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Concerned mother

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#81
Sep 25, 2013
 
This is especially to joanna50 - thanks for understanding that some people, like me, need to vent and that writing is therapeutic. I just vented several paragraphs on here about this same topic and thought it posted, but it didn't. Oh, well - that happens sometimes. The latest concerning my daughter is that she is attending a foster parenting training class starting once a week this week for the next five weeks and her boyfriend is going to attend the classes along with her. I guess she has made up her mind about her future - I guess she has made up her mind about him being in her future since he is evidently going to co foster parent along with her. I don't know why he wants to do this, since he has kids of his own that he needs to spend time with. I'll write more later - my daughter is coming home on lunch break right now.

Since: Jan 13

Lexington, KY

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#82
Sep 25, 2013
 
Concerned mother wrote:
This is especially to joanna50 - thanks for understanding that some people, like me, need to vent and that writing is therapeutic. I just vented several paragraphs on here about this same topic and thought it posted, but it didn't. Oh, well - that happens sometimes. The latest concerning my daughter is that she is attending a foster parenting training class starting once a week this week for the next five weeks and her boyfriend is going to attend the classes along with her. I guess she has made up her mind about her future - I guess she has made up her mind about him being in her future since he is evidently going to co foster parent along with her. I don't know why he wants to do this, since he has kids of his own that he needs to spend time with. I'll write more later - my daughter is coming home on lunch break right now.
Concentrate on your happiness first, things will work out the way the are intended.
Concerned mother

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#83
Sep 26, 2013
 
joanna50 wrote:
<quoted text>Concentrate on your happiness first, things will work out the way the are intended.
A lot of people believe that things work out in life the way they are supposed to and that there is a plan for their life. I'd like to believe this, but I'm not sure I do. I am trying to be happy today - even if I only have happiness just for today. I got out of the house today and drove 30 miles into town and plan to have lunch at a good restaurant. I'm at the library now as I write this.

I've said so much on here that there is really not much left to say - that may be a good thing. I'm getting things talked (or typed) out of my system. I must recite the Serenity Prayer to myself - "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference". Just for today I will live for this day only. I've been to a couple of 12 step programs before like Overeater's Anonymous and a group of divorced women trying to come to terms with their divorce that used the 12 step program.(I can't give the name of the group as it is confidential.) Maybe I should get back into a 12 step program. At least I am getting some ideas now and as always, thank you for helping me along my way.

Since: Jan 13

Lexington, KY

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#84
Sep 26, 2013
 
Concerned mother wrote:
<quoted text>A lot of people believe that things work out in life the way they are supposed to and that there is a plan for their life. I'd like to believe this, but I'm not sure I do. I am trying to be happy today - even if I only have happiness just for today. I got out of the house today and drove 30 miles into town and plan to have lunch at a good restaurant. I'm at the library now as I write this.
I've said so much on here that there is really not much left to say - that may be a good thing. I'm getting things talked (or typed) out of my system. I must recite the Serenity Prayer to myself - "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference". Just for today I will live for this day only. I've been to a couple of 12 step programs before like Overeater's Anonymous and a group of divorced women trying to come to terms with their divorce that used the 12 step program.(I can't give the name of the group as it is confidential.) Maybe I should get back into a 12 step program. At least I am getting some ideas now and as always, thank you for helping me along my way.
Congratulations on taking that step and we only have today so your well on your way. If you think a 12 step program will help by all means do that, I go to one as well and they are helpful. If ever you want to register to topix feel free to send me a message if you want to vent, etc. Best Wishes
Concerned mother

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Sep 27, 2013
 
joanna50 wrote:
<quoted text>Congratulations on taking that step and we only have today so your well on your way. If you think a 12 step program will help by all means do that, I go to one as well and they are helpful. If ever you want to register to topix feel free to send me a message if you want to vent, etc. Best Wishes
Nice to hear from you again - I've just got to keep that Serenity prayer in mind. I also have another daughter who is thirty that lives in another state. I'm not sure I've mentioned her yet because I've rattled on so much on here and don't want to take the time to reread today. I cm concerned about her too. She has never been married and has no children. She still has some years ahead that she can meet someone and have children. She probably would have been married by now, but she had a boyfriend she went with for 4 years that got killed in an automobile wreck - that was 6 or 7 years ago. She has a boyfriend now that she has seen for over a year. I've never met him - have just seen his pictures. My concerns with this boyfriend is that he is only 21 years old and the age difference between she and he is nearly ten years with her being the one older. Both them are struggling along financially. They don't live together and I don't know what their plans are concerning each other in the future. Maybe I should be more concerned about this daughter than my other one. I do know that this guy hasn't had a vasectomy.

I don't know what you mean when you say if I ever want to register to topix ... Let me know what you meant if you will and THANKS AGAIN!

