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Why would a woman have a baby by a known deadbeat dad

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Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#1 Feb 20, 2013
Seriously, why do some women do this? I am talking about men who have 6 or more children they don't care for with several different women. Why would a woman think the man is suddenly going to change his ways and start being a father? Why would you want to have a child that is going to grow up not knowing their brothers and sisters? How could someone want to have a child with someone they know isn't likely to be in the picture later?
Insomniac

United States

#2 Feb 20, 2013
I would say cause their goofy as*es think they're special and it's gonna be different this time...cause he's done promised her the moon and talked a bunch of sh*t in her ear. Lol..that seems to be the way it goes to me..
Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#3 Feb 21, 2013
Insomniac wrote:
I would say cause their goofy as*es think they're special and it's gonna be different this time...cause he's done promised her the moon and talked a bunch of sh*t in her ear. Lol..that seems to be the way it goes to me..
I agree. But I still can't believe it when people are over 30 years old and are still that stupid. And I hate to be harsh and call someone stupid, but you would have to be stupid to so that. It's sad that no cares about what the child is going to go through.
goblo

Utica, PA

#4 Feb 21, 2013
So they can have baby deadbeats.
tweak

United States

#5 Feb 21, 2013
Are u talking about Del Dennis? He is a major deadbeat dad
steve

Moneta, VA

#6 Feb 21, 2013
No we are not. The guy in question is a white hillbilly.
Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#7 Feb 23, 2013
tweak wrote:
Are u talking about Del Dennis? He is a major deadbeat dad
No. I was kinda talking in general. I do know a few men that continue to have children and they don't even attempt to be fathers. It's just crazy that some women are willing to have babies with men like that. These men even brag about too. They will say things like I have 6 kids and another on the way. I got so many I don't have time for them and can't afford them all and then they just laugh it off, like it's funny. They think it's funny that they can't remember all their birthdays and names. It's just sad and pathetic. I couldn't imagine not knowing my child's birthday, not seeing them everyday, or not knowing their favorite things to do. How could a parent not care how their child is doing in life and school? And how could someone think that a person who doesn't care about their own children is going to care about them? I seriously don't get it.

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Since: Nov 11

BelAir, CA

#8 Feb 23, 2013
Why would a woman have sex with a deadbeat to begin with?
qaxyax

Monessen, PA

#9 Feb 23, 2013
youtube.com/watch...
He wouldnt be a dead beat then
Bystander

United States

#10 Feb 23, 2013
Hmm wrote:
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No. I was kinda talking in general. I do know a few men that continue to have children and they don't even attempt to be fathers. It's just crazy that some women are willing to have babies with men like that. These men even brag about too. They will say things like I have 6 kids and another on the way. I got so many I don't have time for them and can't afford them all and then they just laugh it off, like it's funny. They think it's funny that they can't remember all their birthdays and names. It's just sad and pathetic. I couldn't imagine not knowing my child's birthday, not seeing them everyday, or not knowing their favorite things to do. How could a parent not care how their child is doing in life and school? And how could someone think that a person who doesn't care about their own children is going to care about them? I seriously don't get it.
I know one father in particular that the mother is such a royal betch that he cant stand to even look at his kids anymore because he sees her in them.
Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#11 Feb 23, 2013
Bystander wrote:
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I know one father in particular that the mother is such a royal betch that he cant stand to even look at his kids anymore because he sees her in them.
Ohh well. Doesn't matter if she is the most evil bitch in the world, those are still his kids. It's very sad that this man can't stand to be around his own children. How selfish of him to not be a father because he doesn't like the mother. Maybe he should have got to know her a little better before he got to know her. I think I hate the I am not going to be a dad because I don't like their mom excuse more than anything.
Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#12 Feb 23, 2013
Spleencage wrote:
Why would a woman have sex with a deadbeat to begin with?
Exactly. Why would a woman want to be with a man that has nothing to do with his children? Like I said earlier, if a man doesn't love his own flesh and blood enough to treat them correctly then he isn't capable of loving anyone.
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Bystander

United States

#14 Feb 23, 2013
Hmm wrote:
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Exactly. Why would a woman want to be with a man that has nothing to do with his children? Like I said earlier, if a man doesn't love his own flesh and blood enough to treat them correctly then he isn't capable of loving anyone.
I don't agree. I think if a mother torments the father enough for him not to.want aythinh to do with the child, it has nothing to do with the children or his love for them. He may not be in their young life, or first 18 years, but he has a lifetime when the mother is out of the picture and can no longer control him or the kids. But opinions r like as-holes, everyones got one.
dad

Huntington, WV

#15 Feb 23, 2013
Ask Ashley Patrick she's on her second child with a dead Beat.
Hmm

