Wife cheated divorced and kids have questions

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Mar 17, 2014
 

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Long story short is that wife cheated. We got divorced 2 years ago. My 2 kids want to know why.

I'm ticked off and feel like making them hate their mother. I'm so close to telling them that their mom was a unfaithful tramp. They are in their young teens now and yes I'm still harboring anger towards my ex wife.

This will probably cause a big fracture in the relationship that they have with their mom but I will rejoice at my ex being seen as a tramp by our children. I'm mad and want her to be crushed like I was when I lost our marriage.

I need to get it off my chest. I'm so sick of everyone thinking she's innocent. She cheated and I don't think I'll get over it ever.

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Mar 17, 2014
 

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anger inside wrote:
Long story short is that wife cheated. We got divorced 2 years ago. My 2 kids want to know why.

I'm ticked off and feel like making them hate their mother. I'm so close to telling them that their mom was a unfaithful tramp. They are in their young teens now and yes I'm still harboring anger towards my ex wife.

This will probably cause a big fracture in the relationship that they have with their mom but I will rejoice at my ex being seen as a tramp by our children. I'm mad and want her to be crushed like I was when I lost our marriage.

I need to get it off my chest. I'm so sick of everyone thinking she's innocent. She cheated and I don't think I'll get over it ever.
Don't say anything I the kids.

Grow up.
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Huntington, WV

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anger inside wrote:
Long story short is that wife cheated. We got divorced 2 years ago. My 2 kids want to know why.

I'm ticked off and feel like making them hate their mother. I'm so close to telling them that their mom was a unfaithful tramp. They are in their young teens now and yes I'm still harboring anger towards my ex wife.

This will probably cause a big fracture in the relationship that they have with their mom but I will rejoice at my ex being seen as a tramp by our children. I'm mad and want her to be crushed like I was when I lost our marriage.

I need to get it off my chest. I'm so sick of everyone thinking she's innocent. She cheated and I don't think I'll get over it ever.
You need to get some counseling if you are still angry after 2yrs. Let it go. The truth will come out eventually & the kids will finally see her for what she is & if you let others do your dirty work, they'll appreciate you even more.
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Charleston, WV

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Seriously? Please get yourself and maybe even family group counseling. Didn't you take the mandated class through family court. Divorce is hard enough on kids as it is under the best of circumstances. I'm sorry for what happened to you but coming as a child of divorce and going through a divorce myself I would never do anything to hurt my kids and directing negativity towards the other parent directly hurts them. They will be hurt enough when they find out anyways , so why do that to them? Let go and be the bigger person and do the right thing by your children. They need you at your best.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
I'd tell them the truth if they are asking. Your ex chose to ruin the family so let her live with the consequences. It's her fault, not yours.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
anger inside wrote:
Long story short is that wife cheated. We got divorced 2 years ago. My 2 kids want to know why.
I'm ticked off and feel like making them hate their mother. I'm so close to telling them that their mom was a unfaithful tramp. They are in their young teens now and yes I'm still harboring anger towards my ex wife.
This will probably cause a big fracture in the relationship that they have with their mom but I will rejoice at my ex being seen as a tramp by our children. I'm mad and want her to be crushed like I was when I lost our marriage.
I need to get it off my chest. I'm so sick of everyone thinking she's innocent. She cheated and I don't think I'll get over it ever.
ur kids will be hurt 4 sure but it sounds like they is already hurtin. if they ask again just tell them the truth and try not to sound bitter when tlkng to them. I understand how u feel it happened to me too but I did not have kids thank goodness. I did put her facebook pic on a cheater website though lol.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
You need to move on. Like someone else said, the children will find out on their own someday. They still need to respect their mother regardless of the actions she did to you. I am sorry and know you are upset, but TWO YEARS?!? Time to move on and get over the resentment.
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Long story short is that wife cheated. We got divorced 2 years ago. My 2 kids want to know why.

I'm ticked off and feel like making them hate their mother. I'm so close to telling them that their mom was a unfaithful tramp. They are in their young teens now and yes I'm still harboring anger towards my ex wife.

This will probably cause a big fracture in the relationship that they have with their mom but I will rejoice at my ex being seen as a tramp by our children. I'm mad and want her to be crushed like I was when I lost our marriage.

