Child with ADHD out of control

Child with ADHD out of control

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Worried Mom

Lebanon, KY

#1 Mar 28, 2011
My child is not completely out of control but is on his way. He is under the age of 10 and seems to have alot of anger issues. When he was in kindergarten the school counseler suggested that he may have ADHD. So I took him to a doctor and he confirmed my fears. He suggested medicine but after much research I found that this was better controled, and much safer, by diet. This has been a few years ago and I cannot get him under control. Hes having problems in school with other children and adults. He back talks, he plays poor me pitty trips and he has no respect for anyone. I know that everyone will comment and say discipline, but just letting you know I practice that very consistantly. I use grounding. Grounding from pleasures, time outs, making him write about what he did wrong anf even assigning chores. I have tried coming down to his level and talking to him about his attitude and just when I think I have broke through, I get another call from the school. Do any other parents out there in this sittuation have any advice?
Judge

United States

#2 Mar 28, 2011
Worried Mom wrote:
My child is not completely out of control but is on his way. He is under the age of 10 and seems to have alot of anger issues. When he was in kindergarten the school counseler suggested that he may have ADHD. So I took him to a doctor and he confirmed my fears. He suggested medicine but after much research I found that this was better controled, and much safer, by diet. This has been a few years ago and I cannot get him under control. Hes having problems in school with other children and adults. He back talks, he plays poor me pitty trips and he has no respect for anyone. I know that everyone will comment and say discipline, but just letting you know I practice that very consistantly. I use grounding. Grounding from pleasures, time outs, making him write about what he did wrong anf even assigning chores. I have tried coming down to his level and talking to him about his attitude and just when I think I have broke through, I get another call from the school. Do any other parents out there in this sittuation have any advice?
Try busting his a$$ with a willow swich! Your life will get better, and it may keep him out of jail later in life.
Dad myself

Dyer, TN

#3 Mar 28, 2011
LOL I THINK Judge is trying to suggest that good old fashioned parenting might be the key....I however, am not sure. I wish you the best of luck! I always said I'd never let anyone put my kid on meds or diagnose them with ADHD and I always thought it was just that the parent's didn't want to control their children but, since I have my own child, I see how it can be a real problem! Perhaps you should consider some type of counseling for your child and for your family?

Since: Mar 11

Dyer, TN

#4 Mar 28, 2011
i had the same problem till i started taking my kid to the briscoe clinic at the hospital he goes to counseling nad sees the doctor and he is doing greattttttttt now if need anymore info email me at [email protected]
Worried Mom

Lebanon, KY

#5 Mar 28, 2011
Thank you srm2011. Back to what Judge said, I have tried spanking my child in the past and found that it was not affective. I try to stay away from anything that has to do with laying my hands on my child. I believe there are more affective discipline actions than that. Discipline is not the problem with my child, as I stated before it does not get through to him. Im not sure about counseling. My child doesnt have any deep rooted issues. He has no depression or resentment, its more of a impulsiveness problem. I also am not fond of the idea of putting my child on medication. Thats also why I would research anything before considering.
Judge

United States

#6 Mar 28, 2011
Worried Mom wrote:
Thank you srm2011. Back to what Judge said, I have tried spanking my child in the past and found that it was not affective. I try to stay away from anything that has to do with laying my hands on my child. I believe there are more affective discipline actions than that. Discipline is not the problem with my child, as I stated before it does not get through to him. Im not sure about counseling. My child doesnt have any deep rooted issues. He has no depression or resentment, its more of a impulsiveness problem. I also am not fond of the idea of putting my child on medication. Thats also why I would research anything before considering.
Don't get me wrong, I am not for hurting any child, but frankly I do not buy into all the Doctors, and their diagoses of ADHD, and in most cases now, putting them on meds. I feel that is part of the drug problem now. When kids get trained to take a pill to feel better, then they carry that over to adult life. Best of luck, I hope you can find an answer that works.

Pot Partaker

Since: Feb 11

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#7 Mar 28, 2011
Quite right, Judge. Natural methods are the best. Try spanking the child. Spankings are better than any meds.
lyn

White Plains, KY

#8 Mar 28, 2011
You could try the pills for a while and see how your son reacted to them. He may get some relief on them. I'm sure he don't like feeling the way he does. my grandson had to take them because he couldnt remember things very well.
wondering

Ripley, TN

#9 Mar 28, 2011
Worried Mom wrote:
My child is not completely out of control but is on his way. He is under the age of 10 and seems to have alot of anger issues. When he was in kindergarten the school counseler suggested that he may have ADHD. So I took him to a doctor and he confirmed my fears. He suggested medicine but after much research I found that this was better controled, and much safer, by diet. This has been a few years ago and I cannot get him under control. Hes having problems in school with other children and adults. He back talks, he plays poor me pitty trips and he has no respect for anyone. I know that everyone will comment and say discipline, but just letting you know I practice that very consistantly. I use grounding. Grounding from pleasures, time outs, making him write about what he did wrong anf even assigning chores. I have tried coming down to his level and talking to him about his attitude and just when I think I have broke through, I get another call from the school. Do any other parents out there in this sittuation have any advice?
You said that he saw a counselor in kindergarten. Was he angry at that time or just impulsive and overactive? When you say he has current problems in school with other kids and adults, is he aggressive? Is he aggressive with you?
Hmmm

