Women Who Have Children For The Child Support

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knows all about it wrote:

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Isn't that the truth! Ever heard how about we review this in 6 weeks to see if you made your payments? I have heard this since April...had court about every 6 weeks and heard the same thing....he lies about having a new job...already sentenced on felony flagrant non-support....still keeps getting chance after chance...not to mention he owes around $25,000....oh and he hasn't made any payments!

I've been going through it since February and we go back next month. The judge told him that if he doesn't have a job by then, he has to prove that he's taking GED classes so he can find another job. He's not looking for another job, he's sitting by the phone waiting for the employer who laid him off in the first place has work for him to do. I've driven down the road several times on my way to work and seen him working in plain sight. I've call the office of the Director of Child Support Enforcement and they tell me that the only proof that they will accept to show that he's working is a statement from him or his employer. It defies all reason to me.

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my ex wife is behind 5K, and no support is adding up now as she bred again, and in the state she lives in, as long as she is in a rehab facility, and collecting welfare, it is unfair to her to collect or accrue support. Not to mention the fact that she was docked a whole whopping $280.00 amonth for 4 kids!!!!

knows all about it wrote:

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Isn't that the truth! Ever heard how about we review this in 6 weeks to see if you made your payments? I have heard this since April...had court about every 6 weeks and heard the same thing....he lies about having a new job...already sentenced on felony flagrant non-support....still keeps getting chance after chance...not to mention he owes around $25,000....oh and he hasn't made any payments!

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Doesnt_matter wrote:

Well this is how it is he is still married to her but it seems like she don't want him to divorce her cause she pregnant again with someone elses baby the legally seperated though he pays 458 dollars in child support a month and she tells him he has no rights to her son which it is both of theirs. What would you do cause he really wants to spend time with his son.

Contact the county attorney's office. I am not sure if they work with visitation but they might. They can also tell you what to do. Otherwise, I would hire an attorney so that they can file a motion for visitation, joint custody, whatever you are wanting. Good luck!

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happy wrote:

keep bringing the other party in on contempt charges, keep setting the bar, be the aggresive one, that is what the judges will look at in the end. It is frustrating, but it will work in the end. Also, if the judge is really dropping the ball, request another judge. NO judge likes to be challanged like that, and it may open their eyes.
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It's not about contempt charges anymore. He was sentenced to 3 years in prison in circuit court for felony flagrant non support. Prison was probated as long as he made payments. It has been a year since sentencing and he's not made a single payment. We only have one circuit court judge for this area. I make my voice known in court. I hardly ever miss one of his court appearances. In fact, we have one coming up soon. I am sure it will be the same ole' song and dance. It is very frustrating but I have fought this for years.

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happy wrote:

my ex wife is behind 5K, and no support is adding up now as she bred again, and in the state she lives in, as long as she is in a rehab facility, and collecting welfare, it is unfair to her to collect or accrue support. Not to mention the fact that she was docked a whole whopping $280.00 amonth for 4 kids!!!!
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That's awful...my understanding was that child support can be initially established wherever the custodial parent resides, even if it is a different state or county. Have you tried to establish it in KY?

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happy wrote:

keep bringing the other party in on contempt charges, keep setting the bar, be the aggresive one, that is what the judges will look at in the end. It is frustrating, but it will work in the end. Also, if the judge is really dropping the ball, request another judge. NO judge likes to be challanged like that, and it may open their eyes.
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I've tried to file contempt charges on my own but the county attorney who handles my case told me that if I did, they would no longer handle the case. They don't deal with visitation at all and since earlier this year, they don't handle medical bills, either. I have to be the one take the ex to court to get his half.

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knows all about it wrote:

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It's not about contempt charges anymore. He was sentenced to 3 years in prison in circuit court for felony flagrant non support. Prison was probated as long as he made payments. It has been a year since sentencing and he's not made a single payment. We only have one circuit court judge for this area. I make my voice known in court. I hardly ever miss one of his court appearances. In fact, we have one coming up soon. I am sure it will be the same ole' song and dance. It is very frustrating but I have fought this for years.

The last time we were to go to court, he was on the docket twice. Once in the morning for his other case and in the afternoon for mine. I took off work to go because I wanted the judge to know that he'd been working and not paying. I get there and he's nowhere to be seen. The judge decided to move my case to the morning docket so he could hear both cases at the same time.

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<quoted text>I've been going through it since February and we go back next month. The judge told him that if he doesn't have a job by then, he has to prove that he's taking GED classes so he can find another job. He's not looking for another job, he's sitting by the phone waiting for the employer who laid him off in the first place has work for him to do. I've driven down the road several times on my way to work and seen him working in plain sight. I've call the office of the Director of Child Support Enforcement and they tell me that the only proof that they will accept to show that he's working is a statement from him or his employer. It defies all reason to me.

