and support.
Danielle Douglas-Monday

Kathleen, GA

#19 Aug 13, 2010
Additionally, keep in mind that I am not the only person going through this.

There are others, many that are too afraid to speak.
evilmonkey

United States

#20 Aug 13, 2010
Danielle Douglas-Monday wrote:
Additionally, keep in mind that I am not the only person going through this.
There are others, many that are too afraid to speak.
Really? How many women is he married to? And none of you like the dope dealing? Shoot, I'd keep the one that helps out and knows to keep her mouth shut. Get rid of the trouble makers, you know....

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