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In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#1 Nov 9, 2012
I'm 25 years old, single mother of two... I am currently living with my boyfriend of a year... in this year.. it has been up and down.. he has cheated on me...via sexting... and quite possibly slept with her... i dealt with her two or three times a week... then I found where he had been looking on some casual sex dating sites... and he makes comments about other girls... which makes me feel insecure about myself even more... i used to be beautiful and hot.. but now...i mean im not chopped liver but i got a few strech marks..and it hasnt always been this way..it just started about 7months ago getting more distant, then the comments, and now this... and i have a feeling its over.. or maybe it me.. and it takes time to heal wounds... but i dont feel like im his best friend anymore...he dont talk to me.. and wouldnt really help when I broke my leg.. please help... im needing some advise

Since: Mar 11

Jonesboro, AR

#2 Nov 9, 2012
In my opinion, you have every right to feel the way you do. There are problems that need to be addressed and younger to understand that the answer may not come for a while nor may it be the one you were hoping for.

I'd seek out family, close friends and even professional help over taking advice from this crowd as user on topix are more about talking trash and judging people.
RUN

State University, AR

#3 Nov 9, 2012
Leave there just like you came in,take nothing thats not yours and leave, I know how this works,and you will not get very good advice on here at all.But if your have folks around or a place to go .My advice is to leve asap.its just not gonna work,Hence the word ( marraige) this is whee it should be evident , and you proll wouldnt be haveing this prob. untill then ?is it gonna work,,im Frayed Knot
Run

United States

#4 Nov 9, 2012
In need of some advice wrote:
I'm 25 years old, single mother of two... I am currently living with my boyfriend of a year... in this year.. it has been up and down.. he has cheated on me...via sexting... and quite possibly slept with her... i dealt with her two or three times a week... then I found where he had been looking on some casual sex dating sites... and he makes comments about other girls... which makes me feel insecure about myself even more... i used to be beautiful and hot.. but now...i mean im not chopped liver but i got a few strech marks..and it hasnt always been this way..it just started about 7months ago getting more distant, then the comments, and now this... and i have a feeling its over.. or maybe it me.. and it takes time to heal wounds... but i dont feel like im his best friend anymore...he dont talk to me.. and wouldnt really help when I broke my leg.. please help... im needing some advise
Your heart knows what to do. Follow it. If he's doing this now, it won't get better.
legit br

Haslet, TX

#5 Nov 9, 2012
Well you can tell what kind a man he is by how he acts of he is willing to sext other girls then get on those sex sites then does he truly cherish you and Yalls relationship. This is your decision but think do you want to put up with this the rest of your life. And if u choose to leave him you gotta remember you cannot expect something diff by looking in the same places.
In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#6 Nov 9, 2012
SenseiDyer wrote:
In my opinion, you have every right to feel the way you do. There are problems that need to be addressed and younger to understand that the answer may not come for a while nor may it be the one you were hoping for.
I'd seek out family, close friends and even professional help over taking advice from this crowd as user on topix are more about talking trash and judging people.
I have...several people...i have talked to even professionals... and its about 50/50... I have already been married... i was with the same guy for over 10 years and married for 5... and it seems like eveytime i get with a guy.. this happens to me... my mom tells me i take to much crap from people.. i just do want to end up with same old story and waste another 10 years on someone who doesnt love me.. and i looked towards topixs to get some advice

Since: Mar 11

Jonesboro, AR

#7 Nov 9, 2012
In need of some advice wrote:
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I have...several people...i have talked to even professionals... and its about 50/50... I have already been married... i was with the same guy for over 10 years and married for 5... and it seems like eveytime i get with a guy.. this happens to me... my mom tells me i take to much crap from people.. i just do want to end up with same old story and waste another 10 years on someone who doesnt love me.. and i looked towards topixs to get some advice
I too was married for just shy of 13 years and understand the position you are in. I can tell you from my persective and history, it took a divorce and a complete change in what I was doing. First, I had to change my direction. I could not meet people different than what I had been meeting if I followed the same path I was when I met them in the first place. Second, you need to be honest about what you want from someone. I don't mean just love, but emotional support, the ability to talk, the values you have and want to share...

I hope that you are able to find some help with the advice given.
Just Maybe

Jonesboro, AR

#8 Nov 9, 2012
Just Maybe if you married the guys first, then moved in together and had babies it might work better. I know that is an old fashioned view point. But what ever happened to "for better or for worse for ever and ever"?

If you are going to keep giving them free samples and be there when ever HE wants you, then that's what you can expect until he finds another young sweety that will put out and put up with him doing the same thing to her in a few years.

When he finds her, then he will put YOU OUT, so you might as well move out on your own terms now.

Might as well move out and get a hud house and move on with your life.

