No -total control is in your own head and mind.<quoted text>
IMO any guy who seriously believes he should have total control over his wife is a guy any woman needs to AVOID marrying.
The more a woman knows about a guy and his views about women, marriage, and reproduction BEFORE marrying him, the better.
I'm sorry for how you were raised, but it don't mean everyone wants total control over a woman. I would never want a woman to do anything, that she didn't want to do, but if I'm married to her, and she decides on her own to kill our child, then I would choose to leave her with her own choices.