How Text Messaging Can Ruin a Relatio...

How Text Messaging Can Ruin a Relationship

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Kenton, OH

#1 Oct 23, 2010
Text messaging has become a normal part of our daily routine. A quick way to say “Hello” or “I’m running late”. The problem is, many people use text messages as their main source of communication. Problem you say. Yes, problem! It is too hard to tell the tone of someone’s voice in a text message and it can often be misinterpreted. This has recently happened to me.
I met a guy and we dated for several weeks. When I say dated, I mean we saw each other about 5 days a week for the first few weeks and sent each other text messages all day long when we weren’t together. Everything just clicked. However, we never talked on the phone. So over the last week during several conversations through text messaging things went completely wrong. He thought I meant things one way, when in reality I was saying them another. He thought I was being rude, I thought he was being rude and now long story short, it has ended. I am very sad over this. I thought I found someone I could connect with. Someone I could laugh with and was very excited to get to know more about. And now it’s over.
It seems as though he wanted me to understand what he meant and I wanted him to understand what I meant but it wasn’t happening. A simple phone call or two could have proven that there were smiles behind our sarcasm and not attitude towards one another. The reason I am writing this blog is to let you all know that this can ruin a relationship or even a potential one in this case.
I found this article entitled “How Text Messaging Ruins Relationships”. And this is what it says:
The title is pretty self-explanatory, therefore eliminating the need for an introduction, so I’ll just dive right in!
1) No face time
I don’t know about you guys, but I text with people I hardly ever talk to in “real life” as I’ll call it. When I say “real life” I am including on the phone. Why? Because then you can hear expressions, tones, laughs, tears. It’s just more personal, making it possible to actually carry on a relationship with someone. Clacking away on an impossibly small keypad as your main means of communication with your SO? Yeah, not exactly a bonding experience.
2) I can’t hear you!
Sarcasm, anger, sadness, sincerity, etc. are all impossible to distinguish within a text. This has spawned many a confusing conversation, if not an argument, between me and my BF. He thought I was mad; I was being sarcastic. I thought he was kidding; turns out he was serious. You get the idea.
3) Tick tock, tick tock
Again, I don’t know about you guys, but I get so frustrated waiting for texts. I sent it to you 10 minutes ago and you still have not replied! I have been waiting! Are you ignoring me? Are you busy? If you were going to be busy, why didn’t you tell me instead of making me sit here for 15 minutes waiting for you to answer my question!? By the time your SO does finally respond to your text, you’re in an exceedingly foul mood from having to wait so long, which will likely put the conversation into a downward spiral.
4) 160 characters
There is no possible way most messages can be summarized in the small number of words SMS messages allow, therefore forcing you to send multiple texts, a frustrating endeavor in itself. Add in the fact that your SO may interrupt your flow of messages, ask a question, or some other nuisance that requires you to type yet another messages to explain your previous ones. You are gonna get carpal tunnel and all because of that dimwitted little… Well, you get my point.
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Kenton, OH

#2 Oct 23, 2010
5) What?
There is absolutely nothing more frustrating to me than having there be so much time between text messages that, when you respond, I have absolutely no idea what your response means because I cannot remember what I sent. Either I will have to flip through my “Sent” folder to find it or I will have to ask you and then you will get frustrated, causing me to get frustrated and then YELLING ENSUES! Or rather, CAPSLOCK ENSUES!
6) Tech-Not-So-Savvy
Too many tales have been told about people finding things on their SOs’ phones that they consider incriminating. Whatever you find, you are likely to assume the worst and blow it out of proportion before actually talking to your SO. If there was no texting, none of this would have happened and you could have gone back to good ol’ computer-snooping.
7)“we need 2 tlk”
While I have never experienced this (and, god willing, never will), I know too many people that have received the infamous text message breakup. This is so cold, so low, that it should be perfectly legal for you to go over and key their car, shave their dog, whatever! At least call, seriously!
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Kenton, OH

#3 Oct 23, 2010
Text messaging has become a normal part of our daily routine. A quick way to say “Hello” or “I’m running late”. The problem is, many people use text messages as their main source of communication. Problem you say. Yes, problem! It is too hard to tell the tone of someone’s voice in a text message and it can often be misinterpreted. This has recently happened to me.

I met a guy and we dated for several weeks. When I say dated, I mean we saw each other about 5 days a week for the first few weeks and sent each other text messages all day long when we weren’t together. Everything just clicked. However, we never talked on the phone. So over the last week during several conversations through text messaging things went completely wrong. He thought I meant things one way, when in reality I was saying them another. He thought I was being rude, I thought he was being rude and now long story short, it has ended. I am very sad over this. I thought I found someone I could connect with. Someone I could laugh with and was very excited to get to know more about. And now it’s over.

It seems as though he wanted me to understand what he meant and I wanted him to understand what I meant but it wasn’t happening. A simple phone call or two could have proven that there were smiles behind our sarcasm and not attitude towards one another. The reason I am writing this blog is to let you all know that this can ruin a relationship or even a potential one in this case.

I found this article entitled “How Text Messaging Ruins Relationships”. And this is what it says:

The title is pretty self-explanatory, therefore eliminating the need for an introduction, so I’ll just dive right in!

