My wife isn't happy anymore

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Country boy

Middlesboro, KY

#1 Mar 2, 2013
I just can't figure women out. My wife says she isn't happy anymore. I'm a 30 yr old guy, very hard working , outgoing, and dedicated to providing for my wife. Yet, she isn't happy. We have been together 7 years, and things were great until recently. I feel that she does not appreciate the simple things in life, and we are drifting apart. I think she may file for divorce. I've tried everything, but if she does file, I won't attempt to stop her. It's going to be hard to date again, or even trust again. If it happens, I want to find a much younger girl who has nothing. One who appreciates what you give them. One I can travel the country with. Any suggestions?
Bth

Sheridan, AR

#3 Mar 2, 2013
Country boy wrote:
I just can't figure women out. My wife says she isn't happy anymore. I'm a 30 yr old guy, very hard working , outgoing, and dedicated to providing for my wife. Yet, she isn't happy. We have been together 7 years, and things were great until recently. I feel that she does not appreciate the simple things in life, and we are drifting apart. I think she may file for divorce. I've tried everything, but if she does file, I won't attempt to stop her. It's going to be hard to date again, or even trust again. If it happens, I want to find a much younger girl who has nothing. One who appreciates what you give them. One I can travel the country with. Any suggestions?
A much younger girl is not gonna appreciate you either.
,she'll take you for a ride,spend your money then find someone her own age,not all but most.It sounds to me like you really don't care if your wife does leave you ,and if you don't you don't love her either.She wants more attention from you.Less working your butt off for her.My guess is if you could talk you 2 could work it out.
well well

Los Angeles, CA

#5 Mar 2, 2013
buying your wife (stuff) is not compensation for the little things you could do to make her love you. Women become resentful of their spouses when they dont feel appreciated or they are not shown affection. Women thrive on knowing their husband loves them and thinks they are attractive it makes their day. You cant ignore your wife all day and then expect her to roll it over and give you some.. She will end up hating you for that. Be romantic. Marriages often fail because partners go from honeymooning to room mates... You have to have communication with eachother and more than just the basics.. You have to work at a marriage and if you are not on the same level feild you will never see eye to eye. You cant fight the world if you are using all your energy fighting eachother.. Hope i helped.
well well

Los Angeles, CA

#8 Mar 2, 2013
no the woman needs to put the same amount of effort the man does. You cant have one giving 20 percent and the other giving none...it just wont work. Marriage is a partnership and working with one another not against is the key. Women are complex and often misunderstood. We can say one thing and mean something else. And men dont get that. They dont dwell on details or small stuff. They are problem solvers and women are complainers. Its just the way it is. But keeping score or love banks is difficult when your trying to have a healthy relationship. So in a nut shell to have a good relationship is to come to the realization that al relationships have problems and everyone gets the 10 or inyour case 7 year itch. Spice it up, do something other than threatening to get a divorce all the time. Sometimes you can push people into doing things that u might unconciously want. Figure it out, cuz she probably will find someone that does treat her right and you will be a messy after thought.
joe

United States

#9 Mar 2, 2013
The best advice I can give you is to try to rekindle the fire again. Try dateing all over again if you have children find a babysitter and try spending time alone with each other and try to talk to her to find out why she is so unhappy. May God Bless You and I hope everything works out for you.
Mr Mackey

Middlesboro, KY

#10 Mar 2, 2013
Ahh, the seven year itch. Wait until you get the, "I love you but don't love you" stage.
Lonly too

Pikeville, KY

#11 Mar 2, 2013
Country boy wrote:
I just can't figure women out. My wife says she isn't happy anymore. I'm a 30 yr old guy, very hard working , outgoing, and dedicated to providing for my wife. Yet, she isn't happy. We have been together 7 years, and things were great until recently. I feel that she does not appreciate the simple things in life, and we are drifting apart. I think she may file for divorce. I've tried everything, but if she does file, I won't attempt to stop her. It's going to be hard to date again, or even trust again. If it happens, I want to find a much younger girl who has nothing. One who appreciates what you give them. One I can travel the country with. Any suggestions?
Watch the movie "Fireproof"!! It might help.
Mr Mackey

Middlesboro, KY

#12 Mar 2, 2013
Mr Mackey wrote:
Ahh, the seven year itch. Wait until you get the, "I love you but don't love you" stage.
Let me rephrase that..." I love you but I'm not in love with you". I still can't figure that one out.
Bth

Sheridan, AR

#13 Mar 2, 2013
Dawg wrote:
By the time hubby gets the "I'm not happy anymore speech", wifey is already getting dik somewhere else, and as the above poster pointed out its always the mans fault no matter the situation.
You are damned bad wrong.I lived in an unhappy marriage [and told him so,and tried to reach him]for 20 years,no cheating was ever involved.Sounds as you just hate women and are looking for any excuse to damn them.If men would listen and at least pretend to care their problems could be worked out.If she already had another man ,she wouldn't be unhappy and she wouldn't care what he did.
I know

Duluth, GA

#14 Mar 3, 2013
I have been there. From a woman's point of view. If she's telling you she's not happy she has another one already.

“Life is a compromise!”

