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the stepmom

Jackson, MO

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#22
Mar 30, 2011
 
I am the stepmom, oh yea the "evil" stepmom according to my husbands ex. We took her to court for contempt because she took the kids and moved to Arkansas and we did not know where they were for 5 years. We paid our child support on time and carried insurance on the children. But all she wanted was more money, for us to buy the school clothes and shoes and her pay nothing. The judge abaded our child support for 1 year because of her actions. During that year we got to see the kids and then once we began to pay the support again we haven't seen them. Since they have been divorced she has decided that she was gay and I have no problem with this, except the fact they feel we don't do enough so they like to call and call us all sorts of names. I guess this made them feel better about themselves. Sadly the significant other was killed in an accident a few weeks ago and guess who is wanting to talk to the father of her children. We still have not seen these kids. We seen 1 of them in the fall when they needed school clothes and shoes. His daughter is now 18 and her mother has her convinced that her da is evil and me too. He would love to have a relationship with his children and she stops it. I had twins when we got married and my childrens father acts like they don't exist. I get child support but nothing else. Sad situation, good luck all you men that pay and try to see your children. Hopefully it will all work out for you.
the stepmom

Jackson, MO

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Mar 30, 2011
 

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Daniel Statler is a good lawyer.
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Perryville, MO

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#24
Mar 30, 2011
 
My wife and I are in the same boat. I've been tagged as the horrible child suppot paying father and my wife is labeled as the evil stepmom. All baseless lies. What shall we do about this? anyone....anyone? We all know what we want to do!
superevilstepmom

Perryville, MO

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#25
Mar 30, 2011
 
I can't imagine hating my ex so much. These women are so trashy and messed up in their heads. My hubby does and does for his kids. And I'm there to keep him going. To the mothers that act like this, you give us all a bad name. You will have to answer some day!
stepmom too

Cape Girardeau, MO

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Mar 31, 2011
 

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Daniel Statler is a joke when it comes to child support and custody battles! He does not know the difference between a separation agreement and an actual divorce decree! It was a total waist of our money. The lawyer to use is Allen Moss. He will fight for you and knows what he is talking about
hardcoretruth

Cape Girardeau, MO

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Mar 31, 2011
 

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The fact is there are NOT many qualified family practice attorneys in the Cape area. There are a lot that claim to be, but reality is another story. I'm not dropping names on here because that could hurt some folks. Like most professions, experience comes with time. My pick is a practice in Cape that consists of a family. And one has personally experienced all this crap several years ago. Bottomline, even if you have a very competent attorney, you're battling a system, not just an evil maniac bitch. BUT, things are so much brighter compared to 20+ years ago. Everyone, lets all hang in there. Does anyone know if there is an association in Missouri for dads? I must do a web search.
Cousin Ed

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Apr 1, 2011
 

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Them statler boys aren't worth a damn. They are just real darn good at talking a big game and taking your money.
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Apr 1, 2011
 

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What about the fathers that turn the kids against the mothers? There are two sides to this argument but the Dads always want to play the victim. As a child of divorced parents BOTH my mother and my father did this to me. Parents period aren't innocent when it comes to divorce the only innocents in a divorce are the children. Stop being so selfish and degrading of the mother calling her a "psycho" you are no better than she by doing this. What kind of "good father" starts a forum trashing the mother for trashing you when in turn you yourself are doing so without naming names? Grow up be a parent and think of your children not yourself!!!!!
truth

Sikeston, MO

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#30
Apr 1, 2011
 
Guest wrote:
What about the fathers that turn the kids against the mothers? There are two sides to this argument but the Dads always want to play the victim. As a child of divorced parents BOTH my mother and my father did this to me. Parents period aren't innocent when it comes to divorce the only innocents in a divorce are the children. Stop being so selfish and degrading of the mother calling her a "psycho" you are no better than she by doing this. What kind of "good father" starts a forum trashing the mother for trashing you when in turn you yourself are doing so without naming names? Grow up be a parent and think of your children not yourself!!!!!
By far the women are worse.My wife had a boyfriend, divorced me took my child,I have to pay child support(that she spends on her unemployed boyfriend).never hardly get to see my child.Women want equal rights until it comes to divorce.Then they want and get everything
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Florissant, MO

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#31
Apr 1, 2011
 
truth wrote:
<quoted text>By far the women are worse.My wife had a boyfriend, divorced me took my child,I have to pay child support(that she spends on her unemployed boyfriend).never hardly get to see my child.Women want equal rights until it comes to divorce.Then they want and get everything
If there is a custody agreement in place you can have her held in contempt of court. There is NO NEED to go around trashing people. Play fair play legal why stoop to their level of trash talk? THINK people if you find the legal way to do it then you have a lot better chances of getting what you want. I understand the need to vent believe me I do however there are other avenues to do so like a therapist or a counselor you DO NOT I repeat DO NOT have to trash the person in public no matter if it's on here or to their face.... If you handle this legally you won't have to worry about slander or lawsuits or pot calling the kettle black and so on and so forth. Remember who the adults are in the situation and ACT AS SUCH!
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Saint Louis, MO

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Talking trash and FACTS are 2 completely different matters. Mothers wrote the book on playing the victim role. You want to make us out as the big mean scary man, but that doesn't float. I so glad judges see thru most of the bullshit these days!
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Florissant, MO

