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Angered WIFE

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#1 Nov 26, 2008
Men who talk shit to their wives and actually have the nerve to threaten to cheat on them. It amazes me how much lack of respect these certain men have for their wives. All they want to do is make threats?? For what? Who cares if you stay up all night and day with the kids, to the point where you have little time to yourself. As of sex, every chance they get, it gets thrown up in your face. Lack of...mostly. For one thing, why don't you take care of the kids 24/7, will a couple little breaks, that might last 5 mins. How about YOU get up all hours of the night/early morning and feed/change/and get the little one back to sleep. See how you feel when lack of sleep creeps up on you. What actually makes you think that someone wants to have sex with you after you have made little jokes all day and night, about their weight? Let's see you drop all the "baby weight" after gaining 85 pounds. Like they have self-esteem problems already or for that matter, depressed enough over it. You should not have your husband make jokes at your sensitIve expense. So, go ahead and Cheat! Go out and find yourself a younger woman!! Keep on threatening!! Tell me more each day how "fat" I am, in your joke way! Cause you are right, I don't have to put up with it!!

TO SUM THIS MESSAGE UP! IT IS HARD LOSING 85 POUNDS AFTER HAVING YOUR BABY, CAN'T DROP IT OVER NIGHT. YES, I DO EAT, CAUSE IM SO DEPRESSED ABOUT THIS AND THAT...LET'S SEE IF WE CAN STOP THE SO-CALLED "JOKES" ABOUT MY WEIGHT! YOU NEVER JOKED BEFORE WHEN I WAS SMALLER. I'M SO SICK TO DEATH OF THE THREATS OF CHEATING ON ME! I DON'T TO THAT TO YOU WHEN I GET MAD! THE WORD "LAZY" IS GETTING OLD TOO! I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR VERSION OF IT IS, BUT IT ISN'T THE SAME AS MINE. I GUESS YOU ARE THE ONE THAT TAKES CARE OF THE BABY 24/7 AND CLEANS UP AROUND HERE. LOL..WHAT A JOKE!!!
Hey girl

Williston, SC

#2 Nov 26, 2008
hang in there; you are what he made you... a mother, one of the most important roles of a lifetime; if he cheats on the mother of his children then he isn't a MAN...he's just playing mind games with you...believe me I've been in your shoes and it's not a good feeling...sometimes these hurtful words are just as bad as a fist in the face. At least you know what hit you; this type of abuse will build up until you hit what I call your breaking point... He is setting himself up for a fall because the grass is NOT greenier on the other side...

LOOK in the mirror and LOOK at your child and after putting God first, you take care of that baby and yourself... you deserve RESPECT ....

God bless and take care ....
Stand Your Ground

Lewisport, KY

#3 Nov 26, 2008
I see where u coming from, it's never happened to me but I have seen it in my family and it's not a pretty picture. Stand your ground and don't let him control your life. Marriage is a two way street, both man and wife has to give a little take a little but neither one has to take no bull crap like what u have described. Yes the man is the head of the house hold but that don't mean he can do as he pleases, or should do as he pleases. Love is being in love and treating each other with respect no mater what the situation may be, sure u going to pick up some pounds after having his baby and yes it's hard to get off but if a man loves a woman he should love her fat or skinny. Big deal if the house is messy, if he has two hands and can walk then he can help clean the place after all I'm sure he helped make the some of the mess himself. So u hang in there and don't take no bull, let him know u r more of a woman than he is of a man. Good luck and Have A great Thanksgiving.
Been There

Green Bay, WI

#4 Nov 26, 2008
Men can be PIGS!!
Stand Your Ground

Lewisport, KY

#5 Nov 26, 2008
Hey girl wrote:
hang in there; you are what he made you... a mother, one of the most important roles of a lifetime; if he cheats on the mother of his children then he isn't a MAN...he's just playing mind games with you...believe me I've been in your shoes and it's not a good feeling...sometimes these hurtful words are just as bad as a fist in the face. At least you know what hit you; this type of abuse will build up until you hit what I call your breaking point... He is setting himself up for a fall because the grass is NOT greenier on the other side...
LOOK in the mirror and LOOK at your child and after putting God first, you take care of that baby and yourself... you deserve RESPECT ....
God bless and take care ....
very well said and that is so true. Maybe she will take your advice and see how things goes then. I say if he don't stop then she should Dump him. Have a great Thanksgiving.
Hey girl

