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ARE YOU A FATHER GOING FOR CUSTODY OF A CHILD?

Created by NEWLY DEVORCED on Mar 29, 2009

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Just me

Franklin, TN

#1 Mar 29, 2009
I am father newly divorced and because in the state of Tenn strike that in America dead beat dad's have made a bad rep for all dads.Case in point when I say Bikers whats the first thing that pops into your mind,bars,guns,fighting,crimin al.
Well what is to say about them bikers doing toy runs for less fortunate children, special events that the money goes to help the community.
What kind of father goes to court to testify on his daughter in laws behalf,with the son not having any criminal charges and record of alcoholism or drug abuse.
What comes to mind then is piece of shit,back stabbing bastard, if my real mother was alive you sir would be the one getting a new home and live all alone.may you sir die alone like you should.
And further more the names of these persons will be in the paper for grand theft,more to come.

Just me
dad

Franklin, TN

#2 Mar 29, 2009
Judge took part of me
another dad for custody

Murfreesboro, TN

#3 Mar 29, 2009
I have been fighting the state of ky for my son for 16 months. My sons mom lost custody because of her drug problem. The state didnt even offer me visitation when they took him they just gave him to her mother. I have no record, i have paid court ordered support since he was 4 months old. never been behind. My ex's mom lied and said that they didnt know where i was and my son has never met me when he was just down here two weeks before. the system is corrupt
just me

Franklin, TN

#4 Mar 29, 2009
another dad for custody wrote:
I have been fighting the state of ky for my son for 16 months. My sons mom lost custody because of her drug problem. The state didnt even offer me visitation when they took him they just gave him to her mother. I have no record, i have paid court ordered support since he was 4 months old. never been behind. My ex's mom lied and said that they didnt know where i was and my son has never met me when he was just down here two weeks before. the system is corrupt
there are a few things you can do one and the most important of all is report your child as missing or if you had a divorce from this women then there is a public record of all court documents and the court where your may have a charge for obtaining these papers however you can't give up do man he is worth it i know how you feel i cry every day about the loss of time i get with my son and will fight until i die for this is what life is to me.you should as well keep us informed of your progress and always remember we are here for you. godspeed!
Just me

Franklin, TN

#5 Mar 30, 2009
When the courts stop listening to women as they pour on the tears as they sit there and tell lie's on the stand and as they sit around just thinking how can i make his life miserable then and then can a child not be ripped apart. They say they are trying to be fair , but they are far from it the courts and lawers just want money not justice money money money. and to my stepmother who walked throught child support court giving me dirty looks
you can go to hell were you belong you are a worthless piece of shit so fuck you!!!!!!!!!!
another dad for custody

Murfreesboro, TN

#6 Mar 30, 2009
My x's mother is really good about getting up there turning on the tears and lying. she has told the judge about phone conversations that her and my wife have never even had. My wife would never go out of her way to talk to those people!
Her and her daughter sit and tell my son that I dont want him and that he dont like me. They tell him to harm my two other kids. My son is almost 4 so mind you he believes this.My son is acting out violently and when I ask him why he says its because his mom or his grandma told him to. He will go into full detail of exactly what they told him.
When I report any of this then they stop letting me hav visitation. From sept 23- Jan 25 I had no contact with him because they changed their phone numbers and moved. All i had was an email address and they would not respond to that either. I took them back to court and of course they lied and said i have had their numbers the whole time and not made any effort! Too bad the judge saw through it that time. I go back to court April 7 for full custody and I am just praying it goes in my favor because if i dont get my kid away from these people he is going to either end up a drug addict or dealer living off welfare ( like them) or dead.
Just Me

Franklin, TN

#7 Mar 30, 2009
another dad for custody wrote:
My x's mother is really good about getting up there turning on the tears and lying. she has told the judge about phone conversations that her and my wife have never even had. My wife would never go out of her way to talk to those people!
Her and her daughter sit and tell my son that I dont want him and that he dont like me. They tell him to harm my two other kids. My son is almost 4 so mind you he believes this.My son is acting out violently and when I ask him why he says its because his mom or his grandma told him to. He will go into full detail of exactly what they told him.
When I report any of this then they stop letting me hav visitation. From sept 23- Jan 25 I had no contact with him because they changed their phone numbers and moved. All i had was an email address and they would not respond to that either. I took them back to court and of course they lied and said i have had their numbers the whole time and not made any effort! Too bad the judge saw through it that time. I go back to court April 7 for full custody and I am just praying it goes in my favor because if i dont get my kid away from these people he is going to either end up a drug addict or dealer living off welfare ( like them) or dead.
Hey it is Just me again i would like to tack the time to thank you for being a stand up dad this is truly the greatest thing a man can do. In the state of Tenn. it is unlawful to with hold any mans child , the one thing that has benifted me in my endeavors has been to write everything down on a pad of paper if you are to pick up your child at a place or time in you parenting plan then the other thing you can do is call the police and make a report,the more they do against you the better the case is for you.Godspeed
classmate -JHS

Knoxville, TN

#8 Aug 18, 2009
Go to the courthouse or talk with an attorney - you are able to file a petition for custody of your child. -What I would do...if in that situation.
another dad for custody

Murfreesboro, TN

#9 Aug 19, 2009
i have a court date August 31 for custody of my son although my lawyer isnt real confident.. mostly because the judge that is hearing the case typically sides with women.
Just Me

