Ladys Thoughts on dating a guy in a w...

Ladys Thoughts on dating a guy in a wheelchair?

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#1 Jan 5, 2009
What do you think, why or why not?
Crack Rabbit

Goldston, NC

#2 Jan 6, 2009
I say go for it!!!...Just don't expect the same type of relationship you would have with a guy that's not in a wheelchair....I'm not saying it would be less....It would just be different....There are pro's and con's I'm sure...for example....There probably won't be much Hanky-Panky....but you won't have to worry about getting beat up on....you can turn his wheelchair over if he gets mean....he will never be able to change a light bulb....If you are in the woods....and a bear gets after you...you will be able to get away....while his ass gets eaten....if you take him shopping at walmart....you won't need a shopping cart....just push him around...while he holds the shit....If your car should break down....you both could ride his wheelchair to the nearest gas station....I'm sure there are plenty more reasons to date...or not date....but you should look past the wheelchair....and see the man.....
Nicci Obama

Fairborn, OH

#3 Jan 6, 2009
Da Boss Hoss wrote:
What do you think, why or why not?
Umm...I'm unsure. He would have to be fine as hell..couldn't be just anyone...and that goes for any guy whether he is in a wheelchair or walking.

A family member is currently seeing a guy in a wheelchair. They have sex, he drives a car, and he can take a bath and pee on his own without any assistance.
Nicci Obama

Fairborn, OH

#4 Jan 6, 2009
Crack Rabbit,

I have a question for you. Email me: [email protected]
Crack Rabbit

Goldston, NC

#5 Jan 6, 2009
Nicci Obama wrote:
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Umm...I'm unsure. He would have to be fine as hell..couldn't be just anyone...and that goes for any guy whether he is in a wheelchair or walking.
A family member is currently seeing a guy in a wheelchair. They have sex, he drives a car, and he can take a bath and pee on his own without any assistance.
Damn!!!...he gets sex in a wheelchair???...maybe I should invest in one of them wheelchair thingys...he pees on his own???...his own what???...I can pee on my own...my own shoes...hell...if i have company....I'll pee on thier shoes too....no sence in just me having wet shoes......

Since: Dec 08

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#6 Jan 6, 2009
Yea sex is'nt a problem, lol u always have a chair to f in.
Nicci Obama

Fairborn, OH

#7 Jan 6, 2009
..but he can get out of his chair for sex.
go Somerset

Lexington, KY

#8 Jan 6, 2009
Sick! Anyone who would make light of someone unfortunate enough to not be able to walk and have to use a w/c for mobility God help you. This could happen to anyone and then what? Oh well, maybe you`ll be fortunate enogh to never know but I do.

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#9 Jan 7, 2009
I'm in one myself
Carrot for Crack Rabbit

Louisville, KY

#10 Jan 7, 2009
Crack Rabbit, you are a mess. I love your posts. Is there anything you don't find humor in?
Wheels

United States

#11 Jan 7, 2009
Hey there I've had many FINE looking women . Not one complaintfrom them about being a gimp . Been in a chair one for 26 years and had many many many happy ladie friends. Also a beauitful wife !!

Crack Rabbit- You one crazy Dude!
Crack Rabbit

Goldston, NC

#12 Jan 7, 2009
go Somerset wrote:
Sick! Anyone who would make light of someone unfortunate enough to not be able to walk and have to use a w/c for mobility God help you. This could happen to anyone and then what? Oh well, maybe you`ll be fortunate enogh to never know but I do.
I'm not making light of them....actually....I don't even know what the hell making light means....I just don't see those people that are in a wheelchair...as a "cripple"....to the Rabbit...everyone is Equal....hell...I got into a fight once with a dude in a wheelchair....he kicked the living shit out of me....and to make matters worse....after he whopped my ass...he Ran over me!!!....twice!!!....we became the best of friends....he invites me to his house...and I invite him to my house....and then I get him drunk....and convince him...that he can jump eight trash cans with his wheelchair....which he almost does....If he ever jumps those eight cans...I'm gonna take him on a trip to the bahamas....he loves the bahamas....he once told me...that the worst thing someone could do to him...was to feel sorry for him....he said it makes him feel Incompitent....and I refuse to believe that my friend....and every other person in a wheelchair is less of a man than I am....now I'm gonna get another Beer....I'll be right back....

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#13 Jan 8, 2009
Ur the man crack, wish there were more people that felt the same as u
Joining in

Covington, KY

#14 Jan 11, 2009
A wheel chair is a challenge not an obstacle.

Learning to adapt would eventually come naturally.

