Family struggles to keep up after los...

Family struggles to keep up after loss of son

There are 100 comments on the The Jackson Sun story from Dec 5, 2017, titled Family struggles to keep up after loss of son. In it, The Jackson Sun reports that:

Heather Martin gave birth to her son Brantley on September 5 at 7:47 p.m. and he died at 8:41 p.m. the same night. Heather Martin demonstrates the resemblance between an image of Mother Mary on the rosary and a figure pictured in the ultrasound of her late son, Brantley Evans, who died one hour after childbirth.

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Heather

United States

#8 Dec 7, 2017
George wrote:
They are drug heads. When parents have used drugs for many years it has devastating effects on their offspring. The only persons I feel sorry for is the child, they did not have a chance. Drugs are bad.
I am NOT a drug head. I am HIGHLY against drug use. In fact, I am SO much against drug use that after my son was born some one drugged me. Thus person slipped something that I SWORE I would NEVER touch, and I beat that! You can MANY things about ME, but you can't call me a drug head. I don't even smoke pot. I am on about 20 different medications ALL of which I have a prescription for. And you know what, yes I am about to lose EVERYTHING I busted my butt for. Yes, the dude I am with did cheat on me during all of this. Yes, I was drugged by someone that was supposed to be one of my best friends. Yes, I did lose my job because I went back to work before I was mentally ready. Yes, I am sitting here seeing all of you bash me on topix when you CLEARLY have NO idea what you are talking about, and you know what else.. I am STILL going to hold my head high and do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING I can do for MY kids. Nothing else any of you have to say matters to me.
Wow

Jackson, TN

#10 Dec 7, 2017
Loosing a child is heart breaking. Hospitals test for drugs. Not mentioned she is a pro fighter and they are tested as well. It's pretty clear to see after lots of testing she isn't a druggy.
Family

Great Neck, NY

#11 Dec 7, 2017
I have known Heather for over a decade or more. She has even trained me for fights. She has always been a strait edge and is completely against drug use unless it is totally necessary for medical reasons and even then she doesn't want it. She has been thru a hell that none of us could not even fathom. WTF and George, if that is even your real names. I suggest you take a long hard look in the mirror and realize how lucky you are. You do understand the term Slander right? If you don't look it up. Just cause we have the freedom of speech it still does not give anyone a right to slander someone. Do you even know Heather personally? Maybe you all should get to know someone before posting anything. This goes for anyone reading this. If you don't know her shut your mouth.
KeepItReal

Jackson, TN

#17 Dec 7, 2017
Why is this story even in the paper. Start a fund online and collect money. Get jobs as well. Not tattoos. Sorry for your loss but everyone goes through BS. That is life.
Heather

United States

#19 Dec 8, 2017
For starters, I had wanted to get his memorial before things had gotten where they are. And you obviously have never lost a child. You find yourself CLINGING to ANY and Every single thing you have of them. My thoughts on the tattoo were that my angel will forever be on my shoulder. His portrait is a 500$ tattoo. Shayne was kind enough to mark it down to 100$'s. My friend that was having James Smith tattooed on him, he had prepaid for 5 or 6 sessions. When Shayne told me he would do it for 100$'s, I had told him it may take me a while to catch back up before I could get it. My friend who was getting the memorial piece done then told Shayne to go ahead and do the tattoo for me out of one of his sessions. He also put a heart with his heartbeat leading to his birth date on my forearm.
Heather

United States

#20 Dec 8, 2017
Secondly, at this time I still had my job. When I went on maternity leave, I was taken off of work in July. They were concerned my son had muscular dystrophy (if you don't know anything about that, Google it, and try to imagine how stressful my pregnancy was after finding that out). He had club feet, and he was not swallowing his amniotic fluid the way that he was supposed to. Swallowing the amniotic fluid is what teaches babies to breath while they are in the womb. I was seeing a regular obgyn, I was seeing a high risk dr., and I had a team of 4 dr's I was seeing in Vanderbilt for his complications. At 32 weeks my body believed that I was 49 weeks pregnant due to the amount of fluid that had built up inside his womb, and that was AFTER the high risk Dr had drained some of my fluid. They pulled fluid from my amniotic sac and began testing on it for downs syndrome, md, and several other possibilities.
Heather

