That sounds more like a dominatrix. Men like milfs and cougars because they are not needy and know what they want.I think you gentlemen are missing the point of what makes up the dynamic of the Cougar/younger man relationship: the ladies are the ones in control. They'll be making the decision of who is ass end up, and when. And you'll like it.
Now return to your regularly scheduled program of preening and posturing,*boys*.
Husbands buy their wives a gift expecting sex. The wife pays him back with sex. Typical Valentine's Day. She dresses sexy knowing how the night will end. She is sexing him up in exchange for gifts. Same with girlfriends. No different than the common street walker, except the street walker is honest about the exchange. Too many women today have convinced themselves they don't have sex for money. You hold out sex for a month and see how long your "man" keeps you around. He will get it elsewhere.
Cougars typically have a home. They got it in their divorce. Now they are settled and don't need a man for money. But they still need that sex. And they like a man like the Energizer bunny. One who can keep going and going...or should I say "coming?"
If you don't understand the concept you must not be a cougar.
A milf typically gets hers while the hubby is at work. I've had both. No shame in my game.