I'm so lonely. Somebody please help me!! Please?

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mthart

West Plains, MO

#1 Nov 15, 2008
i'm married. On paper. 20 years. But why do i feel so alone? Why do i feel so mt? I'm a really good guy but I only seem to suffer for it. I'm considerate. I'm empathetic. I'm a hard worker. Why am I so miserable? What have I done?

Should I believe in love like the movies have? Should I hope for something better?

I'm a 43 year old man. I've always done what I thought was right. Why do I feel so lonely?

I'm dying inside. Somebody help me.

Why do some guys have it so good? I would treat a girl so much better and yet I suffer.

I believe in movie love. Is there a girl out there that feels like me?

Do you need love? Love like that in the movies?
guest

Lake Charles, LA

#2 Nov 15, 2008
First of all movie love is movie love. That's not real life. Love is beautiful, yes, but marriage is not always beautiful. Marriage takes a lot of work, and it's not always the easiest thing ever. I think you and your wife should try talking to someone, and if you can't work it out, then maybe divorce is the best option for you. Looking for someone on topix will not help your situation.
maybe

United States

#3 Nov 15, 2008
why all the desperation? what's wrong with your marriage that you can't get the kind of love you speak of there? what can you do to change things?
Laughing Girl

Little Rock, AR

#4 Nov 15, 2008
mthart wrote:
i'm married. On paper. 20 years. But why do i feel so alone? Why do i feel so mt? I'm a really good guy but I only seem to suffer for it. I'm considerate. I'm empathetic. I'm a hard worker. Why am I so miserable? What have I done?
Should I believe in love like the movies have? Should I hope for something better?
I'm a 43 year old man. I've always done what I thought was right. Why do I feel so lonely?
I'm dying inside. Somebody help me.
Why do some guys have it so good? I would treat a girl so much better and yet I suffer.
I believe in movie love. Is there a girl out there that feels like me?
Do you need love? Love like that in the movies?
Call a marriage counselor. Go alone if she won't go with you. Call Monday. You may not get your problems resolved but you WILL feel better. I know.
ForReal

Lake Charles, LA

#5 Nov 15, 2008
You are probably lonely because you put more emotion on this web site than you have shared with your spouse in the last, oh 5 years, probably. Go to her and tell her what you have shared with us. There is no love unless you make it happen. It won't fall out of the sky or happen to you like a movie.
been there

Perrysburg, OH

#6 Nov 15, 2008
I agree.You've probably said more words here than she's heard since you were married.Taking your problems public sure won't improve the matter,either.I don't think my ex said this many words in 12 years to me,much less told me how he really felt.If I'd known,I would have tried harder,but,since he didn't,neither did I.Neither one of us tried very hard,that's why we are now "ex's." Talk to HER,not to strangers,and,ask her to go with you to marriage therapy.You might be surprised to find that "movie love" is right there beside you all this time.
Remember the song "The Island Song" or something about Pina coladas? All along the spouses were talking to one another but didn't know it.
Perfect

Ash Flat, AR

#7 Nov 15, 2008
Sometimes things aren't as bad as you think they are. People aren't perfect and when you leave one to find another, it is just a matter of time before you realize they aren't perfect either. You must have something going to have been together that long. The saying that you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone is very true. I know that from experience.
Multiple Sarcasms

Lake Charles, LA

#8 Nov 15, 2008
ForReal wrote:
You are probably lonely because you put more emotion on this web site than you have shared with your spouse in the last, oh 5 years, probably. Go to her and tell her what you have shared with us. There is no love unless you make it happen. It won't fall out of the sky or happen to you like a movie.
Head of Nail met the Hammer there
been there

Perrysburg, OH

#9 Nov 15, 2008
Sorry,not the "Island Song" duhhh,it's the "escape song."

&fe ature=related

Not trying to make fun of your situation,but,just pointing out that the grass always LOOKS greener on the other side until you have to go mow it.
mthart

West Plains, MO

#10 Nov 15, 2008
you guys are wise. I'm not looking for a hookup just a sympathetic ear. Thanks again but there is no way that based on what I told you all that you could make a good judgment on my situation. It's just that I feel so alone and needed to say something to someone. I've talked to her for 20 years daily but it seems to her that it is just a legal arrangment with responsibilities on both sides of the contract.

I believe i will go see a counselor. thanks again
TADA

Lake Charles, LA

#11 Nov 15, 2008
Maybe your empty because you lost yourself. I have seen alot of people that get married and they lose their identity. Work, come home, go to church, sex on Sunday night and then start it all over again.

What do you like to do? What do you want to do? If your not happy, i would wager your not bringing any happiness to your family. Marriage doesn't mean, life over. Pursue hobbies and interests. If you need some of those interests and hobbies to be by yourself, explain it to your wife. I am sure she would rather hear something like "I want to take flight lessons" or "Ive always wanted to learn to scuba dive" and do it alone MUCH MORE then she'd like to come home one day to your bags packed by the front door. Then maybe when you find something fulfilling that gives you some inner happiness, your family will get to enjoy you're outer happiness.