As in my situation, if they are cash pay, contract labor, they can't be garnished or even have a wage assignment put in place. They get off scott free getting paid under the table, not paying taxes, and then get away with not paying their child support.

Mine is to good to work anywhere except the industry he was employeed in years ago, which he is a has been in since he has cheated and stole from everyone. He's too good to work in a store or restraunt. One things for sure, he always has money for his buzz though.....

I don't see how deadbeat parents close their eyes and sleep at night. I just don't understand how they can live with themselves!

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<quoted text>I've tried to file contempt charges on my own but the county attorney who handles my case told me that if I did, they would no longer handle the case. They don't deal with visitation at all and since earlier this year, they don't handle medical bills, either. I have to be the one take the ex to court to get his half.

Oh and medical bills....he's court ordered to pay half of all medical bills from my divorce. That has added up to so much I gave up on turning that in this year....You don't get money for medical until support is current...that'll never happen owing what he owes us.

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It was established in the state she is in, i am trying to transfer it here now, but it is tough.

knows all about it wrote:

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That's awful...my understanding was that child support can be initially established wherever the custodial parent resides, even if it is a different state or county. Have you tried to establish it in KY?

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I don't know your situation, but if that is their attitude, you may be better off without them. If you circumstances allow it, get passport, or foodstamps, then you can push what you want, and they HAVE to collect on you befalf!!!

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<quoted text>The last time we were to go to court, he was on the docket twice. Once in the morning for his other case and in the afternoon for mine. I took off work to go because I wanted the judge to know that he'd been working and not paying. I get there and he's nowhere to be seen. The judge decided to move my case to the morning docket so he could hear both cases at the same time.

[Lucy]

A Mother wrote:

Do tell, Father, how does one sit on her ass and support two children on $290/month? Enlighten me because getting up and going to work every morning and going to the job that I've held for the last 13 years is really starting to wear on me.

I second this one! They think a few peanuts thrown will lead a to a life of luxury!

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happy wrote:

I don't know your situation, but if that is their attitude, you may be better off without them. If you circumstances allow it, get passport, or foodstamps, then you can push what you want, and they HAVE to collect on you befalf!!!
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I work and make too much money to receive aid. I've always worked, I wouldn't know not to work.

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I think anderson county family court is a joke..
Also the county attorney is a joke bobbi jo needs to be voted out in 2010..
None of them really care about you..
The only time they do anything is when they are forced to with a higher power!!! thats SAD!

[HoldOnAMinute]

What about the women who get pregnant by others, and then trap a man into supporting it!!!! Unless you know who your baby's daddy is you shouldnt try to get support out of just anyone that you can sucker into it!

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That's really sad, feel bad for the kid! Anyone doing that ought to be prosecuted for false accusations. Feel sorry for the poor fellas accused, but you play you pay, it should be a wake up call for them, wrap it up!

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michelle willard-peffer had a child with my brother and has been using the support she gets on that child to care of two other kids she had with a dead beat because neither of them know how to get ajob and take care of them self they live off of their family and she is out party'in every night of the week never at home with her kids as soon as they go to bed she out looking for the next guy how unfair is that

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family wrote:

michelle willard-peffer had a child with my brother and has been using the support she gets on that child to care of two other kids she had with a dead beat because neither of them know how to get ajob and take care of them self they live off of their family and she is out party'in every night of the week never at home with her kids as soon as they go to bed she out looking for the next guy how unfair is that

Do you know for a fact that this is what she is doing? I don't know who she is and wouldn't know if I walked up to her, BUT, I do know that ever since my ex had to start paying child support, I've been accused of buying clothes for myself with the money or paying my car payment with the child support. Most of MY clothes have holes in them, I just patch them up, but our kids' clothes don't. I work a full-time job and I pay my own car payment. The child support is for the kids and if I spent it on myself, I'd feel like a thief.

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<quoted text>Do you know for a fact that this is what she is doing? I don't know who she is and wouldn't know if I walked up to her, BUT, I do know that ever since my ex had to start paying child support, I've been accused of buying clothes for myself with the money or paying my car payment with the child support. Most of MY clothes have holes in them, I just patch them up, but our kids' clothes don't. I work a full-time job and I pay my own car payment. The child support is for the kids and if I spent it on myself, I'd feel like a thief.

KY law states that child support can be spent on anything for the child....a place to live, a car to ride in, heat, air, food, etc.

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just a little FYI wrote:

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KY law states that child support can be spent on anything for the child....a place to live, a car to ride in, heat, air, food, etc.

He got mad when he found out that I had spent some of the child support on taking the kids to the doctor. He said that the money was meant to take care of them. What did he think I was doing? He actually tried to tell the county attorney that I was spending the child support on my car payment. She told him that even if I was using the child support for my car payment, our children were being driven around in the car. That went over really well.