Family fears losing home over medical...

Family fears losing home over medical bills

There are 75 comments on the Lake County Record-Bee story from Jul 29, 2009, titled Family fears losing home over medical bills. In it, Lake County Record-Bee reports that:

CLEARLAKE OAKS A father who has made his life's purpose the caring of his invalid son is facing detrimental ends at the mercy of the healthcare system.

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Have compassion

United States

#2 Jul 29, 2009
OOPs wrote:
If you fail to plan, you plan tp fail. No retirement or residual income/ What a typical example of the caring loser.
Easy for you to say. I admire and honor Mr. Conway for being the sole provider for his son, it is no easy task, no one can imagine what 24/7 care is about unless they have been in that position. Hope folks have more compassion than you, and donate to the fund. Wishing the best outcome possible!
Layed Off

Waterloo, IA

#3 Jul 29, 2009
I feel for Mr. Conway, but at the same time he could pick up more IHSS hours with other clients. I was recently laid off from a good job, and my husband is disabled. We have two children. I am not asking the community to help with my bills. I am doing everything I can to make sure that we are taken care of even if that means temp jobs, and low paying jobs.
Caring

Ames, IA

#4 Jul 29, 2009
OOPs wrote:
If you fail to plan, you plan tp fail. No retirement or residual income/ What a typical example of the caring loser.
OOPs, That's great your smug little world is so well planned and structured but I would like you to consider something before you throw out your heartless opinion again. If Mr. Conway chose to work in the mainstream all these years rather than support his son on a minimal income the State would have been obliged to care for Josh 24/7. The cost of that would be astronomical compared to the small IHSS wage Mr. Conway is receiving. i.e. Mr. Conway is saving you and I from 1988 over Josh's lifetime close to a million tax dollars. Would you, given the same situation, do the same? That should show you the sacrifice Mr. Conway has made in his own personal life for his son and for us. Most parents would have institutionalized Josh and taken the easy road, Mr. Conway chose the road of love and for that I am not worthy to throw stones.
Bjorn Effsteen

Lakeport, CA

#5 Jul 29, 2009
This is really tragic and I agree with the posters who have remarked about lack of compassion here. We can't judge others who have committed to other paths we might not have taken. Having said that, unfortunately SSI and IHSS have been too expensive to the tax payer due to various factors, and now King Obama seeks to remove my tax deduction for donating to this cause, raise my taxes, remove my financial incentive to create a job for Mr. Conway, and so now all I can do is feel for him, hope big government takes care of him with all the money they have and will take from me, and just hope and pray for the best.
Mark D

Clearlake, CA

#6 Jul 29, 2009
I really have a problem with IHSS paying people to look after their own family - isn't that a moral duty? Here is a father who was basically living off his disabled son. Also, the headline is deceiving - the medical bills are taken care of by Medicaid, it's the other bills that are no longer being paid because the father no longer gets his son's SSI check nor free money from IHSS for taking care of his own son.
Timmy

Lakeport, CA

#7 Jul 29, 2009
Where is this kid's mother?

Since: Jan 09

Battle Ground, WA

#8 Jul 29, 2009
Mark D wrote:
I really have a problem with IHSS paying people to look after their own family - isn't that a moral duty? Here is a father who was basically living off his disabled son. Also, the headline is deceiving - the medical bills are taken care of by Medicaid, it's the other bills that are no longer being paid because the father no longer gets his son's SSI check nor free money from IHSS for taking care of his own son.
What a cheap chump statement! "living off his disabled son." That's what you call "living"? I call it: "there but for the grace of God go I".
michaelsmom

United States

#10 Jul 29, 2009
Gennyj wrote:
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What a cheap chump statement! "living off his disabled son." That's what you call "living"? I call it: "there but for the grace of God go I".
Excuse me but it's true, he is living off his son...if you can't handle the truth don't fault someone else for stating it.
this guy probably refinanced his house to 3 or 4 times it's worth during the real estate boom. If you start putting your hand out to other people you deserve their scorn.
And to the guy whining about King Obama....you need to get over the fact that he won the election and didn't steal it like that thief Bush.
Typical republican...bringing politics into something that has nothing to do with politics. Sore loser.
The bigger picture

