Should a stay at home mom be charging...

Should a stay at home mom be charging husband?

Created by Mom of 3 wife of 1 on Mar 20, 2013

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Mom of 3 wife of 1

Wakarusa, IN

#1 Mar 20, 2013
Please allow me to explain.
I am a full time mother of 3 children. One teen, one middle school and one 2 year old. We started our family late as we had goals to pay off our home and one car prior to having children. I stopped working to raise my children. My question is about what I would earn at the present dedicated position I hold now. I clean house, do all the laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep, provide transportation to and from doctor appointments, pay all the bills by check and provide pet care and transportation to and from the vet. I am responsible for ensuring kids are well groomed, including appropriate clothing and washing dishes. My husband and I have a great sex life and as often as we can find the time. I always keep my hair,clothes and make up nice.
I'm not sure any of this is appreciated as much as I would like to hear. I wonder sometimes how much an outside employer would pay for my salary. Of course not the sex part. lol
Well

Mount Prospect, IL

#2 Mar 20, 2013
I agree to a point, but how much is room and board worth? Deduct that and start again.lol,I am also a stay at home Mom,who worked the first decade.
so lets see

Hobart, IN

#3 Mar 20, 2013
where does the money come from for your hair, your clothes , your shoes, your make up and everything else that you need that costs money. where does the money come from for friday night at pizza king, Is there some thing you want or need that you cant just ask the hubby for or doesnt his money go in to an account that you have access to if you need gas or just want to get lunch out or whatever?
Just sayin

Belvidere, IL

#4 Mar 20, 2013
Wow he works and pays the bills isnt that enough for you,plus you have nice clothes, make up, food on the table and a car! Hmmmmm selfish much!!!!
no pricetag

Chicago, IL

#5 Mar 20, 2013
This topic is proof that some women want it all and are never satisfied. I wonder if the husband's job is appreciated? It sounds like all he is good for is the money he brings home. Marriage is a partnership. It's not all take and no give. Some mothers choose to stay home while the man brings home the bacon. Other mothers choose to drop the kids off at daycare or wherever and work too. Keeping up the home, being a mother that is there for those kids, providing nutritious meals, helping with homework, etc, and having the bonus of a husband who works hard to bring home a paycheck should be so satisfying. You can't put a price tag on that. So many women complain of deadbeat dads and husbands. The woman who started this topic isn't married to a deadbeat and still complains and wants more.

I don't think the woman in comment one, or her children, lack anything and she is being selfish. She claims they own their home and car and that he works. Seriously, what more can the husband give? I pity the man being married to that!
scriptural wisdom

Chicago, IL

#6 Mar 20, 2013
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.'

1 Timothy 6:10 'For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.'

Psalm 127:3 'Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.'
my husband

Valparaiso, IN

#7 Mar 20, 2013
My husband never wanted me to work. He had a very good job and this was back in the day. He provided everything for me/open check book/credit cards/ and I was happy as a stay at home mom. One day he decided I needed a paycheck too and every Friday he gave me a 100.00 check. This was in the 70's and 80's. I thought it was strange and had no need for the money but I took it and started saving it. Now he is retired and he does not pay me anymore. lol But my/our savings has come in handy. We have had some nice vacations that we probably would not have taken. We /I was very lucky!!!
read this

Connersville, IN

#8 Mar 20, 2013
DDC

United States

#9 Mar 20, 2013
To the OP, put your price on here, by the week, month, or year. I am sure your husband can find better ways to spend his money and that includes in the bedroom. Your teenagerand middle schooler can do a decent enough job to help out around the house. Teenager can babysit after school until parents get home or day care. Put you back to work. The work you would do around the house would be your share for living there, health insurance and food/clothes. Now if roles were reversed, how long you going to let the father do what you are asking? How much are you going to pay him? Knowing he will be doing extra work in the yard, repair of equipment.
Helena