United States

#10 Sep 1, 2009
Ask for a psych evaluation. If the mother is telling the child to be violent and disrespectful, it will come out. Plus in the child custody papers it is stated that it is illegal for the parents to talk badly about the other parent or their family to or in front of the child. She is breaking a law. Judges don't like that. Plus withholding visitation is against the law also. Make a police report every time she does this. And file a court document showing she is contempt of court for withholding visitation. This will make your case stronger. Good Luck, Hope you won, if you are the better parent.
A Female that agrees

Winter Garden, FL

#11 Sep 2, 2009
My husband and I have been through pure hell and back because of his ex. He has had custody of his 2 children for over 2 years. Only to find out that her boyfriend was touching the minor female child. Not only that he was teaching the children to draw the sexual organs of the male and female body. You know what the judge done nothing other than to say "no contact for the children with the boyfriend". Why because the mother said her and the boyfriend had split up. He was no longer a part of her life. Total B.S. They were together up until about a month ago.So you men hang in there and don't give up. We have not.
another dad for custody

Dickson, TN

#12 Sep 4, 2009
update: I got joint physical but full legal custody and since this win my lawyer swears that in 3 months we will get full. I am going this weekend to get my son.
for you buddy

Knoxville, TN

#13 Nov 25, 2011
another dad for custody wrote:
My x's mother is really good about getting up there turning on the tears and lying. she has told the judge about phone conversations that her and my wife have never even had. My wife would never go out of her way to talk to those people!
Her and her daughter sit and tell my son that I dont want him and that he dont like me. They tell him to harm my two other kids. My son is almost 4 so mind you he believes this.My son is acting out violently and when I ask him why he says its because his mom or his grandma told him to. He will go into full detail of exactly what they told him.
When I report any of this then they stop letting me hav visitation. From sept 23- Jan 25 I had no contact with him because they changed their phone numbers and moved. All i had was an email address and they would not respond to that either. I took them back to court and of course they lied and said i have had their numbers the whole time and not made any effort! Too bad the judge saw through it that time. I go back to court April 7 for full custody and I am just praying it goes in my favor because if i dont get my kid away from these people he is going to either end up a drug addict or dealer living off welfare ( like them) or dead.
call the telephone office and tell them you hsve to hsve a record of your phone calls i know they will send it to you because i had to do it and thats all the proff you have to have if you have calld its on your records hope that helped you out
Father Ripped Off

Oak Ridge, TN

#14 Nov 26, 2011
So my x wife and I file for divorce in 2006, divorce completed in 2007, I am a gay man, but father of two kids ( daughter and son ). My kis know I am gay, but don't care. My x wife and her new husband did everything because I am gay. I trusted my x wife to take care of my kids after the divorce so I willingly made her the main custodial parent ( mistake ). She took advantage of this...as usual the state clause of " no sleeping around" means nothinbg to the court for the mother, but the father YES...the x wife lawyer first thing came out of his mouth when the x wife and her new partner in life was this " Your honor Mr Reed took a nap in front of the children on a couch with his bf...he has hugged his bf in fron tof the children..and kissed him on the cheek..." Huh was their sexual activity NO!!! The x set all the way through mediation and court looking all sad and depressed...an act cause before court she was all smiles ...and even after court all smiles...so even though my lawyer who when asked when I was on the stand " Mr ...do you feel Mrs... is moving out of state to prevent you from having weekly access, school access, etc...because you are gay?" YES...judge said " State allows mothers move is Ok due to the fact her husband has been working out of state.." BS. Judge ruled cause I am gay. X wife made a scene outside of court ..I walked up to her simply said " You are doing this to the children just not me..." She called for her lawyer and HELP HELP he is going to hit me...I said What are you doing? YOU ARE MEAN...get away from me..here came the security and her lawyer..of ocurse she had her mother on the cell cause her mother was flying to the city and state my x was moving to with my kids...immediately...I told the security officers I wasn't doing nothing, but my lawyer had to approach them and said all was OK...so you see x wives know how to spend the drama and use tears, sadness. depression to their advantage aginst their x's...even with cops...I guess this is a learned behavior with some females..control, being a bitch..anway so here is the result of my kids moving out of state over five hours from me...only get to see them 65 days our of the year...have an x consistently going to child support in her state lying on me when I have always paid child support on time sometimes in advance...wants to shake up the parental agreement to her advantage or when the children have a party, etc...but if I need to change somehting just not NO but HELL NO...she consistently portrays that she is better than me...so face it guys no matter if you are gay or not the state is prejudice toward the mother...the mother can be on drugs, meth, anything...but if she is found out to be a lesbian oh hell no the kids are going to the father..further results of the move teh kids have to stay at my parents home and not my home cause I have a domestic partner ( yes same bf )..and the mother makes sure that it is always brought up that if I ever do and she gets wind of it she will make sure the kids never see me again...so you see gentleman the x wife rules in a divorce and in child custody unless fathers fight back, but even then I tried that and it doesn't work...a father would be smart not to vacate the house...drive his soon to be x wife insane with not leaving...get her to go to Momma's for a break without the kids, chnage the locks then get a lwayer file for divorce and abandoment...tell the kids Momma left me..pour on the tears etc....bring a gf or bf into the hoem before the papers aree filed keep it hidden for as long as possible..turn the tables around..but even then the court will side with the mother unless the mother just does not show up for court at all then only then will the judge rule for the x husband...sometimes..the state of Tn is corrupt especially judges look at Judge Bumgardner in Knox drug addict serving on the bench how many other judges pop pills and it effects their judgement..Judge Swann is known as looney court
Unfortunately True

Oak Ridge, TN

#15 Nov 30, 2011
The best actor usually wins. Unfortunately, that means the best liar wins. So if you don't act or lie, then you probably won't win or even come out with a decent arrangement.

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