I did say earlier in the discussion that if it's something you enjoy *together*(that's the operative word) then whatever floats your boat, I don't care. When it is something that is done in secret behind a wife's (or husband's) back, and causes them emotional pain then it is NOT OK.Well maybe I am not normal, but I am a female that loves porn. I like to watch it with my man. I have enough self confidence to not be jealous of a naked woman on tv. I tend to find porn very arousing myself and it puts a little spice in our sex when we watch it. I have no problem masterabating or knowing that he is...its human nature. You have to mix things up from time to time after years of marriage. Like let him watch you get yourself off...trust me- men love it! Or watch him get himself off. Its important to learn what pleases you and your mate. I say go to seductions and buy a good movie and some flavored oil and have some fun.
I really thought I was making my position clear, but maybe I wasn't. But to say that's just how men are and women should accept it, well that's a crock. Men expect fidelity and accountability from their wives, and there is NOTHING wrong with a wife expecting the same from her husband. That is something that should be a non issue for everyone, male or female.