Relationship advice
Lindy Ann

United States

#1 Aug 6, 2013
This is clearly not a good place to ask about this, but my friends and family suck at giving advice, so hello strangers!

I was texting this guy who I'd never met for about 2 weeks. I'd told him that I'd gained weight since my last relationship, which was about a year ago and he said he didn't mind.

We had our first date recently. I thought we had a nice time. We talked about seeing each other again. And we texted after the date and he said he had a good time and enjoyed my company.

But the next day he just kind if stopped responding during texting. I haven't texted him since. And it's been about 3 days.

Should I text him at some point? Or is it a lost cause? I suck at dating...
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Bluefield, WV

#3 Aug 6, 2013
Don't chase after a man. Ever. Let him chase you. If he doesn't, he isn't worth your time. Don't waste your time on someone who isn't calling or texting you. Don't get in touch with him, not even a text, and see what happens. If he doesn't get back with you, too bad for him. Bye!
Lycan

Huntington, IN

#4 Aug 7, 2013
1st off, gaining weight should not have even crossed your or his mind, you two never yet before. Have you lead him to believe you were any different? Sent him old pics or something? If so, you were wrong right from the start.
2ndly, he may be childish he may not be childish, but acting childish yourself is foolish. Atleast have self respect and dignity and handle rejection like an adult.
You should simply treat him like an aquaintence, cause that`s all he is at this point. A simple hello, how`s your day, what`s up will surfice.
really

South Point, OH

#5 Aug 7, 2013
Lindy Ann wrote:
This is clearly not a good place to ask about this, but my friends and family suck at giving advice, so hello strangers!
I was texting this guy who I'd never met for about 2 weeks. I'd told him that I'd gained weight since my last relationship, which was about a year ago and he said he didn't mind.
We had our first date recently. I thought we had a nice time. We talked about seeing each other again. And we texted after the date and he said he had a good time and enjoyed my company.
But the next day he just kind if stopped responding during texting. I haven't texted him since. And it's been about 3 days.
Should I text him at some point? Or is it a lost cause? I suck at dating...
sounds to me that you are not good with relationships. you don't have good communication skills ,and you sound naïve.
Really

Chicago, IL

#6 Aug 7, 2013
Maybe you were just a date. He probably has a girlfriend and you were a side dish. Is he from around here? Most men try to see what else is out there. They lie and cheat all the time. He probably can't text you cause he's with his gf. Was the date on Sunday? Just curious.
Derper

Huntington, WV

#7 Aug 7, 2013
I'm assuming you're young. Do not contact him in any way, shape or form. You may not like what I'm gonna say, but I swear it is the truth...

Think about cave people. Women tended the fires and babies. Men hunted and brought back the grub, and fought other men for the women. Yes, I know, it's the 21st century, but science has proven a thousand times over that men are biologically wired to be the aggressor. It's just a fact.

When a woman calls, texts, "just happens" to be at the same club, etc., men quickly look at that girl as if she is always available, always there...handy. They are not capable of respecting her. You can't blame them, and calling them pigs changes nothing.

But a woman who gives the impression that she has to move things around on her very busy schedule to fit him in, makes a man feel as if he has achieved something, accomplished something...reached a worthwhile goal. Get BUSY!! Go places, do things, be active in the world. If you have a few commitments, you won't look desperate. A desperate, man-hungry woman puts off a scent that makes men see them as something to be used and thrown away. They just wind up getting hurt, and it really can be avoided.

Self respect and pride is key. Always respect yourself, and insist that you BE respected by others. Good luck!
really

South Point, OH

#8 Aug 7, 2013
Really wrote:
Maybe you were just a date. He probably has a girlfriend and you were a side dish. Is he from around here? Most men try to see what else is out there. They lie and cheat all the time. He probably can't text you cause he's with his gf. Was the date on Sunday? Just curious.
she sounds like you got to spend a bunch money on her just to get laid once a month. no guy wants that. I don't care how good looking she is. hes probably smart and realizes you have issues you need to deal with.
really

