My daughter always wanted another child. She had a miscarriage when she was married about three years ago. She wanted my granddaughter to have a brother or a sister, I'm sure.
The guy she is seeing has had a vasectomy because he didn't want any more kids. She seems to be serious with him in some ways (sees him almost daily), but has told me on a couple of occasions that he is more like a friend.
Now she tells me that she wants to take in a foster child and not just a foster child, but a special needs foster child. She says, she wants to do something good in life that she can feel good about.
I don't think she'd be considering taking in a special needs child or a foster child if she thought she'd be having another child in the next couple of years.
I am glad there are people out there that will take in children with special needs that need a home and guidance. I think it is wonderful that my daughter wants to do what she can to contribute to the life of a child. However, I don't think she would be doing this, if she weren't involved with a man that has had a vasectomy.
Her six year old daughter is quite a handful as it is - can get very hyper and be very attention seeking. A special needs child isn't likely to be a Pollyanna type or an Orphan Annie type or a Tiny Tim. They are likely to have behavior problems.
I just have my reservations about my daughter taking on such a large responsibility as a single parent. She said her boyfriend said he'd help her out in her endeavors as a foster parent. How is he going to help her out? She works full time too. I just don't see a positive picture here, but then again I guess this is none of my business. My daughter is old enough to figure out what she wants in life. However, I wonder if she really knows what this all will entail.
The guy she is settling for sure doesn't want any more kids.