Since: Jan 13

Lexington, KY

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Sep 27, 2013
 
Concerned mother wrote:
<quoted text>Nice to hear from you again - I've just got to keep that Serenity prayer in mind. I also have another daughter who is thirty that lives in another state. I'm not sure I've mentioned her yet because I've rattled on so much on here and don't want to take the time to reread today. I cm concerned about her too. She has never been married and has no children. She still has some years ahead that she can meet someone and have children. She probably would have been married by now, but she had a boyfriend she went with for 4 years that got killed in an automobile wreck - that was 6 or 7 years ago. She has a boyfriend now that she has seen for over a year. I've never met him - have just seen his pictures. My concerns with this boyfriend is that he is only 21 years old and the age difference between she and he is nearly ten years with her being the one older. Both them are struggling along financially. They don't live together and I don't know what their plans are concerning each other in the future. Maybe I should be more concerned about this daughter than my other one. I do know that this guy hasn't had a vasectomy.
I don't know what you mean when you say if I ever want to register to topix ... Let me know what you meant if you will and THANKS AGAIN!
Don't recall you mentioning the other daughter but once again I am going to suggest you put yourself first and worry about yourself first. I can understand being concerned truly I do but it keeps you from looking at yourself and making changes for your betterment. By registering to topix what I mean is when you go to the topix page it will ask you if you want to become a member you use your email address make a screen name and if you want put a picture with it. Notice my name will be highlighted with the penquins. that is a registered user. No difference really except by being registered AKA a member of the topix community you can Private message other users who are members.
Concerned mother

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Sep 27, 2013
 
I just may register soon. I would like for us to be kind-of like Pen Pals. I'm glad you told me about registering. I'll be back on here next - probably Monday. My grandchild has fall break all next week and I might be babysitting three or more days then. I'll talk to you next week.
Concerned mother

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#88
Sep 27, 2013
 
I meant to say I'll be back here next week - I really need to always proofread before sending a post. I get in a hurry sometimes. I guess you would have figured out what I met. I see a lot of typos and errors in other peoples' post and can usually figure them out.
Concerned mother

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Sep 27, 2013
 
Ha!Ha! Proofread and still made a mistake! LOL - I said met instead of meant. LOL!

Since: Jan 13

Lexington, KY

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Sep 27, 2013
 
Concerned mother wrote:
Ha!Ha! Proofread and still made a mistake! LOL - I said met instead of meant. LOL!
I can pretty much sound things out and understand what people mean so no worries there. Looking forward to hearing from you I am on vacation all of next week so feel free to drop me a line. Either way I work 3rd shift and have some down time where I get bored and have time to read. This can be fun.
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Oct 9, 2013
 
joanna50 wrote:
<quoted text>I can pretty much sound things out and understand what people mean so no worries there. Looking forward to hearing from you I am on vacation all of next week so feel free to drop me a line. Either way I work 3rd shift and have some down time where I get bored and have time to read. This can be fun.
Joanna50 - I haven't been on here for awhile and haven't registered to do a have one on one talks with you. I have been enjoying spending some time at the public library. The branch I go to always has computers available with no one waiting and they give you all the time you want on the computer. I can also spend hours reading newspapers and magazines. It is something that gets me out of the house and keeps me occupied. This library is in a mall. I had a nice afternoon at a restraurant here today that wasn't busy - I made some phone calls while enjoying some "wings" and a pina colada at the restaurant. Actually, it is a "Sport's bar". You can compete in a trivia game with other people in this sport's bar if you ask for a device. You don't have to worry about taking up a seat for a long time because this place isn't busy through the weekday afternoons. There is another restaurant/bar on the other end of the mall that I might try the next time I'm here. There's also a 10 movie, movie theatre in this mall. Perhaps, I'll start going to some daytime movies where the cost to see the movie is only $5.00 during the day. I guess I have found me something positive to do at last. The down side is that it costs me about $15 in gas to get here and go home because I live in the "boonies".

There are some new developments in my daughter's life. She changes her mind about that guy about every other day. He lost his job last week (which was only a temporary job in the first place). She is thinking about having him move in with her and that way as she says "She can help him and he can help her". He won't have any money to help her out with her house payment or utility bills by the time he pays his child support and other debts. I guess he can help with housework while she works. He has no real job skills or special training, no trade, no college. I think he should be making a full time job by looking for work becauee it may take a great deal of time in finding a job. The day before this guy lost his job, my daughter told me once again about her reservations about him - that he has debts, bad credit, she's not fond of his children,that she feels like he's a friend only, that HE CAN'T HAVE CHILDREN AND SHE WOULD LIKE TO HAVE ANOTHER CHILD. She said he just has too much "baggage". The very next day she is telling me she might have him move in there! I did open my mouth a littlethe next day. I said, "What about the things you said last night?" She said "Oh, I do care for him". I told her he is liable to move in and never want to move out. She said "No, he'd move out". My fear here is that they will both get comfortable with the living arrangement and they'll continue on indefinitely and that my daughter will find and have regrets in later years that she did, indeed, settle for hom. Did I tell you? He's eeven attending those foster parenting classes along with her? He's trying hard to get her obligated and get himself into her home and get himself into her heart. I doubt if he'll ever be truly in her heart - after more than a year she would know if he "were the one".
I'll get back with you another time and might get around to registering soon. I hope to hear from you soon.

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Lexington, KY

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Oct 9, 2013
 

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Glad to hear your enjoying life more. Keep focusing on yourself and your happiness things will work out the way they are supposed to.
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#93
Oct 11, 2013
 
Maybe try seeking out books from the library. I have a friend who let her daughter know just before the wedding that she shouldn't be marrying him. Did she really think she would stop loving him just because she thought she was making a mistake. It caused an estrangement between them. The experts would tell you that you have to allow them to make their mistakes. What would concern me is that the over weight will create a lot of health problems. Also why was he behind in child support. If she was truly in love with him she wouldn't have said what she said, that would be my concern.
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Oct 11, 2013
 

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Sounds like it is you with the problem. Your daughter is an adult, she may sleep with whomever she pleases. From the sounds of it, your daughter is doing alright. Butt out of her business and mind your own. This is a perfect example of what is wrong in todays society, everyone knows what is best for the other person. Take your socialist mindset somewhere else and leave others alone.
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Well said.

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