Texting and if I should mind.

Since: Oct 10

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#24 Mar 28, 2013
wife wrote:
<quoted text>. I am not from any other thread. I am just a struggling woman wondering what happened to the man I married. Hard to accept that a few words from another woman over a period of time could change him so. Hard to believe that he can excuse his actions. Hard to believe he has just low self-esteem that he would throw away 28 years of our lives because he is too proud to admit he is wrong. The bad thing is that the kids and I are enjoying ourselves since he left. We have become people instead of just objects in his life.
Good luck and I was not at all trying to be rude or disrespectful. Just honest as bad as it sounded.
Leigh

Traverse City, MI

#25 Mar 28, 2013
gypsyrose44 wrote:
A married man has NO business texting another woman same goes for a married woman. I know about depression because it is a daily struggle for me but I get up and fight it everyday I am determined to beat it. Your husband has put himself and your marriage in a bad place. I know if you let it continue it will be the end of your marriage. There is no way I would go to bed and let my husband stay up and text another woman. By doing this he is disrespecting you and your relationship. You need to ask yourself this question "why would my husband be willing to help this woman or give so much time to this woman when he knows his wife is in trouble and fighting depressions?" I know your feelings and how you can barely hold your head up but you have to get brave and fight for what is worth fighting for! You deserve more and you deserve better so you stand tall and you demand it! He is out of line and if he loves you he will stop after you get up and shake things up. If he doesn't stop then you pack his things and put them by the door but don't play games if you do that go all the way with it or he won't take you seriously. It would be heartbreaking if he doesn't stop right? I know it would be but do you really want to be with a man who has all his time saved up for the "coworker "? The coworker is not the one taking time from the two of you, your husband is! He can put an end to this any time he gets ready to and his time needs to be TONIGHT! Don't let your depression completely take over your life and don't let anyone else use your depression for their own advantage. He is your husband and you need to remind him of that and how much you need him right now. The coworker doesn't deserve this time that you need but as his wife YOU DO DESERVE IT. Good luck, keep your chin up and fight for what you want.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I am getting better little by little. I need to fix myself and hang in there for the kids. I can't change the situation just myself and to where that leads is in Gods hands. Everyone has their faults and I know that I have plenty but not deserving of being disrespected.
kid

Rowlett, TX

#26 Mar 28, 2013
I just picked up Mom's phone and read all this. I am so hurt by my father. He has never told us why he left but I read a lot of the texts and stuff. Now he is claiming my mom was cheating and she didn't contribute enough. That is such bull. Mom was so busy with us, Sunday school, scouts, community work and taking care of his every need she never had time to do anything for herself. We ate what and when he wanted. Went where he wanted. All of us had to toe the line to keep him happy. In a way life is easier without him but he is such a liar. Says he is honorable and has integrity. He has nothing and is nothing. I pray to God to be a better man then that.

Since: Oct 10

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#27 Mar 28, 2013
Ok, now I'm starting to think this is a bunch of bs. It's just getting a little far fetched. REALLY!? Kids pick up Mom's phone so we can happen to get a perspective from the child's point of view. I'm just not that gullable.
kid

Trumann, AR

#28 Mar 28, 2013
The All Knowing wrote:
Ok, now I'm starting to think this is a bunch of bs. It's just getting a little far fetched. REALLY!? Kids pick up Mom's phone so we can happen to get a perspective from the child's point of view. I'm just not that gullable.
. Mom and I were having breakfast and she tole me about people talking about other guys doing the same stuff as my father is why I looked. Mom is cool with us looking at hee phone. She don't have nothing to hide.

Since: Oct 10

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#29 Mar 28, 2013
Uh huh

Since: Oct 11

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#30 Mar 28, 2013
The thing is.... while Topix maybe a form of therapy for some... it also has a twisted way of being a place for revenge. Think real hard about that. Venting won't change the outcome. It won't change him. And.... it won't change how you feel.

Since: Oct 11

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#31 Mar 28, 2013
The All Knowing wrote:
Ok, now I'm starting to think this is a bunch of bs. It's just getting a little far fetched. REALLY!? Kids pick up Mom's phone so we can happen to get a perspective from the child's point of view. I'm just not that gullable.
A woman scorned will do most anything to make the pain go away.... even if it's for a little while. A quick fix such as Topix is a real bad option. Throwing his sh!t outside & running over it numerous times with a truck is so much better!:)

Since: Oct 10

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#32 Mar 28, 2013
The Laptop Lolita wrote:
The thing is.... while Topix maybe a form of therapy for some... it also has a twisted way of being a place for revenge. Think real hard about that. Venting won't change the outcome. It won't change him. And.... it won't change how you feel.
Its really hard to take anything serious on here!
guest