Ames, IA

#11 Jul 29, 2009
michaelsmom wrote:
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Excuse me but it's true, he is living off his son...if you can't handle the truth don't fault someone else for stating it.
this guy probably refinanced his house to 3 or 4 times it's worth during the real estate boom. If you start putting your hand out to other people you deserve their scorn.
And to the guy whining about King Obama....you need to get over the fact that he won the election and didn't steal it like that thief Bush.
Typical republican...bringing politics into something that has nothing to do with politics. Sore loser.
Mr. Conway and Josh live in a rented home and we all learned in grammar school the result of assuming something we know nothing about. His son is 100% disabled and spends his good days on a rolling "bed" since he has virtually no control of his bodies movement except turning his head side to side. He can't talk and has to communicate through eye movement-not easy to understand. Mom left years ago because she couldn't handle the situation. As for living off his son, I see where your son would be if this happened to him-in an expensive full care nursing home costing tax payers ridiculous amounts of money and you would visit when it was convenient. That would cost excessively more than Mr. Conway receives for nursing his son at home. This care is far more than kicking back on the couch, eating chips and drinking beer. It is a full time job far more than 8 hours a day. I'm sorry that you think he's "living off his son." I'd bet, if he had the choice. his son would be a healthy full functioning young man living on his own and having his own kids. And Mr. Conway would be in the work force, like he was before Josh's birth, planning for his own retirement years.
Why don't you complain about the hundreds of millions of dollars our Government spends on illegal aliens health care and housing each year rather than an American citizen doing the right thing? I tip my hat to someone who has put his life on hold to lovingly and self-sacrificially care for a son who can't care for himself. Love is something we do, not something we shallowly say with no action behind it. If you have kids would you love them as Mr. Conway has loved his if something tragic happened to them, God forbid? I don't think so.
Just a jet ski

Napa, CA

#12 Jul 29, 2009
The bigger picture wrote:
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Mr. Conway and Josh live in a rented home and we all learned in grammar school the result of assuming something we know nothing about. His son is 100% disabled and spends his good days on a rolling "bed" since he has virtually no control of his bodies movement except turning his head side to side. He can't talk and has to communicate through eye movement-not easy to understand. Mom left years ago because she couldn't handle the situation. As for living off his son, I see where your son would be if this happened to him-in an expensive full care nursing home costing tax payers ridiculous amounts of money and you would visit when it was convenient. That would cost excessively more than Mr. Conway receives for nursing his son at home. This care is far more than kicking back on the couch, eating chips and drinking beer. It is a full time job far more than 8 hours a day. I'm sorry that you think he's "living off his son." I'd bet, if he had the choice. his son would be a healthy full functioning young man living on his own and having his own kids. And Mr. Conway would be in the work force, like he was before Josh's birth, planning for his own retirement years.
Why don't you complain about the hundreds of millions of dollars our Government spends on illegal aliens health care and housing each year rather than an American citizen doing the right thing? I tip my hat to someone who has put his life on hold to lovingly and self-sacrificially care for a son who can't care for himself. Love is something we do, not something we shallowly say with no action behind it. If you have kids would you love them as Mr. Conway has loved his if something tragic happened to them, God forbid? I don't think so.
Mr. Conway is fortunate to have you in his corner. He gave up his job so he could spend 24/7 caring for his diabled son, alone. I say "YES" to my tax money being spent on helping my fellow citizens who are truely deserving. Any man or woman who would put their life on hold to care for and love their less fortunate child, deserves praise not criticism.
Timmy

Lakeport, CA

#13 Jul 29, 2009
So who's the jerk that would evict this guy? The home is in Clearlake Oaks so it's probably worth maybe 50k the owner should just give him the home. I doubt the owner has only one rental property.
Duh

Milton, FL

#14 Jul 29, 2009
The bigger picture wrote:
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Mr. Conway and Josh live in a rented home and we all learned in grammar school the result of assuming something we know nothing about. His son is 100% disabled and spends his good days on a rolling "bed" since he has virtually no control of his bodies movement except turning his head side to side. He can't talk and has to communicate through eye movement-not easy to understand. Mom left years ago because she couldn't handle the situation. As for living off his son, I see where your son would be if this happened to him-in an expensive full care nursing home costing tax payers ridiculous amounts of money and you would visit when it was convenient. That would cost excessively more than Mr. Conway receives for nursing his son at home. This care is far more than kicking back on the couch, eating chips and drinking beer. It is a full time job far more than 8 hours a day. I'm sorry that you think he's "living off his son." I'd bet, if he had the choice. his son would be a healthy full functioning young man living on his own and having his own kids. And Mr. Conway would be in the work force, like he was before Josh's birth, planning for his own retirement years.
Why don't you complain about the hundreds of millions of dollars our Government spends on illegal aliens health care and housing each year rather than an American citizen doing the right thing? I tip my hat to someone who has put his life on hold to lovingly and self-sacrificially care for a son who can't care for himself. Love is something we do, not something we shallowly say with no action behind it. If you have kids would you love them as Mr. Conway has loved his if something tragic happened to them, God forbid? I don't think so.
I have known Bill for many years. He is devoting his life to his son. It would have been far easier for Bill to place Josh with "professionals", and go on with his own life. Josh needs full time, 24 hour a day care. I have the utmost respect for Bill, not only as a veteran, but as a father and a wonderful human being.
It will be my pleasure to do what I can for both of them.
Donna Wadlbut