1) No face time
I don’t know about you guys, but I text with people I hardly ever talk to in “real life” as I’ll call it. When I say “real life” I am including on the phone. Why? Because then you can hear expressions, tones, laughs, tears. It’s just more personal, making it possible to actually carry on a relationship with someone. Clacking away on an impossibly small keypad as your main means of communication with your SO? Yeah, not exactly a bonding experience.

2) I can’t hear you!
Sarcasm, anger, sadness, sincerity, etc. are all impossible to distinguish within a text. This has spawned many a confusing conversation, if not an argument, between me and my BF. He thought I was mad; I was being sarcastic. I thought he was kidding; turns out he was serious. You get the idea.
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Kenton, OH

#4 Oct 23, 2010
3) Tick tock, tick tock
Again, I don’t know about you guys, but I get so frustrated waiting for texts. I sent it to you 10 minutes ago and you still have not replied! I have been waiting! Are you ignoring me? Are you busy? If you were going to be busy, why didn’t you tell me instead of making me sit here for 15 minutes waiting for you to answer my question!? By the time your SO does finally respond to your text, you’re in an exceedingly foul mood from having to wait so long, which will likely put the conversation into a downward spiral.

4) 160 characters
There is no possible way most messages can be summarized in the small number of words SMS messages allow, therefore forcing you to send multiple texts, a frustrating endeavor in itself. Add in the fact that your SO may interrupt your flow of messages, ask a question, or some other nuisance that requires you to type yet another messages to explain your previous ones. You are gonna get carpal tunnel and all because of that dimwitted little… Well, you get my point.

5) What?
There is absolutely nothing more frustrating to me than having there be so much time between text messages that, when you respond, I have absolutely no idea what your response means because I cannot remember what I sent. Either I will have to flip through my “Sent” folder to find it or I will have to ask you and then you will get frustrated, causing me to get frustrated and then YELLING ENSUES! Or rather, CAPSLOCK ENSUES!
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Kenton, OH

#5 Oct 23, 2010
Text messaging has become a normal part of our daily routine. A quick way to say “Hello” or “I’m running late”. The problem is, many people use text messages as their main source of communication. Problem you say. Yes, problem! It is too hard to tell the tone of someone’s voice in a text message and it can often be misinterpreted. This has recently happened to me.

I met a guy and we dated for several weeks. When I say dated, I mean we saw each other about 5 days a week for the first few weeks and sent each other text messages all day long when we weren’t together. Everything just clicked. However, we never talked on the phone. So over the last week during several conversations through text messaging things went completely wrong. He thought I meant things one way, when in reality I was saying them another. He thought I was being rude, I thought he was being rude and now long story short, it has ended. I am very sad over this. I thought I found someone I could connect with. Someone I could laugh with and was very excited to get to know more about. And now it’s over.

It seems as though he wanted me to understand what he meant and I wanted him to understand what I meant but it wasn’t happening. A simple phone call or two could have proven that there were smiles behind our sarcasm and not attitude towards one another. The reason I am writing this blog is to let you all know that this can ruin a relationship or even a potential one in this case.

I found this article entitled “How Text Messaging Ruins Relationships”. And this is what it says:

The title is pretty self-explanatory, therefore eliminating the need for an introduction, so I’ll just dive right in!
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Kenton, OH

#6 Oct 23, 2010
sorry I messed this all up but you get the point
WhatWhat

United States

#7 Oct 23, 2010
I'm using my phone at this very momment to tell you that your post in my opinion is stupid.
grunt

Lancaster, OH

#8 Oct 23, 2010
such is life in the sinkhole, lol love it or leave it. kittycity will allways be maukville, and da pills. super human strength in those critters, also super stupidity, i get my highhs from thhe bible, amen if it isnt in there, it isnt true,.//////////// god bless all you critters, 3 words to all of you, courage, serenity and wisdom.///////// 5 major roads leaving here no matter which way you stand and look no major highways end here, simply amazing isnt it.//////
No it all 99

Orlando, FL

#9 Oct 23, 2010
Repost, i get it. Grunt, i get you too. Amen, to both.
amen

Kenton, OH

#10 Oct 23, 2010
repost is right! we went from writing little notes in school to talking on the phone as the older we get and then the internet came into out world, facebook twitter ect.. now this texting crap into the cellular world, how many of these peeps that has a cell phone live by it 24/7? and will stop at anything to see how is texting them? yep wonderful world we live in..
scexwax

Buffalo, NY

#11 Jan 5, 2013
everything in that post has happened to me and i can't stand fuckin textin anymore i only short text on occasion and and when their is a girl in my life i tell them if you wanna talk to me pick up the phone and call me i won't respond in text
lol

Minster, OH

#12 Jan 5, 2013
grunt wrote:
such is life in the sinkhole, lol love it or leave it. kittycity will allways be maukville, and da pills. super human strength in those critters, also super stupidity, i get my highhs from thhe bible, amen if it isnt in there, it isnt true,.//////// god bless all you critters, 3 words to all of you, courage, serenity and wisdom.///////// 5 major roads leaving here no matter which way you stand and look no major highways end here, simply amazing isnt it.//////
Your posting about how stupid poster is and how you get your high from the Bible. problem is your showing how stupid you are. First off the word Bible always has a capital letter (B) same with the word God always has a capital (G)(allways) is spelled (always) so before you start trying to ruin a post by posting about pills and crap you should at least show some respect to the religion you clame.

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