Zanesville, IN

#10 Mar 20, 2013
I can't imagine staying home everyday with children, and housework, and cooking every night! I'm definitely cut from a different mold. Lol. I'm married, work full time and chose not to have children. Our lives are polar opposites!
Sounds as if you feel unappreciated? You need some "me" time. Maybe a girls night out or girls trip to just get away? Kudos to you and I wish you the best!
pick your title

AOL

#11 Mar 20, 2013
hooker/nannies worry about getting paid. spouse/parents do it for love.
Mom of 3 wife of 1

Wakarusa, IN

#12 Mar 20, 2013
read this wrote:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/je nnagoudreau/2011/05/02/why-sta y-at-home-moms-should-earn-a-1 15000-salary/
Thank you for this article. Interesting too.
interesting

Columbus, IN

#13 Mar 21, 2013
Mom of 3 wife of 1 wrote:
Please allow me to explain.
I am a full time mother of 3 children. One teen, one middle school and one 2 year old. We started our family late as we had goals to pay off our home and one car prior to having children. I stopped working to raise my children. My question is about what I would earn at the present dedicated position I hold now. I clean house, do all the laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep, provide transportation to and from doctor appointments, pay all the bills by check and provide pet care and transportation to and from the vet. I am responsible for ensuring kids are well groomed, including appropriate clothing and washing dishes. My husband and I have a great sex life and as often as we can find the time. I always keep my hair,clothes and make up nice.
I'm not sure any of this is appreciated as much as I would like to hear. I wonder sometimes how much an outside employer would pay for my salary. Of course not the sex part. lol
The way I see it you're very ungrateful. Do you know how many mothers would love to stay home like you do??
2 way street

Chicago, IL

#14 Mar 21, 2013
We work our asses off, i lik ,u blo, happily ever after. quit yer bitchin, honey!
hey

Connersville, IN

#15 Mar 21, 2013
Helena wrote:
I can't imagine staying home everyday with children, and housework, and cooking every night! I'm definitely cut from a different mold. Lol. I'm married, work full time and chose not to have children. Our lives are polar opposites!
Sounds as if you feel unappreciated? You need some "me" time. Maybe a girls night out or girls trip to just get away? Kudos to you and I wish you the best!
I am also getting a vibe that she may feel unappreciated. Most of you peeps see it as whining and being selfish. Do all of you that had these comments have relationships with children involved? It is hard to find me or man/woman time when running a household and raising children. Being a stay at home mom IS a tuff job. It is a priceless job too! Everyone needs some "me" time. That is not selfish. We all need a break every now and then. Sounds like she may feel that her husband isn't paying enough attention to her even though she's trying to do everthing a hubby would want. I say make some arrangements for the kiddos to go to the grandparents or something. Have a date night with the hubby. Maybe even spend a night in a hotel. Do some things to spice things up! I'm sure he'll appreciate you! wink wink :)
hey

Connersville, IN

#16 Mar 21, 2013
Also, make it a point to have date nights at least once or twice a month!
Tata

Indianapolis, IN

#17 Mar 21, 2013
Count your blessings that you are able to stay home. Your watching your children grow up and you are doing the things many of us working mothers would love to be able to do for our familys. Enjoy your life. What you are earning cannot be replaced with a paycheck.
Just sayin

Elm Grove, WI

#18 Mar 22, 2013
l wouldnt trade staying home with my kids for anything in the world,let alone bitch because i dont get paid for it! I see it as my hubby works to pay the bills,he keeps us in a nice home, cars and trucks, never denys me anything i want or the kids want.why would you expect him to pay you if he keeps you in a home and car and he buys you the nice outfits and make up, and he gets your kids the things they need..how on earth can you complain? Some couples that have kids dont get to spend time with them because they both have to work to just pay bills!
Be greatful!
Happily Single

Lakeland, FL

#19 Mar 22, 2013
I had a wife once who thought a lot like you. She is now a divorced mother of three who has to work and never has time to be at home anymore. Quit bitchin or you just may see what it's like on the other side!
PeterLemonjello

Francesville, IN

#20 Mar 22, 2013
Whose children are they ?

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