Since: Nov 08

USA

#17 Mar 3, 2013
The I Love you but don't like you stage. That's almost impossible to correct. Very sad, but true for many people. I don't think it's a today problem. It's always been an issue for many couples. If you find yourself checking her pulse before she wakes, to see if she passed away during the night; then it's time to move on. May be a hassle to go through the breakup but is better than killing yourself or your partner. Lol
curious

Beloit, WI

#18 Mar 3, 2013
well well wrote:
buying your wife (stuff) is not compensation for the little things you could do to make her love you. Women become resentful of their spouses when they dont feel appreciated or they are not shown affection. Women thrive on knowing their husband loves them and thinks they are attractive it makes their day. You cant ignore your wife all day and then expect her to roll it over and give you some.. She will end up hating you for that. Be romantic. Marriages often fail because partners go from honeymooning to room mates... You have to have communication with eachother and more than just the basics.. You have to work at a marriage and if you are not on the same level feild you will never see eye to eye. You cant fight the world if you are using all your energy fighting eachother.. Hope i helped.
Well said! When you don't let her know she's wanted and needed and there is no romance. Then it's the sex is all about what he wants, they don't care what u want. You grow cold and resentful and miserable. Heck with material things, show me some affection, sit by me on the couch instead of the recliner. It's little things like that just some attention.
well well

United States

#19 Mar 3, 2013
curious wrote:
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Well said! When you don't let her know she's wanted and needed and there is no romance. Then it's the sex is all about what he wants, they don't care what u want. You grow cold and resentful and miserable. Heck with material things, show me some affection, sit by me on the couch instead of the recliner. It's little things like that just some attention.
thanks....sadly ive been there. But we fought through the rubble and are stronger than ever..
lucky guy

Middlesboro, KY

#20 Mar 3, 2013
Human Contradictions wrote:
The I Love you but don't like you stage. That's almost impossible to correct. Very sad, but true for many people. I don't think it's a today problem. It's always been an issue for many couples. If you find yourself checking her pulse before she wakes, to see if she passed away during the night; then it's time to move on. May be a hassle to go through the breakup but is better than killing yourself or your partner. Lol
The i love u but don't like u thing is just a big cop out.. You cant love somebody and not like them. Loving somebody isn't something you feel, its something u choose to do. The infatuation stage of a new relationship always wears off at some point, for some it might be at 4 years, for some 6 months. If 2 people choose to really work and communicate and really WANT a relationship to work, it can. We live in a throw away society. Don't like your car anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Don't like your house anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Don't like your spouse anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Except, let a couple years go by and you'll be right back in the same boat or worse most times.. Such a selfish, self-centered society we live in. Try not thinking about yourself and what you want so much and trying to make your partner as happy as you can and see what happens.. You'll be surprised..

“Life is a compromise!”

Since: Nov 08

USA

#21 Mar 3, 2013
lucky guy wrote:
<quoted text>The i love u but don't like u thing is just a big cop out.. You cant love somebody and not like them. Loving somebody isn't something you feel, its something u choose to do. The infatuation stage of a new relationship always wears off at some point, for some it might be at 4 years, for some 6 months. If 2 people choose to really work and communicate and really WANT a relationship to work, it can. We live in a throw away society. Don't like your car anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Don't like your house anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Don't like your spouse anymore? Throw it away and get a new one. Except, let a couple years go by and you'll be right back in the same boat or worse most times.. Such a selfish, self-centered society we live in. Try not thinking about yourself and what you want so much and trying to make your partner as happy as you can and see what happens.. You'll be surprised..
Exactly my point. That the throw away world is the status quo. I am happily married 30 yrs. now. I just know couples that are the I love you but I don't like you types. A paradox not a cop out.
hatingmarriedlif e

London, KY

#23 Mar 3, 2013
If you can get rid of her without giving her everything you worked for bentover and kiss the ground and think the lord for getting rid of her.
Tiger woods

Duluth, GA

#24 Mar 4, 2013
Yelp I think it's just a matter of time untill she is gone. I love you but I'm not happy any more means if got someone new, and I don't want every body to think its my fault. Yelp been there done that. Why would someone want to be with a person that you can't trust anyway. Life is to short dude. Put her ass out for awhile. When she gets done screwing around in 6 or 8 mounths she might find out the grass was just as green where she was at before she left. Then tell the bitch you are not happy anymore. What comes around goes around.
Positive thinking

United States

#25 Mar 4, 2013
Watch the movie Fireproof with your wife before either of you do anything you regret
my advice

London, KY

#27 Mar 7, 2013
You need to ignore her. That right, ignore her. If you give her more attn she will just continue to drift away, but if you give her less attention, she will start to want you again. Sounds crazy, but trust me, it will work.
fran

El Paso, AR

#28 Mar 9, 2013
I know wrote:
I have been there. From a woman's point of view. If she's telling you she's not happy she has another one already.
Maybe you did,but not all women or men are alike,why bother telling him you are unhappy if you have another and are committing adultry ?What would be the point ?To torture him and try to make him feel it's his fault?If you are cheating you deserve all the unhappiness you get,but i think you are a liar,you aren't or wasn't unhappy.You were only trying to justify your guilt.

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