Parkersburg, WV

#16 Feb 23, 2013
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I don't agree. I think if a mother torments the father enough for him not to.want aythinh to do with the child, it has nothing to do with the children or his love for them. He may not be in their young life, or first 18 years, but he has a lifetime when the mother is out of the picture and can no longer control him or the kids. But opinions r like as-holes, everyones got one.
Then why wouldn't that father go to court and request a setup with the children that prevents contact with the mother? There are so many ways to get around things like that. And after 18 years of not being there the kid isn't just going to grow up and say it's okay you weren't around dad. There isn't going to be a bond there. Once the child is an adult some of the most important things in life have been missed. Why lose all of that just because the mom is a bitch. I know that some women can be very unreasonable but those children deserve to have both parents. The mother and father should do everything they can to create a happy environment. A father giving up on a child simply because he can't get along with the mother is a piss poor excuse for not being around. The men you are speaking of need to grow up and do something about the bad situation, it is their responsibility as a father. It doesn't matter how you slice it, they have given up on their children.
Bystander

United States

#17 Feb 23, 2013
And what if it hirts the children more if the mother is constantly lying on the father to the children and gone to court, but mother then sends messages through the children. It only hurts the kids worse in the long run. Why would he, as a loving father, put hos kids through all the mental abuse due.to the mother whrn he can walk away until the kids turn 18, explain to them the situatoon and spend the rest of their lives happy and healthy, without all the abuse. Now, doesnt that make more sense than putting his kids through all the drama? Ive been on both sides of it all and see the hurt that all the fighting causes and having to choose as a child. Why not make that decision for the child, and save them that hurt?!
twelve

Saint Albans, WV

#18 Feb 23, 2013
Well my babys father is a dead beat loser. And even after everyone seen what I had to go through with him and to get rid of him multiple hoes laid down to have a child with him.

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#19 Feb 24, 2013
I've often pondered this. I thought maybe a mixture of some guys just seemingly know how to pull the wool over the eyes of some ladies, combined with the factor they may possibly be hung like a walrus.... I don't know.

For example,there is a guy I work with, a pretty decent fellow. Was married but now divorced, kid is grown...a hard working, non smoking, no drinking type of guy who seems to have commitment issues.
He's entirely too happy at times and pleased with himself, I can tell :). He needs a good woman to bring down to Earth with the rest of us, me thinks.

But seriously, he doesn't even really try. I know it was a bad divorce (years ago). But why can't this guy find someone decent when I know he would be happier, and plus take care of his mate ... But yet all of these dead beats keep getting women, and leaving fatherless children behind. Maybe a combination of a blind eye by some of the fairer sex, and some of the good guys just don't try anymore , after they've had a bad experience.

Another mystery of life. Just one of an infinite number.



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Well

Parkersburg, WV

#21 Feb 24, 2013
Bystander wrote:
And what if it hirts the children more if the mother is constantly lying on the father to the children and gone to court, but mother then sends messages through the children. It only hurts the kids worse in the long run. Why would he, as a loving father, put hos kids through all the mental abuse due.to the mother whrn he can walk away until the kids turn 18, explain to them the situatoon and spend the rest of their lives happy and healthy, without all the abuse. Now, doesnt that make more sense than putting his kids through all the drama? Ive been on both sides of it all and see the hurt that all the fighting causes and having to choose as a child. Why not make that decision for the child, and save them that hurt?!
Because I have seen both sides myself and know that not having the dad around hurts the child more than anything. I guarantee you are exaggerating what the mother is doing anyways. You are probably a father that isn't around and is making up lame excuses. How many times has the man been to court to try and fix the situation you are referring to? Has there been an honest effort on the fathers part? I hate to tell you but children don't just hit 18 and then run to their fathers and instantly forgive them for not being around, no matter what the reasons were.

Why are you getting so defensive over deadbeat dads anyways? I was asking why a woman would have a child with a known deadbeat dad.
Well

Parkersburg, WV

#22 Feb 24, 2013
Will Munny wrote:
I've often pondered this. I thought maybe a mixture of some guys just seemingly know how to pull the wool over the eyes of some ladies, combined with the factor they may possibly be hung like a walrus.... I don't know.
For example,there is a guy I work with, a pretty decent fellow. Was married but now divorced, kid is grown...a hard working, non smoking, no drinking type of guy who seems to have commitment issues.
He's entirely too happy at times and pleased with himself, I can tell :). He needs a good woman to bring down to Earth with the rest of us, me thinks.
But seriously, he doesn't even really try. I know it was a bad divorce (years ago). But why can't this guy find someone decent when I know he would be happier, and plus take care of his mate ... But yet all of these dead beats keep getting women, and leaving fatherless children behind. Maybe a combination of a blind eye by some of the fairer sex, and some of the good guys just don't try anymore , after they've had a bad experience.
Another mystery of life. Just one of an infinite number.
I agree with you. I just wonder why the fathers don't try harder. How can you just give up on your own flesh and blood? I don't care how tense things are with your ex, being around you child as they are growing up makes it all worth it in the end.

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