Adoption: One of the "Most Misunderstood" Subjects in the World

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Mother her Babies

Aurora, CO

#1 Feb 28, 2010
7 million - Adopted people in the U.S.
84 million - Each adoptee has 12 direct natural family relatives (x 7 million)#1
84 million - Each adoptee has 12 direct adoptive family relatives (x 7 million)#2
175 million people in the U.S. whose lives are directly affected by adoption.
51,000+ babies are surrendered to adoption each year.
That breaks down to: 140 separations per day (139.7), 6 every hour (5.8)
Once every 10 minutes a woman and her child suffer the amputation from each other, causing them to endure the life-long pain of separation.
For every adoption there are 12 people who gain the relationship with the child.
For every adoption there are 13 people who suffer the loss & life-long effects of the separation.
Did You Know That
Babies are stolen and sold into adoption every day.
A healthy white baby can bring $100,000 to the baby broker.
Women have been killed in this country for their babies in order to sell them in adoption.
Adoption was created as a means of finding homes for children who needed them.
Adoption is now being used to find children for infertile couples.
1.53 Billion Dollars is spent annually on fees to adopt children in the U..S. each year.
51,000 babies x $30,000 average.
1 out of every 7 white couples are infertile. There are 100 white couples per white baby available.
Adoption is a Billion Dollar Industry. Babies are now a commodity in this country.
Adopted people are not allowed their ancestry because it might upset someone and the "someones" who might be upset are those who sell babies; who exist and are flourishing today and are afraid that women will not give up their children if adoptees are allowed to know their original families.
Confidentiality is a myth created to insure that women surrender babies.
Women who surrendered children to adoption most often have great difficulties in getting on with their lives and endure a vast array of psychological problems stemming from the separation such as: relationship difficulties, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Secondary Infertility.
Adoptees most often have great difficulties in getting on with their lives and endure a vast array of psychological problems stemming from the separation such as: relationship difficulties, General Anxiety Disorder, Low Self Esteem and fear of intimacy.
The most sacred event in the world (birth) and the most sacred relationship in the world (mother and child) is totally disrespected. And then everyone is told that everything is okay and the losses are treated as non-existent.
It is obvious that something is wrong with this picture!
Adoption Crossroads is spearheading the effort to make changes in the law to help preserve families and legalize reunions between those already separated and in pain.
JoanNYadoptees

Willcox, AZ

#2 May 28, 2011
Thank you for those numbers. Most don't have any idea how many are affected by adoption.
Adoptee

Jamestown, ND

#3 Dec 14, 2012
I am sincerely sorry that you have this warped view on adoption. Having been adopted, I have not experienced any "pain of separation." I was given the amazing gift of a wonderful life by my birth mother. She made a sacrifice so I could grow up in a family that prayed for and needed me. I would much rather belong to a family that wanted me, than be another mouth to feed and another welfare check to some family that would not encourage me to reach my full potential.

As for your claim that adopted children have "great difficulties in getting on with their lives and endure a vast array of psychological problems stemming from the separation such as: relationship difficulties, General Anxiety Disorder, Low Self Esteem and fear of intimacy" bravo on your scare tactic! As a happily MARRIED, successful professional, I do not appreciate your generalization that adopted children are unable to function due to the simple fact that they are adopted. Your closed-minded opinion only shows your lack of facts and inability to see the beauty in having a loving family.

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