Williston, SC

#6 Nov 26, 2008
Stand Your Ground wrote:
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very well said and that is so true. Maybe she will take your advice and see how things goes then. I say if he don't stop then she should Dump him. Have a great Thanksgiving.
Thanks...this topic is very real and hits me especially at the holidays. I am divorced and went through this type of abuse but, I would love to be one of those people who could honestly say that their marriage had stood the best and worst of times. There come's a time when abuse is just that ...abuse. MEN ... wake up, life is more than the perfect body and wife who is ready and willing at your beckon call... we love the little things... help us with our housework, fix us dinner occasionally, say a kind word and it will make your life so much better.... belittle us and you break our spirit and you become a stranger...we may not weight what we did before children...but, you need to look in the mirror and do a reality check...we didn't marry a mean, inconsiderate, Joke of a husband...or did we??? Is this the REAL you...???? These little young girls will get old too. And, do you want to die alone or would you rather be with someone who truly loves you and would take care of your sick butt when you are old and gray...
Woman Power

Lewisport, KY

#7 Nov 27, 2008
Hey girl wrote:
<quoted text>Thanks...this topic is very real and hits me especially at the holidays. I am divorced and went through this type of abuse but, I would love to be one of those people who could honestly say that their marriage had stood the best and worst of times. There come's a time when abuse is just that ...abuse. MEN ... wake up, life is more than the perfect body and wife who is ready and willing at your beckon call... we love the little things... help us with our housework, fix us dinner occasionally, say a kind word and it will make your life so much better.... belittle us and you break our spirit and you become a stranger...we may not weight what we did before children...but, you need to look in the mirror and do a reality check...we didn't marry a mean, inconsiderate, Joke of a husband...or did we??? Is this the REAL you...???? These little young girls will get old too. And, do you want to die alone or would you rather be with someone who truly loves you and would take care of your sick butt when you are old and gray...
Wonderfully spoken, my hats off to u. if that don't wake'em up nothing will. Women this day and age r smarter than back in them days. They had to do chores and slop the hogs and feed the chickens, cows, horses and then tend the fields, and low and behold let's not forget tending to the babies. We have it going on now by showing the men we can do this all alone without them. We have more rights, we have more careers and we can bring home the bacon and do just fine without them and their head of the house hold attitude. We will survive. We have proved it many times. So the men needs to wake up or they will be out in the cold, or with some young chick that isn't worth the salt in their beans.
this

Sizerock, KY

#8 Nov 27, 2008
is the mistake in most marages.when you choose a mate.make sure you look into that persons generashion.see if th are what you think th are.becouse you cant take nothing and make something out of them.it just don't work 95% of the time.
impartial observer

Williston, SC

#9 Nov 27, 2008
Angered WIFE wrote:
Men who talk shit to their wives and actually have the nerve to threaten to cheat on them. It amazes me how much lack of respect these certain men have for their wives. All they want to do is make threats?? For what? Who cares if you stay up all night and day with the kids, to the point where you have little time to yourself. As of sex, every chance they get, it gets thrown up in your face. Lack of...mostly. For one thing, why don't you take care of the kids 24/7, will a couple little breaks, that might last 5 mins. How about YOU get up all hours of the night/early morning and feed/change/and get the little one back to sleep. See how you feel when lack of sleep creeps up on you. What actually makes you think that someone wants to have sex with you after you have made little jokes all day and night, about their weight? Let's see you drop all the "baby weight" after gaining 85 pounds. Like they have self-esteem problems already or for that matter, depressed enough over it. You should not have your husband make jokes at your sensitIve expense. So, go ahead and Cheat! Go out and find yourself a younger woman!! Keep on threatening!! Tell me more each day how "fat" I am, in your joke way! Cause you are right, I don't have to put up with it!!
TO SUM THIS MESSAGE UP! IT IS HARD LOSING 85 POUNDS AFTER HAVING YOUR BABY, CAN'T DROP IT OVER NIGHT. YES, I DO EAT, CAUSE IM SO DEPRESSED ABOUT THIS AND THAT...LET'S SEE IF WE CAN STOP THE SO-CALLED "JOKES" ABOUT MY WEIGHT! YOU NEVER JOKED BEFORE WHEN I WAS SMALLER. I'M SO SICK TO DEATH OF THE THREATS OF CHEATING ON ME! I DON'T TO THAT TO YOU WHEN I GET MAD! THE WORD "LAZY" IS GETTING OLD TOO! I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR VERSION OF IT IS, BUT IT ISN'T THE SAME AS MINE. I GUESS YOU ARE THE ONE THAT TAKES CARE OF THE BABY 24/7 AND CLEANS UP AROUND HERE. LOL..WHAT A JOKE!!!
looks like you made the same mistake MANY MANY women make, you marry someone without really knowing them. People wonder why so many marriages end in divorce. It is no mystery. Young kids base their choice of sexual partner on "aww dont we look cute together?". Or other factors like, he is a popular football player, or he comes from a family with money so he will be a good provider, or he is going into coal miner so we will have good money. Well if men and women were smart they would date at least two years before marrying, and hell even live together for a year(yeah i know the church people are gonna throw a fit on that one but doesnt it beat having all these children with single parents?)Good luck maybe some other young people can learn from your mistake.
Exactly

