being a single mom

just thought that i would see how other single moms feels about being a single mom and part time dad. i have been for over 2 years. and it is a hard job. for a dad to walk away like it don't mean nothing to him what kind of dad is he. and what makes it worse is when the child is diabled. when the dads wants their freedom instead of responsibility, what do they think about us moms. we don't have a choice. because my child is my life and i would never do something to hurt my child. guys if you don't want the responsibility of taking care of a child do be reproducing. the children is the ones that gets hurt in the end for the freedom that they want.

Gemini Mommy

Port Saint Lucie, FL

I don't think most women plan to be single moms but it just seems to happen that way sometimes. I'm a new single mom of one - my baby girl is 3 months old. Her daddy and I are not together and he has moved on to another relationship (which I have no problem with) but he does want to be involved in my child's life and he has been trying to do his part financially. So my situation may be a bit different than yours. Still, at the end of the day, I am her custodial parent and I will be the one mainly responsible for her well-being and taking care of her needs. I know there will be moments throughout her life when I think it would be easier if I didn't have to carry the bulk of the responsibility on my own. Yes it is a hard job but single mothers are strong and when times get hard we must try our best to keep it together for ourselves and our children. I am a spiritual person and constant prayer will get me through it as well as support from my family and friends.

find me @ www.thebabymama.com

YEP

Jerseyville, IL

Well, what about single dads? My ex-wife walked out on our family years ago leaving me to raise a 10 and 3 year old on my own. If it weren't for my mom and dad helping me, I would have never been able to make a good life for my kids. Men and women come and go, but family will always be there.

Gemini Mommy

Port Saint Lucie, FL

YEP wrote:

Well, what about single dads? My ex-wife walked out on our family years ago leaving me to raise a 10 and 3 year old on my own. If it weren't for my mom and dad helping me, I would have never been able to make a good life for my kids. Men and women come and go, but family will always be there.

You are right - it is hard for single fathers also. A friend of mine is raising two young boys on his own because the mother decided she didn't want to parent them. That is something I will NEVER understand!

MEE

Jacksonville, FL

YEP wrote:

Well, what about single dads? My ex-wife walked out on our family years ago leaving me to raise a 10 and 3 year old on my own. If it weren't for my mom and dad helping me, I would have never been able to make a good life for my kids. Men and women come and go, but family will always be there.

Very well said,you are very lucky to have the support of family.If there are two things children need is stability and a loving family.

single mom

YEP wrote:

Well, what about single dads? My ex-wife walked out on our family years ago leaving me to raise a 10 and 3 year old on my own. If it weren't for my mom and dad helping me, I would have never been able to make a good life for my kids. Men and women come and go, but family will always be there.

I think that you should be an inspiration to the rest of the people in the world, showing what a great dad you are. and i have to say that i respect you for being there for you children. good luck and best wishes

mom

The thing that really grabs me is....so-call fathers think that sending money for child support is really being a dad...when in fact IT'S NOT!!!!what about all the nights I sat up with my sick child and still went to work,,what about me that takes my child to school every morning and picking him up every afternoon...but oh he still a dad....yeah right!!!single mom's and single dad's will get rewarded when that child is raised...and the child looks back and sees what we went through for them...I love my child with all my heart,,I wouldn't change a thing....So when your feeling blue or sad,just look at your child they are worth it...

Gemini Mommy

Port Saint Lucie, FL

mom wrote:

The thing that really grabs me is....so-call fathers think that sending money for child support is really being a dad...when in fact IT'S NOT!!!!what about all the nights I sat up with my sick child and still went to work,,what about me that takes my child to school every morning and picking him up every afternoon...but oh he still a dad....yeah right!!!single mom's and single dad's will get rewarded when that child is raised...and the child looks back and sees what we went through for them...I love my child with all my heart,,I wouldn't change a thing....So when your feeling blue or sad,just look at your child they are worth it...

You are absolutely right - just sending money is so different than actually participating in parenting. It is such an easy way out.

find me @ www.thebabymama.com

Watching You

single mom wrote:

just thought that i would see how other single moms feels about being a single mom and part time dad. i have been for over 2 years. and it is a hard job. for a dad to walk away like it don't mean nothing to him what kind of dad is he. and what makes it worse is when the child is diabled. when the dads wants their freedom instead of responsibility, what do they think about us moms. we don't have a choice. because my child is my life and i would never do something to hurt my child. guys if you don't want the responsibility of taking care of a child do be reproducing. the children is the ones that gets hurt in the end for the freedom that they want.

