Whipping 4 year old with belt/is that abuse?

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No help from CPS

Lexington, KY

#1 Feb 7, 2012
It has come to my attention that a young family member is threatening to hit her 4 year old child with a belt as discipline. She screamed so much at the child to stand up and pull his pants down that he was trembling. In my opinion this is abuse. This mother was not like this at all until she met a new boyfriend who insists that whipping a child makes them strong. And is good for them. A report was made to child protective services but nothing seems to be happening. Is this form of discipline ok? I don't think so. What is your opinion?
what

Washington, DC

#2 Feb 7, 2012
No help from CPS wrote:
It has come to my attention that a young family member is threatening to hit her 4 year old child with a belt as discipline. She screamed so much at the child to stand up and pull his pants down that he was trembling. In my opinion this is abuse. This mother was not like this at all until she met a new boyfriend who insists that whipping a child makes them strong. And is good for them. A report was made to child protective services but nothing seems to be happening. Is this form of discipline ok? I don't think so. What is your opinion?
of course it's ok! If us adults can get it when we were kids, there's no reason why these kids these days can't! All these softy patents and their damn time out discipline. That's ridiculous. When I was a kid, if all I has to do for being bad was sit in a chair for 10 min, well big deal! Lol I would have kept on doing it. Time out is not punishment or disciple. Parents can discipline their kids how they want as long as they aren't just beating them for no reason
Bad

Lexington, KY

#3 Feb 7, 2012
It's abuse. It's sad how many children are abused to death by the boyfriend and mom. Sadists all of them.
tom

Lexington, KY

#4 Feb 7, 2012
Agreed!!! Its completly fine and not is not illegal! Even schools here in KY allow corporal punishment but none of them enforce it, but It is legal. the lack of discipline from parents its a big reason why there so many kids on drugs and on the path to jail. corporal punishment its ok as long as its not excessive
Dcbs

Berea, KY

#5 Feb 7, 2012
Its not abuse unless they are hitting the kid in the face or something. It is perfectly legal to dicipline your child as you see fit as long as it is not hard enough to leave a bruise.
Honestly

Louisville, KY

#6 Feb 7, 2012
It can be abuse if it's done in an abusive way. Honestly a 4 year old doesn't even require a belt. If you can't convey the needed discipline with your hand at that age, you're a wuss or a hot head. As kids get older they don't fear the hand as much and then a belt is a more effective tool.

If the child has deep bruises from beatings then yes it's prolly abuse. At the same time I can say that some children will act like you're abusing them because they get a standard ass busting.
well

Louisville, KY

#7 Feb 7, 2012
Um yes that's abuse....very sad. This kid is obviously going to have a serious time dealing with future issues...
Kathy

Sharpsburg, KY

#8 Feb 7, 2012
I don't agree with whipping a child that young with a belt, and screaming at the child is no way to discipline him either. As long as the whipping is done reasonably and the child isn't injured, it may help him to behave better. Perhaps a few smacks on the behind with your hand will do, firm smacks but not hard blows. When it comes to small children, it is easier to hurt them than some people might think, especially when someone is really angry and/or impatient. As a mother, I would prefer to discipline my child without any interferrence from a boyfriend.
water dowser

United States

#9 Feb 7, 2012
An individual can't gadge how hard they are hitting when using anything other than a hand. Yes, it is abuse.
Dateline bound

Evansville, IN

#10 Feb 7, 2012
Oh I don't know I'm an adult and if someone hurts me physically I'm not gonna react very well.No human ever ever benefits by physical abuse.Hope this comes across the officials and quick because you have already harmed a child or you certainley wouldn't be trying to justify your actions on topix.Belts weren't made for striking anyone with!!!!!!!!!!
SpareTheRod

Englewood, CO

#11 Feb 7, 2012
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
This is why our BD schools are overflowing and SuperNanny reality tv is actually popular. Everyone is unsure about the 'acceptable' way to rear their kids. Who gives a shit if someone else thinks you shouldn't swat your disobedient smart mouthed 5 year old for the temper tantrum thrown at Kroger over candy?
There's a big difference between discipline and abuse. Most parent's these days have completely forgotten good ole fashioned 'discipline' and are too worried about what other people might think.
Spank those kids, they will thank you one day.
what

Bethel, OH

#12 Feb 7, 2012
Yes, its abuse
SpareTheRod

Englewood, CO

#13 Feb 8, 2012
what wrote:
Yes, its abuse
You had pansy ass 'timeouts' growing up, didntcha? Using timeout as a 'punishment' is pointless, useless, and the easy way out. What you people fail to realize is the HUGE divide between raising a child and abusing your child. If people don't stop wringing their hands over 'abuse' and start whipping when warranted, we are going to end up with a world full of spoiled and self centered brats with parents too dumb to realize why.
Get with the program

Evansville, IN

#14 Feb 8, 2012
We have a world full of self destructive children that see violence as being acceptable in any manner right down to cutting themselves.Step out of this time capsule we as adults have gotten stuck in!!!!!!!!!!I hope no child ever has to go to school bruised or hurting because this generation as far as rearing children need no encouragement.Wonder if Casey Anthony believes in hitting or causing pain to a child?Evidently it has gotten so out of hand hell its o.k. to just gid rid of them.Happens every second of every day to our children.God help our children today this world and what everyone thinks may be the answer is only feuling the fire.
Get with the program

Evansville, IN

#15 Feb 8, 2012
Im sorry thats fueling the fire.

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Since: Dec 07

Atlanta

#16 Feb 8, 2012
SpareTheRod wrote:
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
This is why our BD schools are overflowing and SuperNanny reality tv is actually popular. Everyone is unsure about the 'acceptable' way to rear their kids. Who gives a shit if someone else thinks you shouldn't swat your disobedient smart mouthed 5 year old for the temper tantrum thrown at Kroger over candy?
There's a big difference between discipline and abuse. Most parent's these days have completely forgotten good ole fashioned 'discipline' and are too worried about what other people might think.
Spank those kids, they will thank you one day.
Whats funny is you can whip a 4yo child for doing something bad, but do that to an adult and it is called assault and battery. When are the backward rejects gonna realize there is no reason to hit a child with a belt.
well

Lexington, KY

#17 Feb 8, 2012
MSO4 wrote:
<quoted text>Whats funny is you can whip a 4yo child for doing something bad, but do that to an adult and it is called assault and battery. When are the backward rejects gonna realize there is no reason to hit a child with a belt.
+1 thank you, so true.
okie

Edmond, OK

#18 Feb 8, 2012
I agree that it is abuse, but the law doesn't exactly. Try educating the mother...research spanking and it's true effects on young children.
nope

Berea, KY

#19 Feb 8, 2012
No its not abuse at all. Kids need their butt whipped. Its good for em.
Concerned

Hillsborough, NC

#20 Feb 8, 2012
This form of punishment leans more towards mental than physical abuse but abuse nevertheless, especially a 4 year old, especially with the pants down, that's just dumb.

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