AOL

#10 Nov 27, 2008
this wrote:
is the mistake in most marages.when you choose a mate.make sure you look into that persons generashion.see if th are what you think th are.becouse you cant take nothing and make something out of them.it just don't work 95% of the time.
This is one of the smartest posts on this topic. When I started dating my spouse everybody in my family, and all my friends pointed out family history, but I would have none of it. I was head strong and ignored all the advice that I got, let's just say they were right and I was wrong and I have suffered for it ever since. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!
wasp

United States

#11 Nov 27, 2008
Exactly wrote:
<quoted text>This is one of the smartest posts on this topic. When I started dating my spouse everybody in my family, and all my friends pointed out family history, but I would have none of it. I was head strong and ignored all the advice that I got, let's just say they were right and I was wrong and I have suffered for it ever since. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!
i agree .expurance cant bet it.
there is hope

Williston, SC

#12 Nov 27, 2008
Angered WIFE wrote:
Men who talk shit to their wives and actually have the nerve to threaten to cheat on them. It amazes me how much lack of respect these certain men have for their wives. All they want to do is make threats?? For what? Who cares if you stay up all night and day with the kids, to the point where you have little time to yourself. As of sex, every chance they get, it gets thrown up in your face. Lack of...mostly. For one thing, why don't you take care of the kids 24/7, will a couple little breaks, that might last 5 mins. How about YOU get up all hours of the night/early morning and feed/change/and get the little one back to sleep. See how you feel when lack of sleep creeps up on you. What actually makes you think that someone wants to have sex with you after you have made little jokes all day and night, about their weight? Let's see you drop all the "baby weight" after gaining 85 pounds. Like they have self-esteem problems already or for that matter, depressed enough over it. You should not have your husband make jokes at your sensitIve expense. So, go ahead and Cheat! Go out and find yourself a younger woman!! Keep on threatening!! Tell me more each day how "fat" I am, in your joke way! Cause you are right, I don't have to put up with it!!
TO SUM THIS MESSAGE UP! IT IS HARD LOSING 85 POUNDS AFTER HAVING YOUR BABY, CAN'T DROP IT OVER NIGHT. YES, I DO EAT, CAUSE IM SO DEPRESSED ABOUT THIS AND THAT...LET'S SEE IF WE CAN STOP THE SO-CALLED "JOKES" ABOUT MY WEIGHT! YOU NEVER JOKED BEFORE WHEN I WAS SMALLER. I'M SO SICK TO DEATH OF THE THREATS OF CHEATING ON ME! I DON'T TO THAT TO YOU WHEN I GET MAD! THE WORD "LAZY" IS GETTING OLD TOO! I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR VERSION OF IT IS, BUT IT ISN'T THE SAME AS MINE. I GUESS YOU ARE THE ONE THAT TAKES CARE OF THE BABY 24/7 AND CLEANS UP AROUND HERE. LOL..WHAT A JOKE!!!
Been there, done that....you keep your head up high and remember the weight will come off and it's not what's on the outside that matters anyways, it's whats in your heart...don't let a stupid man get you down...you wise up girl and make them wish they had never, ever made the remarks that they have....keep in touch with us...you do have friends out here....
WELL

Harpursville, NY

#13 Nov 27, 2008
Hney
U all just dont give us enough

SELF RESPECT
when

Williston, SC

#14 Nov 27, 2008
I read that it sounded like i had written it. All of that stuff he says is hurtin him as much as you cause you will grow to despise the ground he walks on. Just don't take it to heart and remember he is supposed to love you like God loves his church. Maybe he will come around before it is unreparable. Read Peter it gives some advice that helped me through the name calling.
no way

