Concerned Parent

Rome, NY

#1 Jan 18, 2014
With all the shootings at schools, malls, and movie theaters itís hard not to be concerned. I am a parent of three children who regularly take part in activities at the above places, so it is natural for me to be concerned with their well being while at these places. Recently, both of my daughters told me that the shootings in America have made them concerned with their personal safety. First, this broke my heart and really made me begin to think diligently about the situation.
My background includes being in law enforcement for over twenty years and coming in contact with people who tried to kill me, a Masters degree in criminal justice, and having a renewed spirit to educate people and help make this country better.
I told my children, first that there has always been good and evil in the world. However, that doesn't mean we have to exhibit a defeatist attitude and avoid these places. Secondly, we have to learn from these violent acts, so we can protect ourselves and maybe even prevent these types of vicious acts in the future.
As a family, we sat down and literally listed what we could do if we were in some of these situations. Here are some of the things we came up with.
School, Mall/Shopping Center, and Movie Theater Active
Shooting Situations

Universal Responses to increase chance of survival:

Get cover behind an area or object that can protect you from bullets.
Alert the authorities (law enforcement)
Always look for a safe way out of the situation.
If approached by the shooter, in a calm voice try to talk some sense into them, but do not criticize them, after all they are not acting rationally.
Try to de-escalate the situation.
Try to offer them some assistance. Example: To contact someone for them or get something for them to eat. Do anything to reduce their rage.
Once they are calmed down. Get their trust by telling them you will help them survive this mess and ensure them they must have something to live for such as family, friends, animals, skills, etc. KEEP THEM TALKING INSTEAD OF SHOOTING! Words donít kill people. People with weapons do.

In a movie theater, it is especially difficult to protect yourself. So we came up with the idea that if we go to the theatre with our family or friends. It is better to sit near an exit and/or separate ourselves while watching the movie to increase our chances of getting away from danger, offering assistance if able, and being a good witness when necessary. Lastly, show respect for all people when viewing a movie. Remember most people go to the movies to relax and spend their hard earned money to do so. Texting and making/receiving telephone calls during movies is not cool and should be very limited. You never know who might be mentally unstable in a movie theatre and worse most movie theatres are very dark or have low light at best. I remember a famous quote: Our greatest fears are the ones we can not see.
This is especially true about movie theatres.
Concerned Parent

Rome, NY

#2 Jan 18, 2014
Lastly, because my prior law enforcement experience, I found it best to prepare my children for these kinds of violent situations by role playing. These are suggestions we came up with during role playing.
Things that can be done in a movie theatre to prevent violence
Theatres should post signs on their front doors to let the public know that their business is a safe place that will not tolerate inappropriate behavior and violators will be prosecuted.
Management should make regular rounds prior and during a movie to ensure all their customers are enjoying themselves.
If people are being rude or boisterous during a movie, contact management and ask for your money to be refunded. Taking actions into your own hands through the use of violence is never the best decision.
If a shooting takes place while you are in the theatre take cover by lying on the floor and walking on your hands and knees to the best exit for escape. Play dead if needed. If you possess a fire arm and have training in the use of that fire arm. Attempt to stop the shooter by shooting him or her center mass (this is near their central organs like the heart, kidneys, stomach). This area of the human body also increases your chance at hitting them while firing your weapon. Donít be afraid to take the shot. Your survival may be the only lifeline for everyone else in the theatre. Lastly, if you do not have a weapon and the shooting stops attempt to overpower the shooter. Again this may be the only means to your survival. Survival is of the utmost importance during these horrible acts of violence. This topic should be discussed more and role playing should be a necessary step in the prevention of violence. Hope this helps!

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Since: Aug 13

The Woods

#3 Jan 19, 2014
It appears there will be no other way to escape being electronically monitored, constantly in view via camera, or barraged with marketing aimed at our purchasing habits stolen via constant surveillance and endless record-keeping by the Multi-Nationals. No one likes to have to envision a life completely detached from other people or our beautiful planet.........but eventually, that will be the only way to live an unseen life. Of course, even being off-the-grid won't evade or stop satellite surveillance, unless your home and and entire existence takes place completely underground.

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