Should Parents spy on their kids?

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“Topix Administration”

Level 8

Since: Aug 09

Palo Alto, Ca

#1 Apr 27, 2011
There's been a lot of controversy about a video that a New York Senator made to teach parents how to spy on their children

http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/01/31/new.york.sen...

Do children living at home have any privacy rights? At what age is too old for parents to snoop?
nope

Franklin, TN

#2 Apr 27, 2011
If they live in my house, I will snoop. I used to hate my parents for doing it to me, but now that I have children of my own, I am so grateful that they did. There were a couple times I found myself hanging with the "wrong crowd" and would've continued to do so if my mom hadn't been so freaking nosy. At the time, I thought it was the worst thing she could do - invade what little privacy I DID have in that house - but now that I have seen how the members of that "wrong crowd" have turned out, I completely understand why she did what she did. So, I say go ahead and snoop. Teenagers hate their parents anyway, so the worst that could happen is they just have ANOTHER excuse to hate us.
meddlin momma

Bluefield, WV

#3 Apr 27, 2011
nope wrote:
If they live in my house, I will snoop. I used to hate my parents for doing it to me, but now that I have children of my own, I am so grateful that they did. There were a couple times I found myself hanging with the "wrong crowd" and would've continued to do so if my mom hadn't been so freaking nosy. At the time, I thought it was the worst thing she could do - invade what little privacy I DID have in that house - but now that I have seen how the members of that "wrong crowd" have turned out, I completely understand why she did what she did. So, I say go ahead and snoop. Teenagers hate their parents anyway, so the worst that could happen is they just have ANOTHER excuse to hate us.
TOTALLY agree!

“TELLING IT LIKE IT IS ”

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Since: Aug 10

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#4 Apr 27, 2011
TOTALLY AGREE. I HAVE A KEYLOGGER ON MY COMPUTER THAT TRACKS EVERYTHING MY DAUGHTER DOES. IT TAKES SCREEN SHOTS AND EVERYTHING. SHE IS 16 AND AT THAT AGE AND I REMIND HER ALL THE TIME WHEN SHE GETS CAUGHT BY DOING SOMETHING STUPID THAT SHE CANT HIDE NOTHING FROM ME.....I ALSO LOVE TO SEE THOSE BIG EYES OF HERS WHEN SHE IS CAUGHT...IT IS KINDA FUNNY AND I TELL HER ONE DAY SHE WILL THANK ME FOR BEING SO NOSY. I DID THE SAME THING TO MY BOYS AND THEY ARE IN THEIR 20'S NOW AND THEY THANK ME EVERYDAY FOR BEING SO NOSEY AND STRICT.....
republic replacer

Gallipolis Ferry, WV

#5 Apr 27, 2011
good parents do anything to make sure they raise good and decent citizens. snooping or whatever..... do it!!
Tired

Beckley, WV

#6 Apr 27, 2011
If they live in MY house rent free, no matter what their age then they have no right to privacy...so they shouldn't expect it...
Always

United States

#7 Apr 27, 2011
I will always know what she is doing until she is an adult. We only have about 12 years to go! lol
Pickled Hamster

Parkersburg, WV

#8 Apr 27, 2011
I think it depends on the issue. If I saw negative changes in my child's behavior I would snoop to see what is going on with them. For example, if I thought my child was doing something to harm themselves or others I would snoop and try to help them. However, I wouldn't snoop over every little thing because I wouldn't want to overwhelm them or break down their trust.
pinkbroom

Hewett, WV

#9 Apr 27, 2011
Top Mod 8 wrote:
There's been a lot of controversy about a video that a New York Senator made to teach parents how to spy on their children
http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/01/31/new.york.sen...
Do children living at home have any privacy rights? At what age is too old for parents to snoop?
they are never to old .
mike

Farmington, MI

#10 Apr 27, 2011
Don't think you should, you should trust them to make good decisions, my parents gave me my privacy and I never resented them and I turned out good, but I can see your point of view especially the way society and high schools are today.
wowzers

Newark, NJ

#11 Apr 27, 2011
I am glad my dad cares so much and is so nosy. I think u should always be nosy with ur kids.. I'm 22 and I am thankful for how I was raised
your answer

Norfolk, VA

#12 Apr 27, 2011
Pickled Hamster wrote:
I think it depends on the issue. If I saw negative changes in my child's behavior I would snoop to see what is going on with them. For example, if I thought my child was doing something to harm themselves or others I would snoop and try to help them. However, I wouldn't snoop over every little thing because I wouldn't want to overwhelm them or break down their trust.
If you wait for a change I wish you were my momma & you would be in the loony farm.

If a child commits a crime the courts can put you in jail also because a child dose not have a mine of his own until 18 & some states 21
So don't let your kids go down th.
tube because you are waiting for a change, Then its to later.

My mother was the toughest gal in McDowell co. She whoop my rear in a Ny Min
anonymous

Huntington, WV

#13 Apr 27, 2011
I do not think parents should spy on their kids. I think that, as humans, we ALL deserve privacy. All of us, no matter what age. I understand if parents want to know what's going on in their child's life, but I'm positive they can find a better approach than snooping through private belonging of their children.

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#14 Apr 27, 2011
My kids are my liability until they are 18. Meaning I will snoop of I want too. Hell if I want to gps their underwear I will do it if I feel the need. They will have privacy when I say they can have it.
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Topix

#16 Apr 27, 2011
Snooping was not part of my child-rearing game plan. That is for parents who have already failed their children, and I am against it 100%.

Since: Jun 10

Topix

#17 Apr 27, 2011
nope wrote:
If they live in my house, I will snoop. I used to hate my parents for doing it to me, but now that I have children of my own, I am so grateful that they did. There were a couple times I found myself hanging with the "wrong crowd" and would've continued to do so if my mom hadn't been so freaking nosy. At the time, I thought it was the worst thing she could do - invade what little privacy I DID have in that house - but now that I have seen how the members of that "wrong crowd" have turned out, I completely understand why she did what she did. So, I say go ahead and snoop. Teenagers hate their parents anyway, so the worst that could happen is they just have ANOTHER excuse to hate us.
Teenagers do not ALL hate their parents.
Mee

United States

#18 Apr 27, 2011
not only yes but HELL YES
laura

New York, NY

#19 Apr 27, 2011
It's a parents job to make sure their child grows up to be a respectable adult so if that means u have to find out if their being trustworthy & honest than so be it!!!! That's how my mother was with me... Way over protective but I grew up fine & that's how I'm raising mine!
point mom

United States

#20 Apr 27, 2011
All teens do not hate their parents. I don't agree with the snooping unless maybe your child is showing signs of drug abuse or something of the sort. You should always have a close relationship with your child and build trust early on, talk to them about issues, be open minded, and above all teach them right from wrong and what consequences come from their actions. Given the right information and trust, kids will surprise you with the decisions they make. Snooping, drilling, overreacting to situations will not help your child make good decisions and feel good about themselves. When they mess up....be there for them, talk to them about the mistake, explain to them how they can make better choices. Everyone has to learn from their mistakes...and face it, everyone makes mistakes. It's how you deal with them and what you do after that matters. It makes us who we are. And it will make them better ppl in life. But be there for them, not against them.

“Topix Administration”

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Since: Aug 09

Palo Alto, Ca

#21 Apr 27, 2011
Another question

If you do snoop, do you try to hide it from your child? For instance, do they know you have spyware on the computer or do they know you look into their room and through their stuff or do you try to do it behind their backs? If they asked you if you snooped, would you admit it?

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