does he want to marry me?

does he want to marry me?

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wondering

Tucker, GA

#1 Feb 2, 2013
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We have a daughter together. Over the years we have never had the money or time to think about a wedding. He keeps saying that when this or that happens then we'll "talk about it". But that talk has never came. Why?
Baby

Sweet Valley, PA

#2 Feb 2, 2013
wondering wrote:
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We have a daughter together. Over the years we have never had the money or time to think about a wedding. He keeps saying that when this or that happens then we'll "talk about it". But that talk has never came. Why?
DO YOU LOVE HIM ??? If he treats u and ur daughter good on Valintes day get down or ur knee and ask him to marry u
wondering

Tucker, GA

#3 Feb 2, 2013
Baby wrote:
<quoted text>
DO YOU LOVE HIM ??? If he treats u and ur daughter good on Valintes day get down or ur knee and ask him to marry u
yes, I love him more than anything, and he treats us very well. I have another daughter from a previous marriage and he calls her his. Im just afraid that he's content in the situation that were in and don't want to move on to the next level. Im afraid to bring it up too much for fear of pressuring him.
Hate to say it

Owensboro, KY

#4 Feb 2, 2013
But in four years you've had the time and money. You can go to the courthouse to get married. This has happened to friends of mine and any excuse like we don't have time, I want a big wedding and can't afford it, Etc. are just excuses. Also, I think it's strange he calls your daughter his. Sounds a little controlling to me.
NOT Dr Phil

Hamilton, OH

#5 Feb 2, 2013
Why buy the cow when ya can get the milk for free. Ya dig?
wondering

Tucker, GA

#6 Feb 2, 2013
Hate to say it wrote:
But in four years you've had the time and money. You can go to the courthouse to get married. This has happened to friends of mine and any excuse like we don't have time, I want a big wedding and can't afford it, Etc. are just excuses. Also, I think it's strange he calls your daughter his. Sounds a little controlling to me.
He calls he his because he's helped me raise her since she was 2. She does go to her fathers house and has a great relationship with both of them. But I think your right about getting married. It only costs $50 to get your marriage license. Maybe I should suggest we just do that and see what happens...
wondering

Tucker, GA

#7 Feb 2, 2013
NOT Dr Phil wrote:
Why buy the cow when ya can get the milk for free. Ya dig?
how can I eliminate the free milk?
NOT Dr Phil

Hamilton, OH

#8 Feb 2, 2013
wondering wrote:
<quoted text>how can I eliminate the free milk?
Dont cut off the sex. Or maybe do it. I just hope he wont cheat on You if tou cut him off....

But Seriously tell him you're in THAT point of your life where you're ready for the next level. Ask him if he wants to come along or leave him behind. That being married to him means a lot to you.
wondering

Tucker, GA

#9 Feb 2, 2013
I guess im most afraid that he loves his daughter so much that he would be willing to do anything not to break up the family. How do I know if he's just with me for the kids?

Since: Jan 13

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#10 Feb 2, 2013
You are a family. Once you had a child together the idea of just you and him was lost.

Doesn't mean he does not love you with all his heart,it just means that what was once two has become four in your case.
well well

Henderson, KY

#11 Feb 2, 2013
Hate to say it wrote:
But in four years you've had the time and money. You can go to the courthouse to get married. This has happened to friends of mine and any excuse like we don't have time, I want a big wedding and can't afford it, Etc. are just excuses. Also, I think it's strange he calls your daughter his. Sounds a little controlling to me.
He loves the child like his own, stupid.
stop stalling

Henderson, KY

#12 Feb 2, 2013
NOT Dr Phil wrote:
<quoted text>
Dont cut off the sex. Or maybe do it. I just hope he wont cheat on You if tou cut him off....
But Seriously tell him you're in THAT point of your life where you're ready for the next level. Ask him if he wants to come along or leave him behind. That being married to him means a lot to you.
The next level? They've been on the next level since she became pregnant. Get married ALREADY!
wondering

Tucker, GA

#13 Feb 2, 2013
Hopefully he will see it the same way...
Hate to say it

Owensboro, KY

#14 Feb 2, 2013
well well wrote:
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He loves the child like his own, stupid.
Wow. Hate to to you but I'm definately not stupid. If they're not married its not his daughter, it's not his step-daughter, it's his gifriends daughter. He should tell it like it is. If he wants the to daughter to be his so much, marry the mom. I'm sure if she tells him she's happy with going to the courthouse his response will be her answer. I know two people in similar situations ( just without kids). It's not a fun place to be but you really have to know where he stands.

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