Since: Oct 11

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#9 Nov 9, 2012
You're still hot dear... just "mom" hot now:) Don't you dare let a man dictate how you feel about yourself. Some stray, some don't. In all honesty, it's not you or your problem... it's his. This Alpha male, hunter instinct some have isn't something you can fix or change. When reality of kids & domestication hits them... you have two types of men. Ones that step up & ones that step out. Things change, priorities change... it's not all about getting drunk & naked running buck wild & rewriting the Kama Sutra:) Personally, the first time of his "dishonesty" would've been his first & last warning. Now you're in a precarious situation... you've ALLOWED him to have many incidences of bad behavior. He's taking advantage of your sweet nature.
In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#10 Nov 9, 2012
Just Maybe wrote:
Just Maybe if you married the guys first, then moved in together and had babies it might work better. I know that is an old fashioned view point. But what ever happened to "for better or for worse for ever and ever"?
If you are going to keep giving them free samples and be there when ever HE wants you, then that's what you can expect until he finds another young sweety that will put out and put up with him doing the same thing to her in a few years.
When he finds her, then he will put YOU OUT, so you might as well move out on your own terms now.
Might as well move out and get a hud house and move on with your life.
how hateful and judgemental...for your information.. i only got pregant with my husband and he was my first... and that was after we was married... Im a successful.. i have a college degree... I go to church.. and i have no need for government help... I have just never been in this situation.. I have always did the right thing.. this is the first time I have lived with i guy i wasnt married to...
In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#11 Nov 9, 2012
SenseiDyer wrote:
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I too was married for just shy of 13 years and understand the position you are in. I can tell you from my persective and history, it took a divorce and a complete change in what I was doing. First, I had to change my direction. I could not meet people different than what I had been meeting if I followed the same path I was when I met them in the first place. Second, you need to be honest about what you want from someone. I don't mean just love, but emotional support, the ability to talk, the values you have and want to share...
I hope that you are able to find some help with the advice given.
thank you sooo much.. for not being judgemental.. and understanding..!! it has helped a whole lot!

Since: Mar 11

Jonesboro, AR

#12 Nov 9, 2012
In need of some advice wrote:
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thank you sooo much.. for not being judgemental.. and understanding..!! it has helped a whole lot!
You also mentioned you go to church. I don't know what church you go to, but quite a number of them have some program that they have that will help women in your situation. Perhaps you can talk with a lady in the church office?
In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#13 Nov 9, 2012
The Laptop Lolita wrote:
You're still hot dear... just "mom" hot now:) Don't you dare let a man dictate how you feel about yourself. Some stray, some don't. In all honesty, it's not you or your problem... it's his. This Alpha male, hunter instinct some have isn't something you can fix or change. When reality of kids & domestication hits them... you have two types of men. Ones that step up & ones that step out. Things change, priorities change... it's not all about getting drunk & naked running buck wild & rewriting the Kama Sutra:) Personally, the first time of his "dishonesty" would've been his first & last warning. Now you're in a precarious situation... you've ALLOWED him to have many incidences of bad behavior. He's taking advantage of your sweet nature.
Thank you sooooooo much!! I try to be good or help the people im with..and I think this is what gets me into trouble.. and when i say trouble.. im trouble now.. I work with him.. I help run a business her in town and I help him get a job up here.. and I live with him.. and my girls are attached to him.... and I know I should think of myself the way I do now.. but it has been drilled in my head... from my ex husband..but i get what your saying and i understand totally:)
In need of some advice

Marion, AR

#14 Nov 9, 2012
SenseiDyer wrote:
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You also mentioned you go to church. I don't know what church you go to, but quite a number of them have some program that they have that will help women in your situation. Perhaps you can talk with a lady in the church office?
I would but shes related to him.. ive tried but i get no where

Since: Mar 11

Jonesboro, AR

#15 Nov 9, 2012
In need of some advice wrote:
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I would but shes related to him.. ive tried but i get no where
I don't like telling people that they should leave, but being someone that tried to stay, I understand that sometimes, that the only recourse.

I think that if you have tried all the above, then you should start the process of getting out.

You've hear the expression, "if you love something let it go...", this might be one of those examples.
legit br

Haslet, TX

#16 Nov 9, 2012
Find u another church and c if they can help u

Since: Oct 11

Location hidden

#17 Nov 9, 2012
Just Maybe wrote:
Just Maybe if you married the guys first, then moved in together and had babies it might work better. I know that is an old fashioned view point. But what ever happened to "for better or for worse for ever and ever"?
If you are going to keep giving them free samples and be there when ever HE wants you, then that's what you can expect until he finds another young sweety that will put out and put up with him doing the same thing to her in a few years.
When he finds her, then he will put YOU OUT, so you might as well move out on your own terms now.
Might as well move out and get a hud house and move on with your life.
Usually those who wish ill will on one without being provoked first live in worse situations....except they project perfection. When in fact train wreck & hot mess are printed on their welcome mats to their glass houses:)

Since: Mar 11

Jonesboro, AR

#18 Nov 9, 2012
The Laptop Lolita wrote:
<quoted text>Usually those who wish ill will on one without being provoked first live in worse situations....except they project perfection. When in fact train wreck & hot mess are printed on their welcome mats to their glass houses:)
Part philosopher, part poet.100% LL
needing some advice

Marion, AR

#19 Nov 9, 2012
SenseiDyer wrote:
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Part philosopher, part poet.100% LL
lol.. hilarious.. I understand... thats what my heart is saying..:) and again thank you :)
David

Jonesboro, AR

#20 Nov 11, 2012
When a guy loves a lady, he don't want to be with other women and he don't write vulgar messages to them. When he looks at his lady, he don't see streach marks, He sees the lady he loves. He works hard to buy her things that make her life more comfortable. If her leg is broken, he does everything within his power to help her physically as well with the household responsibilities. I'm thinking what you've got is a little boy instead of a man that wants to help raise your children. Get out quick and don't look back!

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