Mom's who use their children to get b...

Mom's who use their children to get back at their exes

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Tired

Campton, KY

#1 Feb 9, 2009
I am so tired of seeing mothers use their children to get back at their exes (children's father). They put the children in the middle so many times and don't allow them to have relationship with their fathers. I am talking about good daddies that really care about their children, pay their child support on time faithfully and faithfully visits them on the crummy visitation schedule the state gives them. I am a mother and I cannot imagine not putting my children's feelings before my own. YOu aren't together anymore for a reason, but that doesn't change the fact that is their father and they love them. Let them have a relationship with them and talk to them as much as they want and don't interfere in the kids caring about him. I mean seriously, divorce is hard enough without making the children feel like they have to choose between their parents and they can't love both of them. I know a woman that will not let her child talk to his father. His father tries to tell him good night every night and the child asked his dad to call and talk to him. She will not answer the phone. The state should look at these mothers and reconsider what is best for the child.
Truth Teller

Pikeville, KY

#2 Feb 10, 2009
I agree. I have a step-daughter. I love her dearly. I do not argue with her mother. There is no sense in it. Why should I hate her. She never did anything to me. What was between her and my husband was before me, so it is none of my business. I encourage my husband to be a good father not only to our daughter but also to his other daughter. People really all need to get along for the children. There is no sense in using these kids against anyone.
Tired

West Liberty, KY

#3 Feb 10, 2009
I couldn't agree more. The children didn't do anything to create the situation and people should be able to mature adults and do what is best for the child. Let the child feel comfortable with having a relationship with both. I get so mad because my stepson feels so torn most of the time. He wants so badly to be allowed to care about his father and I, but he is made to feel guilty. I just believe as a mother, your children's feelings should come first. That is what makes a mother different from any other title.
Truth Teller

Pikeville, KY

#4 Feb 12, 2009
I agree. People really do need to get along for the children. It's a shame when the adults act more inmature than the children. Why be jeolous. If the person wanted to be with the other person then they would be. I wouldn't have anything to do with my husband if he didn't take care of his other children. I treat them no diffeerently than my own.
Burlin Herron

Saint Joseph, MI

#5 Mar 10, 2009
Yeah my ex uses my son are a atm to get what she want like if she want to go out she would be like cant you take him yeah being a good dad that i am i should cause i love my kids but i dont give in to that shit all the time i know what she is doing i dont say nothing cause i dont want to start a fight with her cause she a women and thinks she never wrong i just wish she would stop using my son to get to me and to get her why if she dosnet want him give me full custody and i wont make her pay shit and give her visatation....
Tired

West Liberty, KY

#6 Mar 24, 2009
My husband has experienced it time and time again with his ex wife. She uses her son every chance she gets. She tells him his dad doesn't love him and that he chose to walk out on him. My husband has always paid his child support faithfully. He attempts to be as involved as he can be. We never decline taking his son when we are given extra time. He always gets him when he is supposed to. She always tells him his dad didn't want him then so why does he want him now. I can't stand this. I am a mother and love my children with all my heart. I can't imagine ever hating their father more than I love them. This stuff she is saying to him---hurts him. Why do this. Let's all grow up and take into consideration how our children must feel to hear that and to see adults act so immature. Appreciate those fathers who try so hard to take part in their children's lives and allow them to be there for their children. My step son asked his father to call him every day. My husband started calling him every day and his ex told him he is calling too much and he can only call on Tuesday and Thursday. How stupid is that?????????? She doesn't have to talk to my husband, he just wants to talk to his son. My ex brother in law called his daughters every night even when they stayed all night with me and I thought that is so good that he is reassuring them that he is still there for them even though they don't live with him all the time. That is putting your kids first.
Point

Burbank, CA

#7 Mar 25, 2009
it's wrong no matter how you look at it.
I agree

Lexington, KY

#8 Apr 21, 2009
I agree with it all the mothers/fathers should not do their children that way. Regardless of the current situations the children didn't ask for their parents. the parents chose to have them and they should show them the respect that they demand from the child/children. Regardless of what happens kids love both their parents and to deny them the right to spend quality time with their parents is just wrong and childish.
what do u do

Irvine, KY

#9 Apr 23, 2009
when the new wife doesn't let the child visit or call the dad. and he listens to her and hasn't had anything to do with his child in 5 yrs. because she is jealous of the child and the ex wife. she went as far as telling his family that said that he didn't give her any attention when the child was around. his family still spends all the time they can with the child and calls the ex to check on the child on weekly basis. and the child can be @ his parents house on a weekend or holiday and he hardly speaks to the child but he does pay child support but tears the childs heart out in the mean time . now thats sad. That mother has always tried to get along with both of them and even didn't make him pay the full amount of child support for the longest time and handed it back to him several times cause she new that was all the money he had to get to work the next week. then he tried to sign his rights away to the child @ one time to make the new wife happy. Now thats a joke. i feel sorry for him cause some day he will need that child and he won't be there for him. and all u good dads out there i feel sorry for ur exes cause someday those little children grow up and they will no that it was all her and not u guys. and i'm really sorry that these low life moms use your children that way for money and to do what htey want too. just let ur kids no that u love them and they will see that later on in life. I did . i had one of those moms that was pissed at my dad too and i was always told bad things about my dad but i always new the truth and was always my daddy daughter.
Amen