But movies??? cummon... If your trying to find someone that will sweep you off your feet and bring you some imaginary happiness that movies create, your not going to find it. You may find someone, then divorce your wife after some adultery and before you know it, your unhappy again with the new woman because you have again depended on someone else to bring you happiness instead of finding it within yourself.
been there

Perrysburg, OH

#12 Nov 15, 2008
Sorry to sound judgemental about it.If there's no spark or romance,it's just dry dull same old same old.I'd tell her that you're on the way out if it doesn't improve between the 2 of you.Trust me,if my ex old man had said that to me,I would have worked at it a lot harder than I did.Maybe she will,maybe not,but,at least you won't be able to say you didn't try.
guest

Lake Charles, LA

#13 Nov 15, 2008
mthart wrote:
i'm married. On paper. 20 years. But why do i feel so alone? Why do i feel so mt? I'm a really good guy but I only seem to suffer for it. I'm considerate. I'm empathetic. I'm a hard worker. Why am I so miserable? What have I done?
Should I believe in love like the movies have? Should I hope for something better?
I'm a 43 year old man. I've always done what I thought was right. Why do I feel so lonely?
I'm dying inside. Somebody help me.
Why do some guys have it so good? I would treat a girl so much better and yet I suffer.
I believe in movie love. Is there a girl out there that feels like me?
Do you need love? Love like that in the movies?
You said 'Is there a girl out there that feels like me?'

Sounds like you are looking for more than a sympathetic ear to me. Maybe a sympathetic pair of legs.....
Old married lady

AOL

#14 Nov 15, 2008
I have been married all most 40 years. I love him more now than then. I would rather spend time with him than anyone else in the world. Yes, we have had our hard times but we all ways knew we loved each other,no mater what! We do have the movie kind of love, it is possible, but it takes time and work to get it. Start by seeing your family doctor, you may be depressed and not realize it. I wish you happyness.
Single D

Lake Charles, LA

#15 Nov 15, 2008
mthart wrote:
i'm married. On paper. 20 years. But why do i feel so alone? Why do i feel so mt? I'm a really good guy but I only seem to suffer for it. I'm considerate. I'm empathetic. I'm a hard worker. Why am I so miserable? What have I done?
Should I believe in love like the movies have? Should I hope for something better?
I'm a 43 year old man. I've always done what I thought was right. Why do I feel so lonely?
I'm dying inside. Somebody help me.
Why do some guys have it so good? I would treat a girl so much better and yet I suffer.
I believe in movie love. Is there a girl out there that feels like me?
Do you need love? Love like that in the movies?
French cries, with that wahhhhhhh burger? You say you would treat a girl better,? huh? Why not start with the one you have. 20 yrs is a long time, long time to piss off, get out of whatever routine your in, and try something diffrent, go to one of your "movie love" movies, go dancing, go hiking, go camping, rent a motel with a hot tub, go swinging, buy a porn, get her flowers, cook her dinner, take her to dinner, buy her a vibrator and use it with her, some people would love to have what you have, but crying about it want help the problems, doing something will.
moot

Denmark

#16 Nov 15, 2008
Go to Vegas! Bang a bunch of hookers and do some xtacy! Sky dive and snort a line of coke off a dead hookers ass..
then come back to god for saken jonesfuckingboro and see how you feel then.
if you still feel bad then reference to the porch thread and An Hero yourself! no not really

“Hot, Sweet, & Sticky”

Since: Nov 08

Lake City

#17 Nov 16, 2008
I'm also 43 and married for 18 years. It sounds as if you are married to a woman that takes you for granted. She's pushing you away by not taking you or your relationship seriously. You aren't getting what you need out of the marriage and she seems uninterested in your needs. Does she ever express feelings? She must be just as miserable as you are. Call me a hopeless romantic if you wish, but I believe there is love like that in the movies too. No relationship is perfect by any means, but it takes two to make it work. Don't give up if you truly love her. If you don't, save both of you a lot of grief and end it.
guest

Leesville, LA

#19 Nov 16, 2008
maybe you should seperate for awhile. You might find you are happier.
Party

Ash Flat, AR

#20 Nov 16, 2008
Life is a party, Leave your wife, Quit your job, Sit on the computer all day cybering with Hoes. Then when the money runs out sleep under a cold bridge and think back on the life that you had.
Not ok

Bossier City, LA

#22 Nov 16, 2008
guest wrote:
Please kill yourself and make sure you take alot of innocent people with you, it is the only thing that will make you feel better. Would make me feel better, heck i'm smiling just thinking about it. Make sure it happens at a playground or something that way it will cause a stir. God bless.
Don't say things like that. What if the person actually were to do it. Wouldn't you be an accessory to murder? Son of Sam said the dog told him to kill. The man will tell the police the dumb ass on topix told you to.

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