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hardcoretruth wrote:
Talking trash and FACTS are 2 completely different matters. Mothers wrote the book on playing the victim role. You want to make us out as the big mean scary man, but that doesn't float. I so glad judges see thru most of the bullshit these days!
Trust me if she is in the wrong she will be dealt with according to the law. My point is as an ADULT and a "GOOD FATHER" DO NOT NEED TO STOOP TO HER LEVEL and start a forum trashing her as she is doing to you..... You need to prove to the JUDGE not the PUBLIC!!!!!!! The JUDGE'S OPINION AND DECISION is all that matters. THERE IS NO NEED TO GO ON A TRASH TALKING SPREE because you can do so and be another "John Doe" on the net and you think no one can find out who you are.... Technology these days is scary and you can be found out and then ALL of this can and probably will be used against you in court. I'm not saying she didn't do those things, however I AM SAYING BE THE BIGGER PERSON!!! Fight her legally where it matters not on some internet forum where it doesn't and it could potentially harm your case! Use your head man!
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#34
Apr 1, 2011
 
Oddly enough it is nice to see that this goes on for everyone. I was beginning to think I was the special one.
I have tried and tried to put myself in her shoes..thinking a person couldnt possibly be so convicted about something if there weren't some shred of truth to it.
I can't find it though..and can't figure it out..somedays it's just easier to do nothing..in turn living up to the loser she makes me out to be.
I miss my kids..and I hope someday they will miss me too.
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Lake Saint Louis, MO

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#35
Apr 1, 2011
 
i am a single mom that chooses to keep my children from their dad because of the way he is but there is no need to discuss that on here! as for blah blah maybe if you didnt let her get to you and if you werent a loser maybe you could see your kids. ever think of that. i believe there are good moms/bad moms/ good dads/ bad dads. its not always the moms bashing the dad's but it seems more men these days bash the moms. i think everyone should really sit back and think of the children and who they are better off with and what in the end will benefit the children, not themselves!
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Cape Girardeau, MO

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#36
Apr 1, 2011
 
Thanks "haha" for opening my eyes..your post was so helpful and intelligent. I see now that I really am a loser.
Thanks again.
Not to argue a point with you ..because I can see that I wouldn't win..you are also a self righteous mom who thinks she isn't in need of a worthwhile dad in her kids life..and you can go with that all you want to...you should read your post again and apply it to your life..kids need to participating parents.
A person can only take so much..I do what I can and then some..to no avail though..I will never be able to do enough or give enough.
Some people are greedy..as others on here have pointed out and care more about what they can get then they ever will about their kids.
But as I said earlier..thanks for your opinion of me..calling me a loser? As if you really know anything about me.
I said I missed my kids..and sympathized with others on this post.
That sums it up..there isn't more to be said..I don't have to tell you what kind of dad I am..what I did to try to appease anyone..none of it relevant.
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Aldrich, MO

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#37
Apr 1, 2011
 
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What about the fathers that turn the kids against the mothers? There are two sides to this argument but the Dads always want to play the victim. As a child of divorced parents BOTH my mother and my father did this to me. Parents period aren't innocent when it comes to divorce the only innocents in a divorce are the children. Stop being so selfish and degrading of the mother calling her a "psycho" you are no better than she by doing this. What kind of "good father" starts a forum trashing the mother for trashing you when in turn you yourself are doing so without naming names? Grow up be a parent and think of your children not yourself!!!!!
Oh what a bunch of hogwash! Sounds like DFS's garbage.
hardcoretruth

Perryville, MO

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#38
Apr 2, 2011
 
Glad to hear others involved on this matter. I just got back in town from working in St Louis and found out the mom intentionally made plans with/for the child AGAIN on my dedicated time to be with the child. This shit never ends. Gone on for years. Just another way the mother declares war upon the relationship!!! Anyone else?
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Cape Girardeau, MO

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Apr 2, 2011
 
hardcoretruth wrote:
Glad to hear others involved on this matter. I just got back in town from working in St Louis and found out the mom intentionally made plans with/for the child AGAIN on my dedicated time to be with the child. This shit never ends. Gone on for years. Just another way the mother declares war upon the relationship!!! Anyone else?
Yeah everyone else!
You better watch out though.."haha" will get on here and call you a loser. Tell you the kids better off with the mother.
That crap your talking about happens to me all the time..everytime! As if she offers them better stuff to do then see me.
I can hear it now..do you want to go to your dads??(voice all glum sounding)..or do you want to go to .....kid world!!!!(input lots of excitement) What natural kid wouldn't choose fun land?
I just wait..hoping that things will change when they old enough to see how much I care.
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Cape Girardeau, MO

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#40
Apr 5, 2011
 
Used to when you got divorced with children.The judges most always awarded the children to the mother and strapped the men with the bill or you went to prison had your driving priveledges taken away,checks garnished and whatever humiliation tactic they could come up with.Now days the men gain custody of their children and the mother is awarded no financial responsibility at all on their children."Joint Custody"It seems that is used alot for women to use to their advantage to keep from paying their child support,however when a man asks for "joint Custody"There is no such thing.HMMM.Yes I know what I am talking about I have joint custody,but I have in my custody and have been raising my children without any financial assistance for 4 years but never have they gone after her for any support,but look at it like this kids are smarter then we give them credit for ,they know or will figure out from other kids.They know whom truly loves them.You just do the right thing for that baby and that baby will do the right thing for you.Thats all
I got one for ya

Cape Girardeau, MO

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#41
Apr 5, 2011
 
I paid child support for 14 years and one day the mother didn't want the child anymore because he couldn't get along with her new abusive husband.I took my son in and raised him.Did she have to pay child support.No of course not.My question is?Why did I have to pay for 14 years and she not have to pay any when he was in my care?The system does not work.It is discriminating against the male gender and thats that.No disrespect intended to the good woman out there.

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