spoiled teenage stepdaughter

spoiled teenage stepdaughter

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confused

Jonesboro, AR

#1 Sep 17, 2008
My wife has spolied her daughter so bad. She has no respect for her mom or anyone else in the house. She basically thinks we are her taxi cab service & has anything & everything she wants given to her. She can be very hateful especially to her mother. Nothing I can do though, I'm the stepdad. Sorry but this kid's a brat. Any suggestions????
A mom

Little Elm, TX

#2 Sep 17, 2008
Not really much you can do. Anything that you can do will only make you look bad.
ASU student

State University, AR

#3 Sep 17, 2008
What does her mom think about the situation? Have you thought about her getting a job?
Meee

State University, AR

#4 Sep 17, 2008
Wait it out. She won't stay a teenager forever.
Teenage girls are crazy,dramatic and hormonal. She has to turn 18 and move out eventually.
also there

Manila, AR

#5 Sep 17, 2008
You have my sympathy. Although in my case the stepchild is over 21 and still spoiled so I don't know if going past 18 will make much of a difference. Sometimes I think this one is still nursing.
curious

Schaumburg, IL

#6 Sep 17, 2008
confused wrote:
My wife has spolied her daughter so bad. She has no respect for her mom or anyone else in the house. She basically thinks we are her taxi cab service & has anything & everything she wants given to her. She can be very hateful especially to her mother. Nothing I can do though, I'm the stepdad. Sorry but this kid's a brat. Any suggestions????
Does this teenagers name begin aith a 'B'? I think i know who u are, and i agree she is SPOILED and her mother needs to step up and puit her foot down, if she doesn't then maybe u should. If the mother can't accept your role in the relationship with her daughter, then you don;'t need to be together anyway.
confused

Jonesboro, AR

#7 Sep 17, 2008
ha ha no, sorry her daughter's name doesn't begin with "B" I'm sure I'm not the only one dealing with this though. This kid's is "grounded" from time to time but that does nothing

“Fun in the desert”

Since: Sep 08

Groomlake NV

#8 Sep 17, 2008
yep
unknown

Lake Charles, LA

#9 Sep 17, 2008
stand up to her and tell her "no". Disciple is the hardest thing to force onto someone.
janice

Paragould, AR

#10 Sep 17, 2008
give your wife support and encouragement in her decisions, but stepping in and trying to be a dad will cause tension and put a wedge between you and your wife. My stepson and I came to blows because I tried to be the dad he never had and nothing I did worked, and it escalated. But you can't come between a woman and her kid, no matter how unruly he is. My wife and I seperated over it, because women have that strong bond between their kids and if you try to break it they will choose the kids over you every time.
john not janice

Paragould, AR

#11 Sep 17, 2008
sorry, daughter posted something earlier and I didnt change her name LOL
duhh

Hermann, MO

#12 Sep 17, 2008
Stop being such a pussy and put your foot down! She is a kid and should thus be treated as one, unless she signs your paycheck or pays all the bills she should not be allowed to boss anyone. If you can't do that then stop being so pussy whipped and leave and let her mother deal with her catastrophe alone.
Don't try to be her dad or her best friend but, do be an adult that she can respect and that means taking control of the situation. After all if her mother isn't going to be a mother then you should step up to the plate and do what is right.
Maybe the mom needs some discipline herself.
I will bet that the mom and daughter are best friends, and if so therein lies the problem.
Just A Girl

West Point, MS

#13 Sep 17, 2008
I understand the situation you are talking about. My sister is the same way with her son and her new husband of less than 4 months is about to go crazy. My nephew will not spend anytime with them unless they are entertaining him.... Like shopping, Movies, going here and going there..... If they are not spending money on him he refused to be with them. I told her and I will tell you the same thing.... PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN..... if he don't want to sepend time with her.... I told her to make plans after he desides if he is going to be with her for the weekend.... and if he aint to make sure she goes and does something really FUN!!!! for herself.
Just Wondering

Mountain Home, AR

#14 Sep 17, 2008
If you ask a mom to chose between you and her daughter she will pick the daughter, simply refuse to take part in the spoiling game. If they ask you to do something you don't think is in her or your families best interest don't do it, and stand up for what you believe is right. If your wife gets mad and threatens to divorce you, so be it your better off.
Mrs P

Little Rock, AR

#15 Sep 17, 2008
Having had FOUR different step-parents... there really is no good answer to this question.
I've had two step-mothers whom my dad has let run me off on several occasions.
And one of my step-dad's tried to discipline me but more-so my brother and I believe that's one reason my mom divorced him.
All I can say is try to let the step-daughter know that you really do care for her and have her best interest at heart. You might want to talk to your wife about the situation. Maybe try the "it bothers me the way she treats you" approach.
I'm not sure that I agree with the "put your foot down" method - it's just going to make the step-daughter resent you more and your wife will always (in the end)side with her kids.
You're in a sticky situation. Good luck.
guest

Lake Charles, LA

#16 Sep 17, 2008
My ex wife who I lived more than anything,,,we had to split up over the kids,,,,,I could not handle her wanting to be her kids best friend,,,you can be your kids best friend,,,but you also have to know when to be the parent,,,since I wanted my son to grow up with out being spoiled,,,we had to split,,,,you cannot blend families unless both parents have the same vaules in raising children,,,my advise to 95% of the people wanting to blend familes,,,DONT,,,date untill the kids are out of the house,,,sure wish I had
shining

AOL

#17 Sep 17, 2008
confused wrote:
My wife has spolied her daughter so bad. She has no respect for her mom or anyone else in the house. She basically thinks we are her taxi cab service & has anything & everything she wants given to her. She can be very hateful especially to her mother. Nothing I can do though, I'm the stepdad. Sorry but this kid's a brat. Any suggestions????
she needs to be chastized,chastized to the extreme. scare the hell out of her,tell her she can't watch "sex in the city"...
good luck

Georgetown, TX

#18 Sep 17, 2008
janice wrote:
give your wife support and encouragement in her decisions, but stepping in and trying to be a dad will cause tension and put a wedge between you and your wife. My stepson and I came to blows because I tried to be the dad he never had and nothing I did worked, and it escalated. But you can't come between a woman and her kid, no matter how unruly he is. My wife and I seperated over it, because women have that strong bond between their kids and if you try to break it they will choose the kids over you every time.
This is true. I am about to be divorced and 95% of our problems were over the kids. She has a duaghter and I have a son, and both are the same age. When it came to making our kids behave hers was off limits. I could make mine behave but I better try and make hers mind. Advice pray like you have never prayed before for a strong marriage.
Yo Don Vito

West Plains, MO

#19 Sep 17, 2008
Spoiled or not spoiled sounds like a typical teenager to me
guest

United States

#20 Sep 17, 2008
confused wrote:
My wife has spolied her daughter so bad. She has no respect for her mom or anyone else in the house. She basically thinks we are her taxi cab service & has anything & everything she wants given to her. She can be very hateful especially to her mother. Nothing I can do though, I'm the stepdad. Sorry but this kid's a brat. Any suggestions????
Where is her bio-dad?

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