If you don't want the responsibility, then don't spread your legs.
You act like it is his fault and his fault only. A guy tells you anything you want to hear to get in between your legs. You knew the deal when you crawled in bed.
You also knew he was a deadbeat before you gave it up. I feel for the kid but I do not feel for you. There is to much prevention information available for me to ever feel sorry for a 'single mom' who spreads her legs only to see the sperm donor run.

single mom

Judged:

Watching You wrote:

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If you don't want the responsibility, then don't spread your legs.
You act like it is his fault and his fault only. A guy tells you anything you want to hear to get in between your legs. You knew the deal when you crawled in bed.
You also knew he was a deadbeat before you gave it up. I feel for the kid but I do not feel for you. There is to much prevention information available for me to ever feel sorry for a 'single mom' who spreads her legs only to see the sperm donor run.

for your information, we was married 6 years so you should know what the hell your talking about. or are you the one spreading your legs to all the men, since you know so much.

Watching You

single mom wrote:

<quoted text>for your information, we was married 6 years so you should know what the hell your talking about. or are you the one spreading your legs to all the men, since you know so much.

Hmmmmm....You went from being a single mom to a divorced mom awfully quick. Why couldn't you be honest in your original post?

honestly

you sound like a dead beat there watching or a complete idiot..pick one ....noone traps anyone when 2 people lay down they know what can come out of it a (BABY) why leave 1 person to do it all..be responsible for what you do...it takes a low life peice of scum to walk off and leave their children and MOST of the time people are in or was in a relationship...you never know a person...personally I'am married but I have seen this happen and the girl had been in arelationship with this fool..and when the baby came along she and the baby was ditched...can't even get child support he can't hold a job long enough..so she works and raises this baby and catches hell the whole way..the courts lowered child support due to he can't or won't keep a job thats all he hollers he wants a relationship with the baby when court time comes but then can't manage to come see it...personally I think he should be nutered so he can't produce...sorry so long but (watching) you are truley ignorant to your statement.

Watching You

honestly wrote:

you sound like a dead beat there watching or a complete idiot..pick one ....noone traps anyone when 2 people lay down they know what can come out of it a (BABY) why leave 1 person to do it all..be responsible for what you do...it takes a low life peice of scum to walk off and leave their children and MOST of the time people are in or was in a relationship...you never know a person...personally I'am married but I have seen this happen and the girl had been in arelationship with this fool..and when the baby came along she and the baby was ditched...can't even get child support he can't hold a job long enough..so she works and raises this baby and catches hell the whole way..the courts lowered child support due to he can't or won't keep a job thats all he hollers he wants a relationship with the baby when court time comes but then can't manage to come see it...personally I think he should be nutered so he can't produce...sorry so long but (watching) you are truley ignorant to your statement.

I'll choose C. None of the above.
I am just wondering why she wasn't honest in her original post.
If she wants to gripe about an ex-husband and dead beat dad then go for it. Don't mislead people about being a single mom when it is a divorced mom.

mom

Judged:

Watching You wrote:

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I'll choose C. None of the above.
I am just wondering why she wasn't honest in her original post.
If she wants to gripe about an ex-husband and dead beat dad then go for it. Don't mislead people about being a single mom when it is a divorced mom.

it;s the sam ething you idiot...how about this single divorced mom,,,now can you understand that retard....

Watching You

mom wrote:

<quoted text> it;s the sam ething you idiot...how about this single divorced mom,,,now can you understand that retard....

No...not the same thing.

Wait a Minute

Jerseyville, IL

A divorced mom is a single mom there is only one parent in the home raising the child right? So she is a single parent because she isnt married. Why be so harsh anyways? She is raising the child/children alone which means as a single mother.

Who is she

Jerseyville, IL

Judged:

Who is the pretty lady that is in Welch I see her walking to the post office sometimes she is very pretty with long sandy blonde hair.

single mom

mom wrote:

<quoted text> it;s the sam ething you idiot...how about this single divorced mom,,,now can you understand that retard....

thank you. being divorced with a child is a SINGLE MOM that is something the idiot don't understand.

Mr_ President

Bluefield, WV

single mom wrote:

<quoted text>thank you. being divorced with a child is a SINGLE MOM that is something the idiot don't understand.

Someone touched a nerve....LOL
It sounds like all you want is someone's pity. When you don't get that you lash out. Wrong choice.

mom