Personality problems and other serious problems are not adaptable.
smiley

Davenport, IA

#15 May 23, 2009
I have been dating a guy in a wheelchair for over a year now. He is the greatest guy I have ever known. He hadn't always been in a wheelchair, but was bound to one after an accident that occurred when he was a teenager. When I met him, he had already been in a chair for 10 years. We started as friends, but it quickly escalated unexpectedly. I had been in my fair share of relationships in which (to me) all of them combined do not even come close to being half the man he is. No man has ever made me feel more special, or beautiful in my life and I am an attractive girl. He has the best outlook on life, he is hilarious, attractive, and with his C5/C6 paralysis, he can do pretty much anything he wants if he puts his mind to it. Sure, he has his limitations, but you work around them. If you can accept them, you can find things that you can do together. We enjoy wine tasting, dining experiences, movies, concerts, poker (where we met) cooking, gardening, playing pool, road trips, singing, party's... we do so much together. I enjoy the fact that he loves life. He has many friends because of this. If it weren't for his optimistic personality, I am certain we would not be together. He has a great sense of humor... which made me getting to know him a lot more comfortable. I have learned so much about him, his condition and about loving life. If you find someone who enjoys life to the fullest, I don't think a wheelchair should stop you from getting to know them. I don't even see my boyfriends chair anymore. A lot of people had doubts when I first starting dating him, they weren't sure I could handle it. They wanted me to be happy. But, I am. The happiest I have been my whole life. To those who can't see past the chair, they aren't worth knowing in the first place. Don't be intimidated by the wheelchair. Ask questions... This is one of the first things my boyfriend told me. He said he would rather I ask questions then sit and wonder.

I believe there is someone out there for everyone.=)
im from menifee

London, KY

#16 May 24, 2009
smiley wrote:
I have been dating a guy in a wheelchair for over a year now. He is the greatest guy I have ever known. He hadn't always been in a wheelchair, but was bound to one after an accident that occurred when he was a teenager. When I met him, he had already been in a chair for 10 years. We started as friends, but it quickly escalated unexpectedly. I had been in my fair share of relationships in which (to me) all of them combined do not even come close to being half the man he is. No man has ever made me feel more special, or beautiful in my life and I am an attractive girl. He has the best outlook on life, he is hilarious, attractive, and with his C5/C6 paralysis, he can do pretty much anything he wants if he puts his mind to it. Sure, he has his limitations, but you work around them. If you can accept them, you can find things that you can do together. We enjoy wine tasting, dining experiences, movies, concerts, poker (where we met) cooking, gardening, playing pool, road trips, singing, party's... we do so much together. I enjoy the fact that he loves life. He has many friends because of this. If it weren't for his optimistic personality, I am certain we would not be together. He has a great sense of humor... which made me getting to know him a lot more comfortable. I have learned so much about him, his condition and about loving life. If you find someone who enjoys life to the fullest, I don't think a wheelchair should stop you from getting to know them. I don't even see my boyfriends chair anymore. A lot of people had doubts when I first starting dating him, they weren't sure I could handle it. They wanted me to be happy. But, I am. The happiest I have been my whole life. To those who can't see past the chair, they aren't worth knowing in the first place. Don't be intimidated by the wheelchair. Ask questions... This is one of the first things my boyfriend told me. He said he would rather I ask questions then sit and wonder.
I believe there is someone out there for everyone.=)
AMEN! I think this should go for anything, whether it be a wheelchair, diabetes, cancer etc. Look past the physical problems people have and see what you might discover, it may surprise you.I am so glad you were able to do this. I am very happy for you!
Rachel

UK

#17 Nov 13, 2009
Hey, I felt that I had to comment as it's great to read a comment from someone who feels the same as me. I have recently met a guy who is in a wheelchair and I completely agree with what you say. My guy had an awful accident with a lorry when cycling when he was 19 (16 years ago) that put him in his chair so I obviously didn't know him before this but I can honestly say that I have never felt this way about anyone before (and I've been out with a lot of guys and get chatted up a lot!), he is the most gorgeous guy both inside and outside that I've ever met and is so positive and happy, I don't know him that well yet but I don't think that his chair will stop him doing anything, he loves driving and going away at weekends and doing activities which I'm hoping we will do a lot of. The first thing I noticed when I met him was how attractive he was not the fact he was in a chair and I don't think I've ever been happier. I guess there may be obstacles which we may come up against and it's a very new experience for me but he makes me appreciate life so much more because of his optimism and outlook and I can honestly say the physical side of things may be different but I'm certainly not complaining on that front either as he is the most unselfish man I've ever met. It most definitely is the person that counts and if people can't see past a disability then they're extremely shallow and not worth knowing!
Xyxyxy

United States

#18 Nov 17, 2009
I have been flirting back and fourth with this guy for a while now. He can walk a little with his cruches, but mostly he is in a wheelchair. He is the funniest, sweetest, hottest and most posotive guy and i sure am attracted to him. I'll go out with him If asked me. If u find some one attractive and adorable, i can't see why a wheelchair would matter.
Althea

UK

#19 Jan 24, 2010
Emotional and mental issues are FAR worse disabilities than someone using a wheelchair. I dated a guy once who had to have back surgery. There was a risk that this could have left him paralysed, incontinent and unable to get an erection. He asked me how I would feel if that happened and I knew that it wouldnt make any difference at all. However, this guy also had emotional issues, possibly a personality disorder ( I suspected Narcissistic PD), and could swing from being Mr Wonderful to Mr Nightmare in a heartbeat. That was ultimately what destroyed the relationship. I would have accepted any physical disability, but I needed stability, communication and for him to be consistant. The fact that he was incapable of that was FAR worse than the thought of him in a wheelchair. There are many 'disabled' people out there, its just not always visible.
Duke rules

United States

#21 Jan 26, 2010
I see absoluteley no problem with it. Just because someone is in a wheelchair doesn't make them ugly. They obviously can't help the fact that they are in a wheelchair. As long as he has a good personality, good natured, and most importantly, if he is good to you, then I say go for it!!!!

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