Cheating deckhand husband-info needed

[WorriedWife]

I just got married in June to my husband who works as a deckhand on ACL lines. He's been acting very strange lately and now wants a divocrce out of the blue. What goes on these boats to make him want to get a divorce? Please only helpful info. I'm devestated.

[Dudley Doright]

You dont want to know.

[just asking]

I need to know, I and my kids are devestated because my husband and I have been married only 3 months and he started leaving home days at a time for 3-4 hours not telling me where he was, turning his phone off. Telling me that it was none of my business who he was talking to or e-mailing. I have heard that these cooks and deckhands like to fool around and that the men get off the boats and meet girls on the side of the banks, parking lots etc...Can you tell me please what goes on these boat's? I just don't know why all of a sudden he is acting this way.

[nascar man]

well if you are married to this man it is you business if hes already acting like this i say get out while you can no women desureve to be treated this way me and wife will be togeter 20 years next month dated for one year lived togeter 18 years married 2 years ago we our soul mates and beleave me we have seen some rough times together but have hung in there and we trust each other i go fishing by self auctions store or what ever i want to do and her the same and i dont worry if she messing around and she dont me. not saying the trust was not there maybe first coulpe of years but we learn to trust and be honsty with each other hell i have been to lots of nascar races with her and with out her just got back from florda with out her was there for 8 days and no worry about trust any way this is not good if hes acting this way and he wasnt doing somting wrong than he would not care for you knowing i hope if you do love this man yall work it out life is way to short not to be happy and not to have a mate...... god bless

[just asking]

nascar man wrote:

well if you are married to this man it is you business if hes already acting like this i say get out while you can no women desureve to be treated this way me and wife will be togeter 20 years next month dated for one year lived togeter 18 years married 2 years ago we our soul mates and beleave me we have seen some rough times together but have hung in there and we trust each other i go fishing by self auctions store or what ever i want to do and her the same and i dont worry if she messing around and she dont me. not saying the trust was not there maybe first coulpe of years but we learn to trust and be honsty with each other hell i have been to lots of nascar races with her and with out her just got back from florda with out her was there for 8 days and no worry about trust any way this is not good if hes acting this way and he wasnt doing somting wrong than he would not care for you knowing i hope if you do love this man yall work it out life is way to short not to be happy and not to have a mate...... god bless

Exactly, my feelings are if yo have nothing to hide, then why do you care if I look at your e-mail or phone bill? I feel the same way you do. Everyone has fights but it's the ones who truly love eachother that STAY together and work it out. I have begged, pleaded and cried till I'm blue in the face to make this work. I have asked him to go to counseling (apologized because I got mad that he lied to me over and over and over) he wasn't having any of it. The only rational explanation that I can assume is that he already has someone to fill my place.

[just asking]

Dudley Doright wrote:

You dont want to know.

I really DO want to know, please.