any gay guys in the area??

any gay guys in the area??

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justwonderin

Natural Bridge, VA

#1 Nov 7, 2011
Hello out there. I am new to the area, I moved here about 6 months ago with my dad and brother. I came from Atlanta so needless to say it has been a culture shock for me. Not in a bad way just different is all. I have to say everyone has been very nice and respectful to me and my family so far. I am 19yrs old and gay. I know that this is a smaller community with alot less diversity than I am used to but I also know that there is NO WAY that I am the only single gay guy in this town! I have noticed a few people that were gay or atleast gave off that appearance but they all seem terrified to act on it. Is it really that homophobic here?? Is it really that dangerous of a thing to be open in this area??? I have seen one person here that is openly gay and seems to be very well loved in this town. I might be wrong but I believe his name is Matthew or Matty. I cant remember his last name but I think it was Compton or Combs. He is super tall, with black hair, good build, and looks kinda like a super model. I see him everywhere I go and he is ALWAYS greeted by a million different people, like I said it seems like he is accepted here and loved by most so I just don't know why others have not followed in his footsteps. If there are any single guys out there please yell or hell for that matter if there are any gay guys or girls or friends of them give me a yell so that I can atleast try and make some friends here. And if any of you know this Matthew guy let me know if he is single :-)
closeted area

Ashburn, VA

#3 Nov 7, 2011
This place is as backward and closeted as any place I've ever seen, be very careful around here.
Large Closets

Roanoke, VA

#4 Nov 7, 2011
The closets in Russell County are full and most are walk in closets and the people are not about to come out.

Be very very careful being openly gay in this area. There is a club in Johnson City TN that most people bi or gay in this are go to.

New Beginnings http://www.newb.com/

GOOD LUCK
Yuck

Honaker, VA

#5 Nov 7, 2011
Go the hell back to Atlanta!! We dont need your kind here. NASTY!!!! Just messes up our community, and NO Im not being closed minded, Im saying no one wants to see this type of thing in our area. And if they tell you they do, they are telling you a lie to accomadate you and just trying to be nice. So just pack up and get out!!!

Since: Nov 10

Lebanon, VA

#6 Nov 7, 2011
Yuck wrote:
and NO Im not being closed minded
Could have fooled me...
Paging Dr Freud

Ashburn, VA

#7 Nov 7, 2011
Yuck wrote:
Go the hell back to Atlanta!! We dont need your kind here. NASTY!!!! Just messes up our community, and NO Im not being closed minded, Im saying no one wants to see this type of thing in our area. And if they tell you they do, they are telling you a lie to accomadate you and just trying to be nice. So just pack up and get out!!!
Hostility and discrimination against homosexual individuals are well-established facts.

On occasion, these negative attitudes lead to hostile verbal and physical acts against gay individuals with little apparent motivation except a strong dislike. In fact, more than 90% of gay men and lesbians report being targets of verbal abuse or threats, and more than one-third report being survivors of violence related to their homosexuality.

Although negative attitudes and behaviors toward gay individuals have been assumed to be associated with rigid moralistic beliefs, sexual ignorance, and fear of homosexuality, the etiology of these attitudes and behaviors remains a puzzle. Weinberg labeled these attitudes and behaviors *homophobia*, which he defined as the dread of being in close quarters with homosexual men and women as well as irrational fear, hatred, and intolerance of homosexual men and women.

Although the causes of homophobia are unclear, several psychoanalytic explanations have emerged from the idea of homophobia as an anxiety-based phenomenon.

One psychoanalytic explanation is that anxiety about the possibility of being or becoming a homosexual may be a major factor in homophobia. For example, de Kuyper has asserted that homophobia is the result of the remnants of homosexuality in the heterosexual resolution of the Oedipal conflict. Whereas these notions are vague, psychoanalytic theories usually postulate that homophobia is a result of repressed homosexual urges or a form of latent homosexuality.

Latent homosexuality can be defined as homosexual arousal which the individual is either unaware of or dent.

Psychoanalysts use the concept of repressed or latent homosexuality to explain the emotional malaise and irrational attitudes displayed by some individuals who feel guilty about their erotic interests and struggle to deny and repress homosexual impulses.

In fact, West stated,'when placed in a situation that threatens to excite their own unwanted homosexual thoughts, they overreact with panic or anger" (Sounds like our good buddy "Yuck" right there).

Slaby contended that anxiety about homosexuality typically does not occur in individuals who are same-sex oriented, but it usually involves individuals who are ostensibly heterosexual and have difficulty integrating their homosexual feelings or activity.
oOOoo

United States

#8 Nov 7, 2011
Matty just got into a relationship so Im sorry but that Sexy man is now off the market:( good luck dear n don't listen to all this garbage on this site!! Try newbies a night club in johnson city!!
GAY in Russell Cty

Charlottesville, VA

#9 Nov 8, 2011
I think I add alot of VALUE to the county. If anything messes up the county then its YOU "yuck" you are the mess.

