survival stories of the brokenhearted

Judged:

been there wrote:

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I hate to hear what ur going thru, been there done that, but my ex never would admit what he did, but i knew in my heart and that was good enough, and with my so called best friend, when i figured it out her ass left town, or who knows what i would have done, and even yrs later when i did finally see her, she was like hi how are you and my sis in law dragged me out of the store, cuz i would have beat her azz for befriended my like she did, but now life couldnt be better..keep ur head up girl and talking about it does help it did me..and dont worry about fools on her ppl just like to run there pie holes..

Thank you for your kind words. I'm very sorry to hear that your best friend betrayed you like that. I agree, that it was very ignorant on her part to try and come up to you and act as if nothing ever happened. I don't think that the other woman/man are thinking straight when they make the decision to "fool" around with a married person. If they were they would realize that there is a very real possiblity of getting their a*sses hurt. All it takes is to burn the wrong person. Also, it has helped me tremendously to get my feelings out in the open. I actually went out with my family yesterday and was able to laugh and have a good time.

sure is a funny thing

Judged:

Here is a dandy story.
man cheats on wife - woman cheats on husband - man leaves wife for another woman cheats on her too - wife moves far far away and husband still hounds her #ss - new woman cheats on man for cheating on her with his exwife- man starts cheating on new woman a lot - new woman does not know - man is bad - woman is good - man gets caught and lies again - woman turns her cheek - oh...new woman now other one left - and he still hounds her #ss - man gets new wife - cheats on her too
survive that and see where it gets your heart - empty and cold as ice

sure is a funny thing

What comment have you made - Make sure it wasn't you involved in this offense - Be wary of your mate

I got your crazy

another wrote:

i have had been through the broken heart . a terrible thing for anyone to go through. you think your partner loves you. but they don't if they did they would not cheat. it is very painfull, but you learn from it and you grow from it. or at least i did, sure it broke my heart. but i decided i was better than he thought i was. i did not need a person who was sleeping with another woman and telling her he loved her, and we hadn't been man or wife for months. i talked to the other woman and she told me things i couldn't believe he had said. and they were not true at all. but i made my decision and glad i did, was with him many years. i am not with him any longer and i could care less who he is with or what he is doing. i would have to agree with some on hear, you will never trust them again no matter how much you try or think you can. the doubt is always there in your mind and heart. good luck to all of you that have had to go through this but be strong don't let them fool you because they will if you give them the chance.i guess i am one the ppl that says once a cheater always a cheater. if any of you think or feel like your partner is cheating more than likely he or she is. there are so many signs you will know. especially when they are spending more money than usually, going to work earlier, or even bringing you gift home and saying i thought of you when i seen this. just watch and listen they aren't as smart as they think they are.

Why do they do this us? I'm not a mean person and you don't sound like a mean person either. I never nagged, I work everyday,take care of our kids. I always thought that we were doing so good. I didn't even suspect a thing all the way up to the night that he confessed. I even thought that he was playing/lying until I saw that he had tears in his eyes and was very serious. I went from denial to angry. I still love him but your right, I don't trust fully him-- I don't want to get hurt again because honestly, I don't think I'll survive it.But on the other hand, I really do want to make things work because we do get along so well- I always tell/told everyone that he is my best friend. One of things that hurts so much wondering is about the whys because we don't argue and up till this point we have always done everything together. If I fell he was always there to pick me up.

mammabear

Judged:

This is to the faithful women who do not know how to try even if you believe he is sorry. First , it takes a lot of time to even try to trust again. It does not happen because he says he is sorry & will not do it again.
Second, If you are going to try to make it work, you have to put the past behind, this is really hard to do since it is always with you. If he says he is sorry & you think he is being honest & means it , you have to move forward, but he must know it takes time to earn the trust back. You can forgive easy enough but it is hard to forget, and actually you do not forget. You just put it aside in hopes it does not happen again. Been there.It has been 20 years for me and we are doing great but the thoughts are still there sometimes. I try not to think about it at all. That part of our life is over.You have to move on to make it work. Make them earn your trust and trust your instincts.

I got your crazy

mammabear wrote:

This is to the faithful women who do not know how to try even if you believe he is sorry. First , it takes a lot of time to even try to trust again. It does not happen because he says he is sorry & will not do it again.
Second, If you are going to try to make it work, you have to put the past behind, this is really hard to do since it is always with you. If he says he is sorry & you think he is being honest & means it , you have to move forward, but he must know it takes time to earn the trust back. You can forgive easy enough but it is hard to forget, and actually you do not forget. You just put it aside in hopes it does not happen again. Been there.It has been 20 years for me and we are doing great but the thoughts are still there sometimes. I try not to think about it at all. That part of our life is over.You have to move on to make it work. Make them earn your trust and trust your instincts.

