A rush to write final wishes -

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Alan Meadoff knew two years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer how he wanted to go in the end. Full Story
NaTosha McDuffie

United States

#1 Oct 9, 2007
Alan Meadoff wishes were carried out just as he wanted them. He fought until the end. He departed this life on Monday October the 8th at his home. The day before he passed, I asked him was he o.k, and he said that he has no complaints. He always said that he would live life he was dying. He will be missed so much by many!
NaTosha McDuffie

United States

#2 Oct 9, 2007
Alan Meadoff wishes were carried out just as he wanted them. He fought until the end. He departed this life on Monday October the 8th at his home. The day before he passed, I asked him was he o.k, and he said that he has no complaints. He always said that he would live life like he was dying. He will be missed so much by many!

“There is no freedom w/o choice”

Since: Jan 07

Palm Harbor, Florida

#3 Oct 9, 2007
If Alan was known to you then I am sorry for your loss. My dad also fought until the end, but he still refused a feeding tube.
Boohil

Orlando, FL

#4 Oct 9, 2007
I recall this article about Mr. Meadoff's (and many others') reaction to the Schiavo case when it was published in the Baltimore Sun in March 2005.

I remember feeling at the time that one of Mrs. Schiavo's greatest legacies would be that the court battle, decimation of her privacy, and wall-to-wall coverage of that situation was, and would continue to be, an increase in the number of people who committed their wishes (whatever they might be) to a legal, written advance directive.

Mr. Meadoff was, as the article detailed, disturbed by Mrs. Schiavo's situation, and took the steps necessary to insure that his wishes (for no ANH, etc.) would be codified and respected.

Now, more than 2˝ years after Mrs. Schiavo's death, her gift of awareness continues.

Godspeed, Mr. Meadoff, and my condolences to his loved ones on his passing.

Boo

“Dancing Lights”

Since: Dec 06

Location hidden

#5 Oct 9, 2007
NaTosha McDuffie wrote:
Alan Meadoff wishes were carried out just as he wanted them. He fought until the end. He departed this life on Monday October the 8th at his home. The day before he passed, I asked him was he o.k, and he said that he has no complaints. He always said that he would live life like he was dying. He will be missed so much by many!
I am sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in that Mr Meadoff lived and died according to his rules, not anyone elses.

“There is no freedom w/o choice”

Since: Jan 07

Palm Harbor, Florida

#6 Oct 9, 2007
Thanks for the details on the case BOO.
unreal

Newark, NJ

#7 Oct 9, 2007
Thanks for the article.

My heart goes out to his family and friends, I am sure he will be missed.

My thoughts are that anyone and everyone SHOULD write down what they want, if only to avoid the heartache of your loved one trying to figure out what they THINK you would want.

So people write it all down. Spell it out. I know it is scary to see it there in black and white but for your family who will have to choose for you, if you cannot for yourself. PLEASE get a living will/advance directive w/proxies to help your doctor treat or not treat you the way YOU WOULD want too be treated.
Boohil

Orlando, FL

#8 Oct 9, 2007
I agree completely, Unreal.

During the height of the Schiavo case, my husband and I completely rewrote our advance directives. Oh, we already had the standard forms designating our surrogates (each other, with alternates) and checking off the medical treatment options. And we had had numerous discussions with our families and children on the subject. While I have no doubt whatsoever that our wishes were completely clear, the Schiavo case taught me that one crackpot is enough to foul the barrel of sweet water, particularly when there is potentially an estate of some substance on the line.

My own advance directive, as well as my husband's, is very specific now...right down to timelines for treatment and 'hurdles' for my condition, capabilities, competencies, and prognosis in order for any treatment to continue or be undertaken. I'd like to think that all the bases are covered, so to speak, but any medical situation will surely present specifics that I could not anticipate, in which case, I am hopeful that both my clear written statement of my general intent, as well as my conversations with my family, lawyer, doctors and priest, will ensure that there are no loopholes for some jackleg, self-proclaimed envoy from God to poke their unwelcome nose through.

Boo
Svaha

Palm Harbor, FL

#9 Oct 9, 2007
unreal wrote:
Thanks for the article.
My heart goes out to his family and friends, I am sure he will be missed.
My thoughts are that anyone and everyone SHOULD write down what they want, if only to avoid the heartache of your loved one trying to figure out what they THINK you would want.
So people write it all down. Spell it out. I know it is scary to see it there in black and white but for your family who will have to choose for you, if you cannot for yourself. PLEASE get a living will/advance directive w/proxies to help your doctor treat or not treat you the way YOU WOULD want too be treated.
But you know what, my family knows what's in my heart as I know what's in theirs. Why shouldn't my husband speak for me if I can't as I would speak for him. Again, we've become a nation of busybodies getting into peoples business. People that we don't know personally. All we really need to do is offer sympathy and compassion and then back OFF.
d-Alli

Wake Forest, NC

#10 Oct 12, 2007
We lived across the street from Alan and were so sad to learn of his death Monday. The neighborhood is filled with a 'quiet sadness' from his passing, as well as the death of his faithful companion, Mo, his dog, 2 weeks earlier.
Georgio (Alan) was an interesting and colorful character :) that did and say things 'his way'.(You would only have to meet him once to know this!)
In fact, I learned he enjoyed playing the song,'I Did It My Way' quite often!
Yes, his unique style and personality will be missed. Our prayers and thoughts go out to all his family and friends during this time.

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