Since: Oct 11

Winchester, TN

#10 Nov 8, 2011
hey GAY, shoot me an e-mail, I've got a few names :] [email protected]
justwonderin

Natural Bridge, VA

#11 Nov 8, 2011
Yuck wrote:
Go the hell back to Atlanta!! We dont need your kind here. NASTY!!!! Just messes up our community, and NO Im not being closed minded, Im saying no one wants to see this type of thing in our area. And if they tell you they do, they are telling you a lie to accomadate you and just trying to be nice. So just pack up and get out!!!
Please explain to me how being gay in this area messes up the community??! I am ONE person, there isn't a tour bus coming from Atlanta to drop off 10,000 homos. I never said anything at all about making a scene, having a parade, or even equal rights. All I said was that I was gay and wondered who else. I have no intenetions of doing anything with anyone gay or striaght, man or woman in a public setting. I do not preach about my beliefs and I allow others to feel however they want. I am not saying that you are right or wrong I am just asking for an explanation. Do you not feel that the community could be "messed" with alot worse by all of the drug deals, abuse, intolerance, hatred, and ignorance?? I have not been here very long at all and I already know where to get just about any drug on the market without ever leaving town limits and guess what, not one of those "dealers" are gay! I know of so so soooo many people in this area and other places that have an INSANELY high domestic violence rate, child abuse rate, child molestation, etc and once again guess what, NOT DONE BY THE GAYS! Hell in the paper less than a month ago there were 12 different people indicted on child molestation and child pornagraphy charges and they were ALL either straight men hurting little girls or straight women messing with boys. Not a single one of them was a man on man. That is not to say that gay people are not capable of it because obvioulsy they are BUT straight people are just as capable of doing damage to their community as gays. Take a good look around buddy. But like I said, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and it does not bother me in the least. I honestly could not care any less if I tried. Trust me on this, it is not the first time I have ever heard teh gay bashing stuff. I find it quite amusing actually. Because what homophobic men can not seem to get through their heads is the simple fact that the more you preach about how homosexuals are nasty, dirty, wrong, sinful etc, the more you just make yourself look like a big ole queer yourself. Otherwise you wouldnt be so damn hell bent on convincing everyone that you are bothered by it. That is just my opinion though lol, well mine and a million others.
unavailable2u

San Mateo, CA

#12 Nov 8, 2011
@Just wonderin- Matthew is very loved in this community.(By most that know him) He also has grown up here. That's got a lot to do with everyone understanding him..
But being the small(minded) Bible belted town that we are, I'm sure that its very scary and unnerving to come here and know no one.. however, I'm sure that if u introduced urself to matt, he would be delighted to have a new friend!! I just told him to go read this thread!!!
Good luck. And I apologize for all the small minded, rude, and ignorant people here :(
mike

United States

#13 Nov 8, 2011
Go read romans 1:25 -27
Just Ask

New Hope, VA

#14 Nov 8, 2011
Go to "Ralph's" club in Raven. Ask for what you want and you will find what you seek.
NO NO NO

Roanoke, VA

#15 Nov 8, 2011
Just Ask wrote:
Go to "Ralph's" club in Raven. Ask for what you want and you will find what you seek.
OH HELL FIRE!!!! Someone is trying to get you killed. Stay away from Ralph's in Raven, that is the biggest redneck bar in southwest Virginia. You are not going to find a man with all his teeth in Ralph's.
local

Monroe, NC

#16 Nov 9, 2011
I agree matthew is one of the sweetest and most kind hearted people around here I love him to pieces! He is a great friend and would accept you just as you are. Don't worry, we're not all close minded and self-centered. Welcome to the area :)
straight people

United States

#17 Nov 9, 2011
Need to stop making gay babies, that's all!
L O L

Ashburn, VA

#18 Nov 9, 2011
mike wrote:
Go read romans 1:25 -27
and go read Leviticus 11:9-12.
stupidpeoplesuck

United States

#19 Nov 9, 2011
Darling u r gonna have to overlook the idiots that feel the need to b rude and Small minded! Ignorance comes with the territory around here sometimes. BUT there r so many good people here too gay and straight. Its 2011 so for the most part the gay thing is no big deal. The idiots that go out of their way to Cal u names and put u down are just obviously in the closet homosexuals themselves. Hold ur head up high babydoll and u will b well loved no matter who u choose to love!
justwonderin

Natural Bridge, VA

#20 Nov 9, 2011
I just want to say THANK YOU for all of the nice words of encouragement from everyone! I am very impressed with the amount of kindness that I have recieved on here. I mean I know that not all the comments on here have been positive but I fully expected that. It comes with being gay. I have become completly immune to ignorance and hate. So thanks again for ALL OF YOU, even the people that have negativity in their hearts because that is what gives me the will power and urge to be that much more confident in who I am! Nothing worth anything comes without trials and tribulation and my life and the lives of others is worth the world to me so therefore the bad that people throw my way just tells me I am doing something worth fighting for!

Since: Nov 10

Lebanon, VA

#21 Nov 9, 2011
justwonderin wrote:
I just want to say THANK YOU for all of the nice words of encouragement from everyone! I am very impressed with the amount of kindness that I have recieved on here. I mean I know that not all the comments on here have been positive but I fully expected that. It comes with being gay. I have become completly immune to ignorance and hate. So thanks again for ALL OF YOU, even the people that have negativity in their hearts because that is what gives me the will power and urge to be that much more confident in who I am! Nothing worth anything comes without trials and tribulation and my life and the lives of others is worth the world to me so therefore the bad that people throw my way just tells me I am doing something worth fighting for!
That's the right attitude to have./applause

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