obnoxious neighbors kid

obnoxious neighbors kid

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your opinion

Ardsley, NY

#1 Dec 1, 2012
So what would you do we don't want to be rude to this kid but he's always showing up to the house uninvited and has no manors and is just down right annoying he's around 12 and I know he's probably just looking for attention but it still gets really exhausting to deal with....any suggestions?
Could

Princeton, WV

#2 Dec 1, 2012
Maybe just find him a 12yr. old girl.
your opinion

Ardsley, NY

#3 Dec 1, 2012
Hate to say it but the poor boy doesn't stand a chance to meet a girl
my2cents

Parkersburg, WV

#4 Dec 1, 2012
I've had this same issue in the past. This is what I did: I became a role model to the child. I spent time and put as much energy into the child, as I did my own. I had children this age at the time. NO it was not easy, but the child only needed love and attention. It cost me nothing, but time. Now today the child that once annoyed me is a grown adult. I took the child in, my rewards for this? She is now a mother of two, beautiful and has a great career. The best part about it is she loves me, and respects me and my husband as an important part of her life. Her children think of us as grandparents. At the end of the day I've heard people say in such cases, they are to busy or got children of their own. Truthfully yes you could look at it as if its not your child and therefore not your job. Well, we complain about our young adults these days. Take this child into your heart and it wont annoy you so much. Bless you and your family. Blessings to this annoying child that with the help from you, will grow up to become a productive citizen. Good luck.

One last thing, FAMILY is not always just those blood related.
my2cents

Parkersburg, WV

#5 Dec 1, 2012
Oh, please take the time to get to know the situation that sends this child to your home. Is it just seeking attention he don't get at home? That is a form of neglect, sad but its not against any law to just not give enough attention. It's shameful, I can't imagine my child wanting to spend time with another adult due to the fact I simply don't have time to give them. It would make me a failure as a parent. Most just don't care, ask yourself if you don't care who will? Are you sure he is not abused? I surely hope not. Sit for a chat, if the child is seeking attention he will be honest. That believe it or not is your duty. If more of us cared about ALL of the children, we would have less to complain about when these children become adults. Time cost nothing, bless you.
Sad

United States

#6 Dec 1, 2012
your opinion wrote:
So what would you do we don't want to be rude to this kid but he's always showing up to the house uninvited and has no manors and is just down right annoying he's around 12 and I know he's probably just looking for attention but it still gets really exhausting to deal with....any suggestions?
That would be manners, not "manors". Perhaps you could give this child some attention and they could teach you the proper use/meaning of basic words.
different view

Ashburn, VA

#7 Dec 1, 2012
Just tell him you don't want him there. If something where to happen you would be responsible. He could get injured or make some kind of false accusation. My Aunt started letting a ten year old girl hang around, one day she committed vandalizem with older friends after leaving my Aunt's house. The mother of the child told the police that my Aunt was caring for the girl. My Aunt had to fight to prove she wasn't babysitting the girl. It might be different since this boy is older but why risk it?
Angels on earth

United States

#8 Dec 1, 2012
my2cents wrote:
I've had this same issue in the past. This is what I did: I became a role model to the child. I spent time and put as much energy into the child, as I did my own. I had children this age at the time. NO it was not easy, but the child only needed love and attention. It cost me nothing, but time. Now today the child that once annoyed me is a grown adult. I took the child in, my rewards for this? She is now a mother of two, beautiful and has a great career. The best part about it is she loves me, and respects me and my husband as an important part of her life. Her children think of us as grandparents. At the end of the day I've heard people say in such cases, they are to busy or got children of their own. Truthfully yes you could look at it as if its not your child and therefore not your job. Well, we complain about our young adults these days. Take this child into your heart and it wont annoy you so much. Bless you and your family. Blessings to this annoying child that with the help from you, will grow up to become a productive citizen. Good luck.
One last thing, FAMILY is not always just those blood related.
Thank you for reminding us all how to be a good person. You truly are a beautiful soul.

Since: Oct 12

Princeton, WV

#9 Dec 1, 2012
my2cents wrote:
I've had this same issue in the past. This is what I did: I became a role model to the child. I spent time and put as much energy into the child, as I did my own. I had children this age at the time. NO it was not easy, but the child only needed love and attention. It cost me nothing, but time. Now today the child that once annoyed me is a grown adult. I took the child in, my rewards for this? She is now a mother of two, beautiful and has a great career. The best part about it is she loves me, and respects me and my husband as an important part of her life. Her children think of us as grandparents. At the end of the day I've heard people say in such cases, they are to busy or got children of their own. Truthfully yes you could look at it as if its not your child and therefore not your job. Well, we complain about our young adults these days. Take this child into your heart and it wont annoy you so much. Bless you and your family. Blessings to this annoying child that with the help from you, will grow up to become a productive citizen. Good luck.
One last thing, FAMILY is not always just those blood related.
I agree with her.myself I have taken in a lot of kids since 92 because they had druggie parents or drunk parents that didn't give a sh*t about them or was always to busy for them.Right today all these kids still love me to death and call me atleast 3 times a week.I would do it all over again,and would never turn a kid down.
franklinco