I need to get it off my chest. I'm so sick of everyone thinking she's innocent. She cheated and I don't think I'll get over it ever.
What happened is between you and your ex-wife not your children. Telling them will only give YOU satisfaction. How selfish is that?

Why possibly hurt your children to make you feel better and make your ex-wife look bad?

Get counseling bud...
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Mar 18, 2014
 
[QUOTE who="seriously??"] <quoted text>
What happened is between you and your ex-wife not your children. Telling them will only give YOU satisfaction. How selfish is that?
Why possibly hurt your children to make you feel better and make your ex-wife look bad?
Get counseling bud...
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says the person who has never been cheated on. his kids are asking why they got divorced. should he lie? they are old enough to know. tell them and to he1l with the skank mom.

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Mar 18, 2014
 
yeah seriously wrote:
[QUOTE who="seriously??"] <quoted text>
What happened is between you and your ex-wife not your children. Telling them will only give YOU satisfaction. How selfish is that?
Why possibly hurt your children to make you feel better and make your ex-wife look bad?
Get counseling bud...
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says the person who has never been cheated on. his kids are asking why they got divorced. should he lie? they are old enough to know. tell them and to he1l with the skank mom.
Teach your kids to be a petty d bag?

Good idea. They'll turn out like you.
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Parents should set examples for their children.... I'm sure "dad" isn't going to call out the mom on cheating, although it probably helps to vent about it to an anonymous site... Adults that cheat are D bags too. Some day the cheaters of the world will have to explain themselves to their poor children. Let's hope the children can forgive the cheaters. Best of luck to those who are left picking of the pieces of a broken home.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
I have thought about this hard for the better part of the last 2 years. I want her to suffer emotionally like I have.

I still have the nasty little chat logs, texts, and emails that caught her up in her web of lies. I have an email draft saved with all the proof (some pics) that I am itching to send to her relatives, co-workers, and friends. She deserves to be humiliated honestly. Everyone would be so floored that little mrs. goody goody wrote, and DID the things I have proof of.

I do NOT want my kids hurt, but it is so darn hard for me to keep my mouth shut when they ask why I moved out. Their mother caused this. Why shouldn't they know the darned truth?

We went to parenting classes in the divorce process but I faked the whole thing because I just wanted it over with. I did not learn a thing in the classes.

I hate their mother even though I know it is wrong, I really hate her. She is not on drugs or any type of criminal but she is a wh*re in my mind. She ruined our family. Get this, she is not even with the person she cheated with anymore lol.(not funny, but might as well laugh).

People should know the truth about her. She does not deserve happiness and I want to take it from her like she did me.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
Another thing while I am ranting, our kids keep asking "Why won't you move back home?". I do not want my ex wife anymore. She only wanted me back when her fling dumped her. I am no ones second choice.

I want to be rid of this rage inside of me and I think if she is miserable, I will feel better. I know I am sick for thinking these things, but it is the cold hard truth.

Fortunately, I have been able to compartmentalize my feeling and still have a productive work life, but when I am away from work, it is almost like an obsession of mine to get even with her and make her unhappy.
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You're sounding psychotic. Get professional help...fast.

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Mar 18, 2014
 
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Another thing while I am ranting, our kids keep asking "Why won't you move back home?". I do not want my ex wife anymore. She only wanted me back when her fling dumped her. I am no ones second choice.

I want to be rid of this rage inside of me and I think if she is miserable, I will feel better. I know I am sick for thinking these things, but it is the cold hard truth.

Fortunately, I have been able to compartmentalize my feeling and still have a productive work life, but when I am away from work, it is almost like an obsession of mine to get even with her and make her unhappy.
You're a petty loser. No wonder she did what she did.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
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You're a petty loser. No wonder she did what she did.
name calling? wow.
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You're a petty loser. No wonder she did what she did.
"He" made her cheat? Ok, makes sense to me <insert sarcasm>.

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Mar 18, 2014
 
xyzpdg wrote:
<quoted text>"He" made her cheat? Ok, makes sense to me <insert sarcasm>.
I can understand it if she were trapped with someone like that. Stayed for the kids. Strayed for her sanity.
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Mar 18, 2014
 
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<quoted text>I can understand it if she were trapped with someone like that. Stayed for the kids. Strayed for her sanity.
OMG u r a re re!!!
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Mar 18, 2014
 
Guy is a nut. Hope someone is monitoring his bizarre posts.

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