United States

#21 Dec 8, 2017
When my water broke at 32 weeks instead of full term, I was sent to general hospital who was supposed to airlift me directly to Vanderbilt to deliver. Instead of being vertical in my womb, he was horizontal. They rushed me in for an emergency c-section. I was pushed in to the OR ALONE. Brantley's father was not allowed to go with me because they were having to put me completely asleep. Before I was put to sleep, my last thought was,"ok Heather. Just close your eyes when you wake up, you will have your son." When I woke up the FIRST words out of my mouth were,"Where is my baby"? No one answered my question with anything other than telling me to call down. I repeated the question frantically, still with no response other than the nurses standing over me pushing me back on the bed telling me to call down. I looked the nurse in the eyes and begged her to please just tell me if he was alive. She shook her head no, and said,"sweetie we really need you to calm down", as she was pushing me back down on the bed. I was wheeled in to a l&d room where the FIRST thing I saw was Frog holding my son's lifeless body crying harder than I had ever seen him cry in my life.
Heather

United States

#22 Dec 8, 2017
I broke down. I was hysterical. THAT is how I had to learn that my son had passed away after only an hour. NONE of us were even given the opportunity to hold him before he had gained his angel wings. Frog walked to the bed where I was crying hysterically. He looked at me with tears in his eyes; saying,"Look at our son. He is beautiful hold him mommy". I couldn't even HOLD my son. I don't remember saying it, but family told me that I looked at Frog and told him that wasn't my baby, that my baby was not dead. I couldn't bring myself to accept that my son had gone to heaven. A nurse came in to speak to my mother. She informed her that there had been an obstruction in his throat and they were trying to get the tube in there to incubate him, and then there was just all this blood. She then asked if anyone in our family blood problems (no one in either of our families do). By your comments, I would be VERY surprised to know that you are a parent. In which case, I expect no empathy from you what so ever, because it is NOT possible for you to be able to comprehend the heartbreak, the pain, and the emptiness of losing a child ESPECIALLY after the way my son's birth had transpired.
Heather

United States

#23 Dec 8, 2017
As soon as the ASSISTANT Dr. informed me that he would be doing the c-section and frog would not be allowed in there, I was completely freaked out. My own Dr. wasn't even the one to deliver him. An ASSISTANT Dr. that I had NEVER met, NEVER heard of, and NEVER wanted delivered my son. The entire delivery of my son triggered what is known as stress related hypertension. That means that the amount of stress I was enduring was causing my blood pressure to be so high, they were concerned I would have a stroke. They began controlling it with bp meds, but to this day when I am upset, stressed out, or get worked up, my blood pressure rises to unhealthy levels.
Now; as to my job, you are half correct. When I left on maternity leave, they informed me that that my insurance would be cancelled unless I came in to pay the charges for it every paycheck. To keep from being without insurance, I applied for Tn care and was approved. After returning to work, I was notified that they had paid my insurance for me, and I would have to pay back what they had paid for me. I had gone back to work before the antidepressants the Dr had prescribed me for the depression had time to work (they take over a month before they are effective, I am explaining that because you don't seem to have a very open mind). I chose to go back to work when I did, because we could not afford for me to be off work any longer. I had sincerely believed that they would have been kind enough to allow me to pay back the insurance from MULTIPLE checks.
Heather

United States

#24 Dec 8, 2017
As soon as the ASSISTANT Dr. informed me that he would be doing the c-section and frog would not be allowed in there, I was completely freaked out. My own Dr. wasn't even the one to deliver him. An ASSISTANT Dr. that I had NEVER met, NEVER heard of, and NEVER wanted delivered my son. The entire delivery of my son triggered what is known as stress related hypertension. That means that the amount of stress I was enduring was causing my blood pressure to be so high, they were concerned I would have a stroke. They began controlling it with bp meds, but to this day when I am upset, stressed out, or get worked up, my blood pressure rises to unhealthy levels.
Heather