Green Bay, WI

#15 Nov 27, 2008
you need to have enough respet for yourself and your children to stand up for yourself. if you dont stop it now it will only get worse. remember that our children are our first priority and if we are living a life of misery so are our children. no man is worth it.
impartial observer

Williston, SC

#16 Nov 27, 2008
oops guess i was wrong. they did get to know each other well before marrying. they were meant for each other. which means she was meant to be with a selfish, god-complexed man. My bad sister. rock on! keep on bitching. dont listen to anyone unless they say what you wanna hear! that always helps.
i understand

Hazard, KY

#17 Nov 27, 2008
hey stand your ground sounds like you are a great mother,my husbands yells divorce all the time then when i get ready to leave he sorry can't make it if he loses me and his kids so i've learned to treat them like crap and i promise you they will understand how it feels to be treated bad. i have been married for11 years but things only started with my husband for the last maybe month. so be proud your a great mom a let him see what he has to lose.
won

Ripley, TN

#18 Nov 28, 2008
With an attitude like that , its no wonder he threatens to leave. You seemed to have a one sided story , Id like to hear his.

Women like to tell their version of things I find. Im sure he has his complaints too..

If what you say is 100% true , then he is a pig , but Id like to hear and see for myself before I jump on the menarepigs bandwagon. Till then , your just another "im a victim, pitty me" wife as far as im concerned.
been there on done that

London, KY

#19 Nov 28, 2008
I would just like to say, you go girl!! Keep your head up high!! Don't let ppl try to tell you it might be your fault or you deserve what you get. I know first hand where your coming from. I was in your shoes myself just months ago. If he's threaten to leave tell him you'll help him pack! I know first hand how bad having a cheating husband can hurt??? Like HELL!! No other hurt in the world. Especially when the other "woman" can just pretend like she done nothing wrong.. Stand up for yourself and be strong for your child. Its hard but you'll do just fine on your own. If I can do it with 2 lil ones you can too. Be strong for yourself!! Just remember your kids will be there when no one else will!!
me too

Williston, SC

#20 Nov 28, 2008
been there on done that wrote:
I would just like to say, you go girl!! Keep your head up high!! Don't let ppl try to tell you it might be your fault or you deserve what you get. I know first hand where your coming from. I was in your shoes myself just months ago. If he's threaten to leave tell him you'll help him pack! I know first hand how bad having a cheating husband can hurt??? Like HELL!! No other hurt in the world. Especially when the other "woman" can just pretend like she done nothing wrong.. Stand up for yourself and be strong for your child. Its hard but you'll do just fine on your own. If I can do it with 2 lil ones you can too. Be strong for yourself!! Just remember your kids will be there when no one else will!!
You are so right! Been there many of a time. First of all, two wrongs don't make a right, so don't do what he has done. Second, what goes around comes around. Third, Hold your head up and don't let him know that it's killing you. Then you lay back, watch and listen...You get ahold of yourself, when he starts his bullcrap, then when he leaves, get cleaned up, dolled up, and be ready to go out when he comes home, only if you have to go to the store, just be ready. I've even went and parked in a parking lot and stayed for several hours making him wonder. When things get real bad and he leaves his family, then you will HURT, and the hurt will seem to kill you but don't let him know it at all. PRAY about it, ask the lord to show you the way. Believe me it works (prayer) then when he sees that you wont take his bullcrap then he will start wanting his family back and quick. Yes, you will take him back, again and again, then one day that love that you have for him will no longer be in your heart, that love will turn to hate, and there ain't no turning back...I don't want you to hate him, just letting you know the cycle. Pray, that he sees the light and straightens up before that love turns. If you really love this man and I'm sure you do in some kind of crazy way, you will win. This is sad but marriage has come to a win win situation. No one seems to want it anymore. Just don't cheat, just make him wonder, hold the phone when he comes in, then hang up suddenly, he will question you, say "oh it was the wrong number". Play his game, but play it better. I've had to do this so many times I could write a book about it. But when the love turns to hate there's no turning back. You don't want that. Hang in there and good luck to you and your family. Don't play him to hard because if he beats you then it might get worse. Again, good luck and God bless you.

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