This might sound cheesy to some but out of the advice that I have read or heard.. yours has been the best. For whatever reason it has given me peace and I was able to get a good night's sleep. Everything you said is absolutely right.. and I thank you from my heart!

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Judged:

Survival stories??
You got to be kidding me! Look, its simple! If he/she cheats, get out of it. Life is too short to dwell on the stupidity of some women and some men. Cheating happens, its a fact of life and more often than not, they are not ever caught doing it. And the old saying is very very true, Time Does Heal!

hownice

Hamilton, OH

Judged:

heres some information wrote:

Survival stories??
You got to be kidding me! Look, its simple! If he/she cheats, get out of it. Life is too short to dwell on the stupidity of some women and some men. Cheating happens, its a fact of life and more often than not, they are not ever caught doing it. And the old saying is very very true, Time Does Heal!

wow! what a sweet person you are. This post was created to help people who are experiencing the heartache of a cheating spouse not for negative comments like the one you posted.

mammabear

I got your crazy wrote:

<quoted text> This might sound cheesy to some but out of the advice that I have read or heard.. yours has been the best. For whatever reason it has given me peace and I was able to get a good night's sleep. Everything you said is absolutely right.. and I thank you from my heart!

You are very welcome, hang in there. It does get better.

mammabear

friend wrote:

<quoted text>did your husband cheat with a woman he worked with in winchester. you sound like my friends aunt that had a husband that cheated and you went all wild and crazzzzzzzzzzy. just wondering she said you 2 were doing good that he has really changed and doesn't lie anymore about working and other things.if this is the same woman glad you and him worked things out. if not sorry to have bothered you.

No, I am not this woman. Just wanted to let you know. I have not cheated on my husband. Most people need to realize the grass is not greener on the other side. I have been flirted with many times over the years but I never cheated. I am happy to say I have no regrets about that either.

Rukidnme

Sandgap, KY

Judged:

Staying with a cheat is russian roulette...you will eventually get the bullet. .move on..and save your own life...a cheat is a self centered person with a very low self esteem...the only reason they cheat is because they are too scared to look their mate in the eyeand move on .

The Bullet

Jackson, KY

Rukidnme wrote:

Staying with a cheat is russian roulette...you will eventually get the bullet..move on..and save your own life...a cheat is a self centered person with a very low self esteem...the only reason they cheat is because they are too scared to look their mate in the eyeand move on .

you mention BULLET! I know where you can get the BULLET, at the so called book store in Lex. you can get a BULLET, pocket toys, movies, herbs to help you and your spouse. Hustler Hollywood also caries these items. Maybe, just maybe if you try these items this just might boost your sex lives up where you can keep your spouse home.

book

London, KY

There's a book that Alan Jackson's wife, Denise, wrote that is an autobiography. She discusses how she got through him cheating on her. Sometimes you just know in your heart you're supposed to be together, but don't kid yourself. Sometimes I think we go into things "knowing" it's not going to work, but we do it anyway. We hope it might work only to find ourselves hurt once again and thinking we knew better. When children are involved, it's another story too. Just know people are praying for you. Time does ease the pain.

mammabear

Rukidnme wrote:

Staying with a cheat is russian roulette...you will eventually get the bullet..move on..and save your own life...a cheat is a self centered person with a very low self esteem...the only reason they cheat is because they are too scared to look their mate in the eyeand move on .

If the reasons you stated are why you think people cheat...you have a lot to learn.

swamp momma

here is one for everyone to ponder upon...
I cheated with a man who was in a long relattionship and we got caught by his other half. We were together for a few months and then he left me. So, who do you think got the worst end of this deal? ME? Her? Him?

oh yeah

Her

I got your crazy

Judged:

swamp momma wrote:

here is one for everyone to ponder upon...
I cheated with a man who was in a long relattionship and we got caught by his other half. We were together for a few months and then he left me. So, who do you think got the worst end of this deal? ME? Her? Him?

You didn't get the worst end of the deal because your still here to brag about it. If I had caught you with my man- I would have probably broken your chicken neck. Homewreckin' hoe.

just me

If there were kids involved I'd say that they got the worst end of the deal....

well well