New Haven, KY

#10 Mar 28, 2011
srm2011 wrote:
i had the same problem till i started taking my kid to the briscoe clinic at the hospital he goes to counseling nad sees the doctor and he is doing greattttttttt now if need anymore info email me at [email protected]
Did the doctor give you some diet pills as well?
truth

Corbin, KY

#11 Mar 28, 2011
if your child was in fact diagnosed with true adhd, it will drive the child crazy. he needs to be on meds if nothing you have done in the past has helped him. i took my child to comp care, and i told them that i have tried everything for the past 6 years, (and my child is also 10). they did numerous testing on him, and the doctor told me STOP grounding him for everything he does wrong, (or when i think he is not listening, not to ground him)..because my child cannot help the way he acts.(they also asked me why i did not get him help before now....i told them i did not want my child on medication, but if they couldn't do something to help him, then i needed to be on meds..because i was on my last nerve. well, come to find out...it drives the child just as crazy that they can't act normal...it really hurts them( if it is true adhd)...they try to do good, but they just cannot grasp it. i had been grounding my child and busting his ass for the past 6 years to no avail. (i never wanted to accept that he had adhd, but at least now, i know i didn't fail as a parent.) the only thing i failed at was not getting him help sooner...and some children do have to be on meds, if it is that out of control. i was definitely against meds, but you can tell them that if your child needs to be on meds then you want the lowest possible dose that they can give. and if it is true adhd, then you wont regret it. there is a big difference in a child not minding, and not doing as they are told, and being diagnosed with adhd.....the child with severe adhd needs help. they cannot grasp simple task that is so easy for the typical child. their mind goes a mile a minute, and it needs to be taken care of. after the doctors explained to me what was going on in his brain, i knew then that for my child to live a normal life, he needed the medication. and you can tell a difference in a mean bratty child that needs his butt spanked, and a child with severe adhd problems. it's really sad...
granny

Waco, KY

#12 Mar 28, 2011
Please do not put the child on Ritlin. If nothing else go to the natureal store and see if there isnt some thing there that could help. IF he has to go on meds that may be a good idea jsut NOT RItILLIN. I know i may have misspelled it and for the ones who do the spell correction on here i am sorry , But there are meds out there that may help. But for you and for him try some thing. Best of luck.
truth

Corbin, KY

#13 Mar 28, 2011
oh no, i would never suggest ritalin...but there are other drugs out there which really helps your child with staying focused on his/her schoolwork, daily activities, and so forth. a child with adhd struggles continuosly with focusing, and concentrating. the main meds they are using now are metadate, and concerta.
lyn

White Plains, KY

#14 Mar 28, 2011
I believe i had add. as a child,but i am 62 years & back then there was no such thing as adhd. I wasnt hyper but i couldnt remember very well. It was hard on me in school trying to memerize stuff.
Sage

Somerset, KY

#15 Mar 29, 2011
Some of what you are describing might be MORE than just ADHD. There is also a condition called Oppostional Defiant Syndrome. Much harder to deal with and even more likely to require medication. If you continue to refuse medication, your child will end becoming developmentally delayed both academically and socially. It will also result in even MORE anger and frustration. My son is now a freshman in college and required medication. He was diagnosed in 1st grade and after starting medication he had caught up with the rest of his class in less than 3 months. The longer you wait to get him some help, the more delayed he will become. I URGE you to consider the Briscoe clinic.
truth

Corbin, KY

#16 Mar 29, 2011
yes sage, when my child was truely diagnosed with adhd, he was sent to a team of doctors in lexington..that is when they told me that he also suffered from Oppositional Defiant Syndrome. i had never heard of it.....and the doctors also told me that too many in the health field are really quick in diagnosing children with adhd because the parents go in there wanting meds to calm there children down. this was not my case at all. i did not want meds, and i found out that by punishing him, and trying to control it with discipline that i was only hurting him. the doctors in lexington explained to me that it is a horrible horrible thing for a child to go through. they want to do right, but they just can't grasp it. when i see parents that are claiming that their children are suffering from adhd and it's not the case, it really upsets me. they think because their child doesn't mind, or the child is rowdy then they have adhd. it's really hard seeing a true sufferer struggling. and even with the doctors in lexington, they have educated myself on the subject. i only wish i would of gotten my child the help that he needed earlier.
parent

Dexter, MO

#17 Mar 29, 2011
odd,add,adhd are very trying on the parents,friends and family.
crazy ones at high school

Corbin, KY

#18 Mar 29, 2011
there are several kids at high school who need medication. they run around and disrupt things. one of the kids who need it the most will probably never get any help. the mother is a teacher and no one wants to cross her. they really need to get some help for this child. very sad situation.
jimbo

Sikeston, MO

#19 Mar 29, 2011
our child got very bad. social services got involved and ripped our family apart. keep it out of the system.
true

Fulton, KY

#20 Mar 29, 2011
sad and they ll put the chld n hosp

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