Spending time with your child

Spending time with your child

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dr faggott

Huntington, WV

#3 Oct 26, 2013
Deadbeat parent. Your child should always come first. Then if you have time you can date.
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nunya

Toledo, OH

#5 Oct 26, 2013
If your kid is old enough to care and be bothered by it then they're old enough to talk to dad about it themselves. You bringing it up would just make you sound jealous and bitter.
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nunya

Toledo, OH

#8 Oct 26, 2013
Jane wrote:
<quoted text>There is nothing to be jealous or bitter about.When your chid wants alone time with parent and gets upset cause the gf or bf is stuck up their butt.I think the gf or bf is jealous of the kid.
AGAIN, if your kid is old enough to care, they're old enough to address it THEMSELVES. I didn't say you were jealous or bitter; I said it makes you LOOK jealous or bitter if you bring it up and not the child. Thanks much.
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pal

United States

#10 Oct 26, 2013
I think any parent should want to spend some alone time with their child. The partner should understand that its important to the child no matter what age. Im not talking about 18 yr old. Some parents think the kid is selfish, what a jack ass. The kid needs some one on one time to feel secure with that parent. Hug your kid today. Tomarrow might not come.
dr phil

Huntington, WV

#11 Oct 26, 2013
Jane wrote:
<quoted text>There is nothing to be jealous or bitter about.When your chid wants alone time with parent and gets upset cause the gf or bf is stuck up their butt.I think the gf or bf is jealous of the kid.
Who is jealous? You or the kid?
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what

Hamlin, WV

#13 Oct 26, 2013
You had the child no one but god comes before during or after taking only care of them. Bf Gf. CAN TAKE CARE OF THEIR BIG SELF
pal

United States

#14 Oct 26, 2013
what wrote:
You had the child no one but god comes before during or after taking only care of them. Bf Gf. CAN TAKE CARE OF THEIR BIG SELF
Are you an idiot? Beside the fact that you don't make any sense. Both parents should be equally responsible for their kid. Who said it was the mother? What if the father is upset and has custody of the kid? What if the mother isn't spending one on one with the child. Its not about the parents dumass, it's about the child. Get your head out of the other ones ass!
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really

Langsville, OH

#16 Oct 26, 2013
This is the problem with so many families today divide the already divided family unit, sounds to me that you can't handle the fact that dad or mom wants to give the kids a family unit of some kind,families should do everything together that way no one feels left out. Families need to spend more time together than a part, sounds to me some one is trying to use the kid to break up the relationship because they can't handle it.
agree

Huntington, WV

#17 Oct 26, 2013
I agree with "Really" on this matter. There's nothing wrong with a family-oriented environment. I am a mother of two, and a step mom of a third child. When my stepson comes for the summer and holidays, he is around his father, myself, and our other kids. I treat him the same as my children. He is with me most of the time actually, as his dad goes to work. Don't get me wrong, his father takes him to the movies or something by himself at least once or twice during the summer, but for the most part, he is with all of us, and he seems to enjoy it. Just my opinion....
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really

United States

#20 Oct 26, 2013
I have a question for jane are you from a divorced family? When I was going up my parents never took some kids why the other's were left behind .If all the family didn't go then no one went unless it was work, my husband and I both have kids from previous marriages we never take some other the kids it's all or nothing, my husband's oldest son said it was the first time he didn't feel like a visitor when he came to spend time with his dad we do everything together one child is not treated different,that's why we plan everything around a visitation schedule. No one ever gets more attention his or mine
Just Sayin

United States

#21 Oct 26, 2013
What if its the father who doesn't want to leave their gf out. I'm a step mother and have encouraged my husband to spend time alone with his kids, but he refuses to do so. I often get blamed endlessly for coming in between him and his kids, but its not me! I deal with all of it by letting it go in one ear and out the other, but I have him telling me they have to get used to me being in his life and he wants to prove to them that we r a family and we all deserve equal attention. They on the other hand want 100 percent attention as any child would and have their mother telling them I am taking their father away from them which is so not true. So don't go judging the gf or wife without knowing the whole truth to the matter. Sge just may be the innocent bystander in the middle of all the baby mama drama.
really

United States

#22 Oct 26, 2013
How could you look at your other children and tell them they can't go with dad or mom because this one child needs more attention, please tell me how you could do that to any child biological or stepchild i just don't understand that.
really

United States

#23 Oct 26, 2013
Very well put just sayin, very well indeed
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really

Langsville, OH

#25 Oct 26, 2013
Maybe it's you he doesn't want to deal with, do you make sure there's a open line of communication with them or does he have to text or call your phone, that could be the problem, like I said i don't know how things ended with you two and it's none of my business, but that could be part of it
Just Sayin

United States

#26 Oct 26, 2013
Jane wrote:
<quoted text> That's just it they leave our child out.When she visits and ask to just talk to her dad he gets frustrated.He has gone weeks n don't call or txt.He says she can pick up the phone.He's the dad.I would txt my kid daily to let her know i love her.I do and we live togther.If
Maybe your child is trying to play both sides to get attention. Thats the first thing you learn in parenting classes. You can't just go by what the child has to say. Maybe the father is busy working and obviously has a family of his own. His attention, I'm sure, is on his other children when they visit. Selfishness is whats wrong with this world today and the root of all evil.
been there

Huntington, WV

#27 Oct 26, 2013
Look up parental alienation. Make sure you're not doing this to your child. It will destroy them. Divorce doesn't mess kids up only parents. Make sure you're not saying anything negative about dad or gf. Only hurts child.
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really

Langsville, OH

#29 Oct 26, 2013
Keep going just sayin you hit the nail on the head, to much me me me going on now days.
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really

Langsville, OH

#31 Oct 26, 2013
Amen been there stand up for what's right, to many parents worry about there self and to heck with the kids.
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Just Sayin

United States

#33 Oct 26, 2013
Its actually normal and healthy for children to see their parents kissing and showing attention to one another. They learn to look for a partner later in life that will show them the same amount of attention and appreciation. Maybe its the father showing attention to the gf that gets u and ur child upset. The hild is always gonna want to see their parents back together, but once she realises this new girl makes dad happy she will get used to it and be a part of it. I imagine its hard for you to deal with, but you r his past. She is his future so may as well try your best to get along with this new girl so your gild will see you making an effort and be more likely to get better used to the situation with a brighter outlook instead of all negativity.
coockoo

Huntington, WV

#34 Oct 26, 2013
You seem ate up with all this. You need to let things simmer and chill. You can't control situations elsewhere only at your place. I noticed you didn't defend yourself of say if you were talking negative about father or gf to child. Shame on you if you are. If you're talking bad about her blood to her, you are just as bad or worse.

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