United States

#25 Dec 8, 2017
They only allowed me 2 checks to pay it back from. The first check was 100$'s, and the 2nd check was 200$'s. (I KNOW this may be hard for you, because that small closed mind of yours will probably not allow you to see anything other than from YOUR OWN point of view, but humor me anyway) Close your eyes, imagine that you had JUST lost your son. You have 2 sons at home; as well as, a step daughter who lived with us. His job, he was only being worked on the weekends. For the entire month of November, you only made 300$'s for the MONTH, to support your family.
Heather

United States

#26 Dec 8, 2017
You have medical bills suffocating you. Imagine you have an 11 year old and a 13 year old son, that eat you out of house and home (If you ARE surprisingly a parent, and you have sons, you know how expensive it is JUST to feed them), his 16 year old daughter was with us every single day for 3 months, so we were having an extra mouth to feed as well. Now, calculate the cost of living for shampoo, toothpaste, and toiletries to provide for a family of 5. Do you feel that you could adequately provide for your family with only 300$'s for the month?
Heather

United States

#27 Dec 8, 2017
Now, on to your arrogant and pompous remark about filling out applications. I was given the gift of his tattoo while I was still employed with Golden Circlen, I had NO reason to be filling out applications BEFORE I received the gift. Had I have known that I was going to need to be filling out applications, I would have been. I am fully aware by your heartless comments that you can't grasp the concept of how heartbreaking it would be to be at work, and your customers having a new born child, or the wife who is pregnant.
Heather

United States

#28 Dec 8, 2017
Now, keep in mind you are suffering from post partum depression (being that I believe you are a man, I can NOT express how serious post partum depression actually is), imagine that you are also struggling with stress related hypertension in the car business (one of the MOST stressful jobs without having someone's life on the line), and imagine that you are aware that you aren't even going to make HALF of one paycheck (we got paid 3 times a month) for the entire month.
Heather

United States

#29 Dec 8, 2017
It is a very discouraging feeling knowing that you are so desperate for money to catch up on those bills, and knowing that after your job was paid back for the insurance they paid for you, younwould ONLY receive ONE paycheck before Christmas that would be the whole amount. I was left feeling inadequate and I felt like a failure for letting my family down. After our son passed away, a series of events transpired. My dad has been battling stage 4 pancreatic cancer, and we were told he should have died 7 months ago.
Heather

United States

#30 Dec 8, 2017
I am a daddy's girl. My dad has been my hero all my life. My oldest son is literally my dad's best friend. The two of them are inseparable. And both of my children were having to watch my daddy fade away a little more every day. My kids had JUST lost their brother, just came to the realization that their pappaw is dying, Frog and I had began arguing pretty heavily, and with several other situations surfacing, it began effecting our kids. My son oldest son was accused of having a weapon at school.
Heather

United States

#31 Dec 8, 2017
They pulled him out of class, they asked for a pocket knife that they believed he had. He informed them he did not have a knifr. They searched his belongings, and they were unsuccessful in their search. They found NO contraband on my son, but they had still called to let us know that he was being sent to alternative school for 3k points. My son is a VERY warm hearted kid. He wears his heart on his sleeve, and he is not the most social kid.
Heather

United States

#32 Dec 8, 2017
My child would have NEVER had survived alternative school without being bullied, beat up, picked on, and in fear of this punishment changing who he is as a person, I pulled him from Madison county school system. We were also at this time trying to pull his step sister out of school at SSHS for being bullied, and we required A LOT to get her transferred because he is NOT on her birth certificate. I went in to my employer, explained to him every single situation that was going on (there were more I have not mentioned in this book), and he approved me to take some personal days.
Heather

United States

#39 Dec 8, 2017
My youngest child began acting out also, and we had to go have meetings with his principal and teacher. I also started trying to take care of some other issues such as getting an appointment for counseling for our family. A week after going back, I got REALLY sick shortly after having a golf ball sized mass from my breast.
Heather

United States

#40 Dec 8, 2017
When I came back, I turned in my Dr notes, and went back to work. When I was let go, I was told it was for missing days, even though I had documented Dr notes from more than one Dr (hospital and primary dr).
Since you are determined to be rude and make the smartass remark concerning applications, I got another job the DAY after I was fired from GC. I received 3 job offers ALL in the same business, and I accepted the one that I felt would be my best option. Unfortunately, I do not begin until next week.

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