Camp Creek, WV

#10 Dec 1, 2012
different view wrote:
Just tell him you don't want him there. If something where to happen you would be responsible. He could get injured or make some kind of false accusation. My Aunt started letting a ten year old girl hang around, one day she committed vandalizem with older friends after leaving my Aunt's house. The mother of the child told the police that my Aunt was caring for the girl. My Aunt had to fight to prove she wasn't babysitting the girl. It might be different since this boy is older but why risk it?
I agree with the above post. You're asking for trouble allowing a kid to hang around your house. A kid can accuse you of anything. Then you would have to defend yourself. Find a nice way to tell him he can't hang at your house. Refer the child to a church group.
your opinion

Ardsley, NY

#11 Dec 1, 2012
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I do appreciate it even the bit about my misuse of words. I would love to be able to give this child the attention that he needs however, being a single parent of two and working a full time job that usually involves more overtime than what I want. Caring for other people's family members when I come home I want to give my time to my children and instill values and morals in them and give them the attention that they need so they are not this boy when they reach his age. Like I said in my original post I just don't want to hurt this child's feelings and I would go to his mother but unfortunately she doesn't speak English.
fool proof plan

Liberty, WV

#12 Dec 3, 2012
Make the child do chores, then he will never show up again
loser

Lewisburg, WV

#13 Dec 3, 2012
get him hooked on pills and have him start selling for you!
jimmy dean

United States

#14 Dec 4, 2012
my2cents wrote:
Oh, please take the time to get to know the situation that sends this child to your home. Is it just seeking attention he don't get at home? That is a form of neglect, sad but its not against any law to just not give enough attention. It's shameful, I can't imagine my child wanting to spend time with another adult due to the fact I simply don't have time to give them. It would make me a failure as a parent. Most just don't care, ask yourself if you don't care who will? Are you sure he is not abused? I surely hope not. Sit for a chat, if the child is seeking attention he will be honest. That believe it or not is your duty. If more of us cared about ALL of the children, we would have less to complain about when these children become adults. Time cost nothing, bless you.
I would say that kid is casing the place, And maybe will cut that guys throat when he is asleep & take his car!
Barney

United States

#15 Dec 5, 2012
your opinion wrote:
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I do appreciate it even the bit about my misuse of words. I would love to be able to give this child the attention that he needs however, being a single parent of two and working a full time job that usually involves more overtime than what I want. Caring for other people's family members when I come home I want to give my time to my children and instill values and morals in them and give them the attention that they need so they are not this boy when they reach his age. Like I said in my original post I just don't want to hurt this child's feelings and I would go to his mother but unfortunately she doesn't speak English.
Show him your junk, & he will leave.
That's what I use to do to opie when I wanted to get him out of the court house
my2cents

Parkersburg, WV

#16 Dec 5, 2012
different view wrote:
Just tell him you don't want him there. If something where to happen you would be responsible. He could get injured or make some kind of false accusation. My Aunt started letting a ten year old girl hang around, one day she committed vandalizem with older friends after leaving my Aunt's house. The mother of the child told the police that my Aunt was caring for the girl. My Aunt had to fight to prove she wasn't babysitting the girl. It might be different since this boy is older but why risk it?
Why risk it? Every day in this country there is children being neglected, abused or killed. One of the most common statements I've seen come from outside adults that know these children is "I thought something might be wrong, I wish I had done something about it." A loving caring adult would take the time to find out first before just tossing this child out if there was a problem.

For the person that posted.........If you don't want to take the time to show care for someone child other then your own, I pray this child wonders onto someone elses property that will care. I could NEVER push any child away without so much as a thought. The only concern you have is finding out how to rid yourself of a needy, maybe even troubled child. I just don't get that. YES there is always a risk with this situation, there is also risks if you do nothing. If you don't know the mother don't you think it odd they let their child go so often to a strangers house? My children NEVER is allowed to do this. There is so many concerns with this it makes me sick to see how many people we got in this area that don't care about children other then their own.
my2cents

Parkersburg, WV

#17 Dec 5, 2012
Pissedoffinrupert wrote:
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I agree with her.myself I have taken in a lot of kids since 92 because they had druggie parents or drunk parents that didn't give a sh*t about them or was always to busy for them.Right today all these kids still love me to death and call me atleast 3 times a week.I would do it all over again,and would never turn a kid down.
Thank you so much for everything you offered to those children. There don't seem to be many of us left. They can call me nuts if they want. I will never be one of the stone faced people on the six o'clock news saying I wish I had done something. Its sad we are starting to live in a world where people only care about themselves. Its really no wonder we got so many lost children, that grow up to be troubled adults. I see so many cases in some of the adults, that all it would have taken is for someone like this woman in this situation to care to make a difference.

for the rest of you making the nasty remarks, you must have been one of those children. These remarks or to turn your back on any child, makes you heartless. I really hope this child finds a good hearted neighbor by her when she finds the courage to figure out how to rid herself of someone elses problem.

She don't want to hurt his feelings? She just might be hurting more then that by turning her back on him. I mean think about it, he could even end up at one of the other neighbors houses that could be one of the idiots on here suggesting you make him a drug dealer or worse things I won't retype. What the hell is this world coming to? This is why I keep my children close. I wouldn't want them to come into contact with some of the people commenting on this post.

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