Hey picky heart. Please go to a discussion that I'm going to start right now on this topix board. I'm not trying to flatter me, but your views are refreshing and of great interest to me. Seriously. Especially if you're near Chicago. Are you? I want to get the pulse of the area. Do you mind ???<quoted text>
Agreed. My job has me in the position where I am
constantly amazed at the amount of effort some people can put into NOT working. It blows my mind, because I was raised that if you absolutely need help, then you take it, but you give back at least threefold. It is hard for me to comprehend being content to live on handouts, but fortunately I have never been so broken or in that position.
Panhandlers also make me uncomfortable because they pretty much force you to make a choice to ignore them or give them something. You don't want to be a hard heart by letting some disabled vet with PTSD that can't navigate the system starve to death, but I always feel that it is much more likely I am just giving to a lazy moocher, as harsh as that sounds.
Someone once said something to me about this that helped me in the way I react. It was basically along the lines of, you can't change that person. You can't control if they use cash for diapers or for booze. You can't make them act a different role in society, you can't say, "somebody else needs to change this person because I wish it to be so." You can, however, control your own reaction. You can chose to ignore them, perhaps understandably not wanting to support an addiction. Valid reaction. You can chose to buy them a meal, give them some bottled water or a gift card. Valid reaction. You may chose to give them cash and a ride to the liquor store to get wasted, just for the chance to interact with someone on the margins of society with a smile. It helped me immensely to realize that I can't change someone else, my only responsibility is to myself, that I come away from the interaction a better person, not them. Them becoming a better person is their responsibility.
The topic will be picky heart and me..
Also, if you do respond and others choose to join us, totally disregard the TROLLS....got it?