South Point, OH

#9 Aug 7, 2013
Derper wrote:
I'm assuming you're young. Do not contact him in any way, shape or form. You may not like what I'm gonna say, but I swear it is the truth...
Think about cave people. Women tended the fires and babies. Men hunted and brought back the grub, and fought other men for the women. Yes, I know, it's the 21st century, but science has proven a thousand times over that men are biologically wired to be the aggressor. It's just a fact.
When a woman calls, texts, "just happens" to be at the same club, etc., men quickly look at that girl as if she is always available, always there...handy. They are not capable of respecting her. You can't blame them, and calling them pigs changes nothing.
But a woman who gives the impression that she has to move things around on her very busy schedule to fit him in, makes a man feel as if he has achieved something, accomplished something...reached a worthwhile goal. Get BUSY!! Go places, do things, be active in the world. If you have a few commitments, you won't look desperate. A desperate, man-hungry woman puts off a scent that makes men see them as something to be used and thrown away. They just wind up getting hurt, and it really can be avoided.
Self respect and pride is key. Always respect yourself, and insist that you BE respected by others. Good luck!
respect for yourself and others I agree with. too much pride makes you look arrogant. turn off:)
Derper

Huntington, WV

#10 Aug 7, 2013
By pride, I didn't mean snotty or rude. I meant a kind of quiet confidence. Yeah, nobody likes a girl that brags on herself all the time...that just makes her look insecure.

I guess I meant...keeping herself looking her best, acting like a lady, letting a man be a man. That's how I meant that.
really

South Point, OH

#11 Aug 7, 2013
Lindy Ann wrote:
This is clearly not a good place to ask about this, but my friends and family suck at giving advice, so hello strangers!
I was texting this guy who I'd never met for about 2 weeks. I'd told him that I'd gained weight since my last relationship, which was about a year ago and he said he didn't mind.
We had our first date recently. I thought we had a nice time. We talked about seeing each other again. And we texted after the date and he said he had a good time and enjoyed my company.
But the next day he just kind if stopped responding during texting. I haven't texted him since. And it's been about 3 days.
Should I text him at some point? Or is it a lost cause? I suck at dating...
ya you suck at dating and relationships. you probably lie,cheat and scam too. I know who you are. you better quit playing with your exes head. you owe him big time. he helped you with your messed up life, and you just used him for money. that's alright you are going to help him with his life in return for helping you with yours :)
really

South Point, OH

#12 Aug 7, 2013
Derper wrote:
By pride, I didn't mean snotty or rude. I meant a kind of quiet confidence. Yeah, nobody likes a girl that brags on herself all the time...that just makes her look insecure.
I guess I meant...keeping herself looking her best, acting like a lady, letting a man be a man. That's how I meant that.
I understand mean. exactly!
really

South Point, OH

#13 Aug 7, 2013
really wrote:
<quoted text> ya you suck at dating and relationships. you probably lie,cheat and scam too. I know who you are. you better quit playing with your exes head. you owe him big time. he helped you with your messed up life, and you just used him for money. that's alright you are going to help him with his life in return for helping you with yours :)
i understand what you mean
really

South Point, OH

#14 Aug 7, 2013
really wrote:
<quoted text>i understand what you mean
ya shes insecure as f#cf. always accusing someone of cheating and their not. she got with a healthy very attractive man and just accused him of cheating when he never did. maybe she will change maybe she wont. idk.
Anon

Huntington, WV

#15 Aug 7, 2013
really wrote:
<quoted text>ya shes insecure as f#cf. always accusing someone of cheating and their not. she got with a healthy very attractive man and just accused him of cheating when he never did. maybe she will change maybe she wont. idk.
Why do you keep replying to yourself and acting like this girl has done something wrong?! You're the one making assumptions and judging her based on a few sentences. It sounds to me like you're the one that is insecure and bad at relationships since you obviously have "cheating" issues. Shut up.
Lindy Ann

United States

#16 Aug 7, 2013
Thank you everyone...you guys were really helpful and sweet. Except for "Really"...I have no idea what they're talking about
really

South Point, OH

#17 Aug 7, 2013
Anon wrote:
<quoted text>
Why do you keep replying to yourself and acting like this girl has done something wrong?! You're the one making assumptions and judging her based on a few sentences. It sounds to me like you're the one that is insecure and bad at relationships since you obviously have "cheating" issues. Shut up.
no don't think so! I know her you don't!
really

South Point, OH

#18 Aug 7, 2013
Anon wrote:
<quoted text>
Why do you keep replying to yourself and acting like this girl has done something wrong?! You're the one making assumptions and judging her based on a few sentences. It sounds to me like you're the one that is insecure and bad at relationships since you obviously have "cheating" issues. Shut up.
and yes she has done something wrong so don't push the issue!

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