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curious

United States

#1 Dec 18, 2012
Why do men cheat. When they are in a long term marriage. And seem to have everything, that should make anyone happy. No marriage problems, no money or job problems. I just don't get it.
TheReality

Lexington, KY

#2 Dec 18, 2012
If you do not take care of your man, someone else will.

You state, "in a long term marriage" as opposed to what, a short term marriage? Do people go into marriages saying they are only going to be married for 3 years(well maybe, in this screwed up society). I see what you are saying, however, you seem to want to blame the man. Why? Have you looked in the mirror lately? How do you know it is entirely his fault? It takes two to make it work. Go reassess the situation and see what you find. Just look inward this time a little more than you did before you posted.
hey

United States

#3 Dec 18, 2012
Why do people always get on here and ask this? It's been discussed a hundred times! Geez. It's bc men need something new and different! Heck to most men...it doesn't matter how much they get it at home, they will still take the chance to enjoy it with someone new. Why? Bc it's someone new! Period. It's new and exciting. It's not the same old body and hole he has had for years. That's just how guys are made. Nothing u can do. It's in our genes to wanna breed and have sex. It's fun and exciting to experience new people. Same reason married guys to to strip clubs... Even if they don't cheat. It's to see something new. Doesn't matter how happy u women try to make him. That has nothing to do with it
To curious

United States

#4 Dec 18, 2012
I'm sure that you have blamed yourself. I was also in a situation where everything seemed great. Until he decided that it wasn't enough. All i did was look for reason for it to be my fault. We decided to try to work things out. That probable isn't the choice for everybody but it worked for us. It took a lot of time but we finally figured out that we had just grown apart. It's turned out to be a real eye opener for both of us. And hopefully we never have to go through anything like that again.
I got this

United States

#5 Dec 18, 2012
curious wrote:
Why do men cheat. When they are in a long term marriage. And seem to have everything, that should make anyone happy. No marriage problems, no money or job problems. I just don't get it.
It's because they think they're entitled to best of everything! Until they lose it, they don't get it. They don't really like to commit because "what if something better comes along?" And they definitely deserve better. Because they're MEN! Or so they think..... They like to keep it new & exciting even if they're pretty lame themselves ;(
TheReality

Lexington, KY

#6 Dec 18, 2012
Or maybe, humans are not as monogomous as others would like us to be. or wish us to be. Or what religion tells us to be. Maybe it is just primal instincts.
Stacey

Lexington, KY

#7 Dec 18, 2012
TheReality wrote:
Or maybe, humans are not as monogomous as others would like us to be. or wish us to be. Or what religion tells us to be. Maybe it is just primal instincts.
Then let's either be strong enough to not act on those instincts or not get married.
A Different View

United States

#8 Dec 18, 2012
I don't think one should have to cheat,if things get to be the same old same old then spouses should be able to talk about it and discuss what they can do to spice up their sex lives even if that means inviting someone else into their bedroom with them wether it be another women,man or couple sometimes it is fun to enjoy sexual relations with others while the one you love is right there beside you giving one another pleasure while others also give you both pleasure. Women are the same as men they get bored with the same thing all the time and think about having another man inside them just to have a little strang and there is nothing wrong with that. So before it gets to the cheating or if you have a feeling your spouse may be thinking of stepping out on you talk about it and share each others fantasies and enjoy them together and forget about the arguing and jealousy and enjoy a wild sexy time together. You can enjoy sex with others but still have only love for your mate.
dumb

Lexington, KY

#9 Dec 18, 2012
TheReality wrote:
If you do not take care of your man, someone else will.
You state, "in a long term marriage" as opposed to what, a short term marriage? Do people go into marriages saying they are only going to be married for 3 years(well maybe, in this screwed up society). I see what you are saying, however, you seem to want to blame the man. Why? Have you looked in the mirror lately? How do you know it is entirely his fault? It takes two to make it work. Go reassess the situation and see what you find. Just look inward this time a little more than you did before you posted.
F* c k him. I'm gettin' mine.
lol

Lexington, KY

#10 Dec 18, 2012
dumb wrote:
<quoted text>F* c k him. I'm gettin' mine.
Exactly! Nothing wrong with getting your own fun. Your other doesn't need to know every single thing you did that day.
Pooper

Lawrenceburg, KY

#11 Dec 19, 2012
Just cause your favorite food is pizza, doesn't mean you want it everyday of the week.
lol

United States

#12 Dec 19, 2012
Pooper wrote:
Just cause your favorite food is pizza, doesn't mean you want it everyday of the week.
Exactly
Curious

Stanton, KY

#13 Dec 19, 2012
So just to get a little something different, it's worth losing everything you have ever wanted???
lol

United States

#14 Dec 19, 2012
Curious wrote:
So just to get a little something different, it's worth losing everything you have ever wanted???
Well only the idiots. The smart ones like me don't get caught
TheReality

Lexington, KY

#15 Dec 19, 2012
Stacey wrote:
<quoted text>
Then let's either be strong enough to not act on those instincts or not get married.
The not getting married sounds like the best option.
Stacey

Lexington, KY

#16 Dec 22, 2012
TheReality wrote:
<quoted text>
The not getting married sounds like the best option.
I agree.
also too curious 2

United States

#17 Dec 22, 2012
Don't get married...it's a trap
Curious

United States

#18 Dec 22, 2012
It doesn't have to be horrible. Up until this incident I honestly thought that marriage was awesome.
Well

Lexington, KY

#19 Dec 22, 2012
Cheaters (men or women) need to look at themselves most the time. Lots of times there's a faithful spouse that will be destroyed by your selfish actions. If you have kids and cheat, you're just teaching them to be a lowlife like yourself. Your unhappiness for whatever reason is a plague to everyone around you. Your cheating may cause valid suspicions that creates more tension in the home. Get counseling or get out. Cheating because you're not happy, instead of making a real effort to save you're family, makes you a sorry piece of trash.

Since: Dec 12

Richmond, KY

#20 Dec 31, 2012
hey wrote:
Why do people always get on here and ask this? It's been discussed a hundred times! Geez. It's bc men need something new and different! Heck to most men...it doesn't matter how much they get it at home, they will still take the chance to enjoy it with someone new. Why? Bc it's someone new! Period. It's new and exciting. It's not the same old body and hole he has had for years. That's just how guys are made. Nothing u can do. It's in our genes to wanna breed and have sex. It's fun and exciting to experience new people. Same reason married guys to to strip clubs... Even if they don't cheat. It's to see something new. Doesn't matter how happy u women try to make him. That has nothing to do with it
I totally agree with you on that!It took me a long time to realize this, but men can love their wife and family with everything they have but they still want something else.

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