Fort Gay, WV

#10 May 25, 2009
Lot of these women were hardly more than kids thereselves when they got pregnant. They never had a chance to grow up.
Is it any wonder

Georgetown, KY

#12 Sep 27, 2009
that childrens books are full of Hansel & Gretel stories and Cinderella. I guess they could see ahead that there would be wicked step parents..not just stepmoms but stepdads also. And I do also know of some real mothers..worse at it than any dads are...that use the kids for whatever reason that comes up. And I agree with the other person that said they were just kids when they got pregnant, but thats beside the point because kids do not deserve to be destroyed for adult issues. Both sides, even the step parents, need to do everything in their power to make a kids life good. If you do this your rewards will be great & kids will love you in return. In my family there is a case where the child respects the stepmom way more than the mom because of her antics.
If u split

Georgetown, KY

#13 Sep 27, 2009
this is the truth wrote:
i also agree my wife uses her ex bad. i dread the day we split. she is a bitch when it comes to using children.
I would do what I had to to take my child with me. This child does not deserve to be left with a Mom like this. Start taking notes now & document whatever u can & just maybe the judge will let you keep the child. I pray so for that babys sake.
well

Pierceton, IN

#14 Sep 27, 2009
If my woman were to cheat, Im not letting her see the kid period. Court or not I'll not let her. Cheaters are scum, my mother did, and I refuse to see her and always have. She can die for all I care I have no contact with her.
piece of advice

Richmond, KY

#15 Sep 28, 2009
well wrote:
If my woman were to cheat, Im not letting her see the kid period. Court or not I'll not let her. Cheaters are scum, my mother did, and I refuse to see her and always have. She can die for all I care I have no contact with her.
You need to grow the hell up.. Thats part of life man!! I'm not saying its right.. but its not the kid(s) fault if you didn't work out.. I'm sure you would still love your kid(s) even if you weren't with your wife..( right) Then why can't she.. do you get my point..
ho po po

Deposit, NY

#16 Sep 28, 2009
on the subject some people cant have kids and they would really be good to them,then you have these hos that dont really want their kids and can spit them out ever 9 months for someone else to raise them for them and they are on to the next man to party it up with to have another child they dont want.I think if a mother shows alcohol or drugs in their system then the people who do want a child should be able to bring them home from the hospital and the mother should be in jail until she gives birth,i will gaurantee you wouldnt have half of them getting out there and getting pregnant so they could get a welfare check!
Ron Hamblin

Pierceton, IN

#17 Sep 28, 2009
piece of advice wrote:
<quoted text>
You need to grow the hell up.. Thats part of life man!! I'm not saying its right.. but its not the kid(s) fault if you didn't work out.. I'm sure you would still love your kid(s) even if you weren't with your wife..( right) Then why can't she.. do you get my point..
A cheater forfeits all rights to be with their kid, since they are not fit to teach them anything.
get real

Richmond, KY

#18 Sep 28, 2009
Ron Hamblin wrote:
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A cheater forfeits all rights to be with their kid, since they are not fit to teach them anything.
I guess this goes for you too then uh... Of all ppl i would have never thought someone of your nature would even say such a thing seeing as how you've been known for cheating...Did your wife stop you from seeing your kids?? Or does she know.. What about the girls at Legget and Platt.. Or should i say girls... Ron you really have no morals do you.. One minute you are this way and the next you are the other.. You need to make up your mind which do you believe in marriage or affairs ?? Since you have had so many.. I could mention so many more but i won't.. The things you say make no sense...
ho po po

Deposit, NY

#20 Sep 29, 2009
get real wrote:
<quoted text>
I guess this goes for you too then uh... Of all ppl i would have never thought someone of your nature would even say such a thing seeing as how you've been known for cheating...Did your wife stop you from seeing your kids?? Or does she know.. What about the girls at Legget and Platt.. Or should i say girls... Ron you really have no morals do you.. One minute you are this way and the next you are the other.. You need to make up your mind which do you believe in marriage or affairs ?? Since you have had so many.. I could mention so many more but i won't.. The things you say make no sense...
the only thing you are doing by keeping these kids from another parent is you are hurting noone but that child-let them decide if they are bad parents then that child will see that and come to their own conclusions.
get real

Richmond, KY

#21 Sep 30, 2009
ho po po wrote:
<quoted text>the only thing you are doing by keeping these kids from another parent is you are hurting noone but that child-let them decide if they are bad parents then that child will see that and come to their own conclusions.
I agree 100%.. Thank you

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