Jonesboro, AR

#33 Mar 28, 2013
The All Knowing wrote:
Coming from a man who has done this on numerous occasions,(and no I'm bragging or proud of it) THERE IS SOMETHING GOING ON. It may be only an emotional connection now, but he is working towards something physical even if she is not. That's just the way men and women work. I also feel like "wife" is from one of the deleted threads from last week. And you all know which ones I'm talking about. I would mention the name, but they get deleted pretty quickly when that happens. The deal is that men have physical needs, and when those needs cease to be met, a man will begin to look other places. I believe Katt Williams said it best, "Ladies, if you will not *&%$ a man's &*%$ then he knows a raggedy bitch who will, and he has her number." -Katt Williams.
I think you hit the nail on the head. Men and women both go looking for something that their partner is not giving them. Women seem to get away with it more often and claim it is only for attention. If your husband is texting this woman alot, watch out. You can go on your cellphone provider and see what numbers he text/calls and how much. You should seek help/counciling for your depression and marriage. My guess is your depression is hurting your marriage. That or find you a boy toy and see how he likes it and let him know what your doing.
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#34 Mar 29, 2013
Sorry my son posting messed with everyone's head. His dad left us all. We share the pain, the bills, the broken lives and anything that makes it better. Knowing that someone else was facing the same thing helped in a silly way.
Someone

United States

#35 Mar 30, 2013
Leigh wrote:
I have an issue with my husband and his "friend". I do not believe that they are not having an affair. We both have hit 40 so my emotions have been getting the better of me. I have been utterly depressed and this doesn't make matters any better. She is a co-worker and has issues with her home life. So he has befriended her and they text all day every day. I go to bed earlier and he is up and they text. He says they just talk about kids and just stuff but I feel that she is invading my time with my husband. He says she is like sister and they joke and such. I have attempted to be her friend too because I want to show support but where is the line drawn? I have spoken with him and we have even fought about it but I don't know how to get my point across that it is hurting me emotionally and that he evidently has an emotional connection to her. I think she is a nice person but is she looking for more from him and he doesn't realize it? I have seeked help for my depression. I haven't been myself for awhile. I do have an open mind about things but this has just been too much. Any thoughts?
My thoughts is that you either need to put your foot down and put a stop to it or leave because there is nothing innocent about what you're describing.
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#36 Mar 30, 2013
Someone wrote:
<quoted text>
My thoughts is that you either need to put your foot down and put a stop to it or leave because there is nothing innocent about what you're describing.
. You are so right but my husband made me the bad guy for questioning him. Her husband called him out on it too.
well

United States

#37 Mar 30, 2013
Most the time the texting relationships are innocent at first. I personally know that I have had a friend that had been nothing but strictly friends for over 2 years. It would sometimes go a little dirty but it stayed in a joking manner. UNTIL recently! It went From friend to lover. We was both single. But now some issues came up and I lost a good friend. So it's not always a bad thing.
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#38 Mar 30, 2013
well wrote:
Most the time the texting relationships are innocent at first. I personally know that I have had a friend that had been nothing but strictly friends for over 2 years. It would sometimes go a little dirty but it stayed in a joking manner. UNTIL recently! It went From friend to lover. We was both single. But now some issues came up and I lost a good friend. So it's not always a bad thing.
. My husband has lost a family, his home, his dignity, his friend and I fear his mind. All because he let a shallow woman use him to build her ego and laughed at him behind his back.
Stupid

Jonesboro, AR

#41 Mar 30, 2013
This is all BS and needs to be removed!
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#42 Mar 31, 2013
Stupid wrote:
This is all BS and needs to be removed!
. Are you a texted or a texted? Believe me. This is real.

Since: Oct 10

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#43 Mar 31, 2013
Stupid wrote:
This is all BS and needs to be removed!
Whats the matter? Couldn't get it removed!?
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#44 Mar 31, 2013
Wonder if "stupid" is Leigh's husband or mine. The truth stings doesn't it guys? You are wrong and you know it. Blame everyone else but you goofed.
wife

Jonesboro, AR

#45 Mar 31, 2013
Made my kids go see their dad tonight. It is Easter. They came home and said he treated them like strangers. He talked his head off about politics and acted like he was starved for an audience but was totally emotionally detached. My son says his father has lost his mind. That he is a crazy bitter old man. Both kids say they don't want him back home. He is my husband. Yes he has done wrong. He has lied to me and about me but I do love him. I wish Bell had never invented the phone. My husband is too lazy to have a real affair but he could text. What do I do now?

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