United States

#15 Jul 29, 2009
He should have put his son in a home under the care of the state as it should have been done from the get go. Nobody should be saddled with that kind of albatross.
ohyeah

Waterloo, IA

#16 Jul 29, 2009
Duh wrote:
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I have known Bill for many years. He is devoting his life to his son. It would have been far easier for Bill to place Josh with "professionals", and go on with his own life. Josh needs full time, 24 hour a day care. I have the utmost respect for Bill, not only as a veteran, but as a father and a wonderful human being.
It will be my pleasure to do what I can for both of them.
Right on!! I do not know Bill but in reading the article he is a HERO.
He fought for his Country then fought for his Son.
He did not run from either tasking.
As a fellow Nam vet he is a brother deserving of a hand up.
He will receive a hand up from one humbled to assist him in his time of need.
God bless bro..
Disgusted

Ames, IA

#17 Jul 30, 2009
Donna Wadlbut wrote:
He should have put his son in a home under the care of the state as it should have been done from the get go. Nobody should be saddled with that kind of albatross.
Calling a defenseless human being "an albatross" not only shows your a heartless pig, but that you are a neanderthal concerning compassion.
Donna Christopher

United States

#18 Jul 30, 2009
poser aka donna wadlbut is real big on putting medical expenses off on the tax payer. It'll be a first if he/she/it doesn't respond to this by attempting to bash me about the head and neck for not signing up for my VA medical benefits waaaaay back when - except at that time I was able to fend for myself and did not go to the government for something I could do for myself. I'm sure if we ever see the day when he/she/it has the courage to post under their own name we will find someone whose only job in the private sector was being a paperboy as a child. You've posted some very nasty untrue things about me but you've topped yourself on this one poser. I can only hope you never reproduced and if you did I pity your children. I hereby bestow upon you the Cheney Award for complete disregard of basic human values.

Since: Jan 09

Battle Ground, WA

#19 Jul 30, 2009
Donna Wadlbut wrote:
He should have put his son in a home under the care of the state as it should have been done from the get go. Nobody should be saddled with that kind of albatross.
What goes around comes around as they say. But I doubt you're smart enough to get it when it finally happens to you.
Grace

Windsor, CA

#20 Jul 30, 2009
Layed Off wrote:
I feel for Mr. Conway, but at the same time he could pick up more IHSS hours with other clients. I was recently laid off from a good job, and my husband is disabled. We have two children. I am not asking the community to help with my bills. I am doing everything I can to make sure that we are taken care of even if that means temp jobs, and low paying jobs.
Does your disabled husband speak? Can he use the bathroom on his own? Can he feed himself?
Can you understand that it is not possible to leave a person that is not able to do these things?
Grace

Windsor, CA

#21 Jul 30, 2009
All that I know is that until you have a severly disabled child you will never understand all that is required of you.
What a shame it is for an American who has worked and payed taxes, served his Country and loved his child to end up in this situation.
Mr. Conway is an exceptional person and I agree with (ohyeah) Mr. Conway is a HERO.
It will be a pleasure to be of some small service to this family. I will sing all the way to bank and Thank God for all my little blessings.
I will say a prayer for all of you who have sat in judgement of Mr. Conway. Judgement has a way of coming back at you. I do not think that from what little I have heard from you people, you could handle a sliver of what Mr. Conway has faced. All my best to this family.
Old sea lawyer

United States

#22 Jul 30, 2009
OOPs wrote:
If you fail to plan, you plan tp fail. No retirement or residual income/ What a typical example of the caring loser.
He should have gone to Wall Street made a couple of billion and hired someone at minimum wage to take care of his son.

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