I want to cheat on my wife and dont t...

I want to cheat on my wife and dont think I care anymore

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Confused Dad

Lansing, MI

#1 Nov 28, 2012
I am a married man. I have several children all by the same wife lol.

I do not feel like I am getting out of the relationship what I have put into it.

I am almost at the point where I want to cheat. I do not know if I even care if I get caught or what my children would think of me. My happiness means something, doesn't it?
Confused Dad

Lansing, MI

#2 Nov 28, 2012
I take back the part about not caring what my kids think of me. I DO care about that. I am just very confused. Sorry.
yes

Huntington, WV

#3 Nov 28, 2012
Um then get a divorce you selfish a$$ Cheating really? If you want happy leave don't be a douche bag.

“Think Like an Animal”

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Since: Jul 12

Planet Earth

#4 Nov 28, 2012
Yes, your happiness means something but so does the happiness of your wife and your children.

Level 9

Since: Aug 11

Richmond, VA

#5 Nov 28, 2012
No
hawk

Lubbock, TX

#6 Nov 28, 2012
Confused Dad wrote:
I take back the part about not caring what my kids think of me. I DO care about that. I am just very confused. Sorry.
If you DO care what your children think, and I feel you sincerely do, you need to get a divorce BEFORE you start something with another woman. As a child whose parents divorced due to my father having an affair, I held an unhealthy amount of resentment towards my father because he hurt my mother so much. It was not until my mother found her second husband and became happy again, that I forgave my father. Precious time and many important moments were missed because of the resentment I held towards him for the betrayal. I am sure I would have been upset at the divorce, even if he had not had an affair, but it wouldn't have ingrained such resentment in me. Just something to think about in regards to your children.
man who did not stray

Huntington, WV

#7 Nov 28, 2012
Confused Dad wrote:
I am a married man. I have several children all by the same wife lol.
I do not feel like I am getting out of the relationship what I have put into it.
I am almost at the point where I want to cheat. I do not know if I even care if I get caught or what my children would think of me. My happiness means something, doesn't it?
Do not do it. Yes, of course your happiness means something, but the happiness of your children MEANS MUCH MORE THAN YOUR happiness. Sorry not hating on you, just being blunt.
well....

Elyria, OH

#8 Nov 28, 2012
You should prob go see a shrink and try to work things out with your wife... You married her for a reason... She apparently meant a lot to you... And then you choose to have kids with her... So you should attempt to make things right at home... Running off with a skank is not really a good answer... Temp. Fun for you that will cause a life time of pain for your family....
Nobody

United States

#9 Nov 28, 2012
Ive been where u r now and cheating is not the answer. Because of what my ex did (let me for another who left him single) my son ended up on serious drugs. And my daughter has been in and out of treatment facilities since the incident. If there is any love in your heart at all with this woman, if u care how your kids feel, be a man and a father and fix it. I know u feel as though there is absolutely no hope left and I guarentee she feels the same, but u r the man and u can fix it and b happy again. Show her love and kindness and no matter what she says or does, keep ur mouth shut. She will test u, but once she really believes u r trying, she will fall in love with u all over again. If only my husband cared a little, my children wouldnt b going through what they r right now. U r at a critical point in ur relationship and u can fix it. All their lives and happiness is in ur hands. I could go on and tell u about him and how he is living with the guilt of what he done, but I wont. Its all in ur hands.
Proud parent

Ashburn, VA

#10 Nov 28, 2012
My advise would be to talk to your wife. Open the line of communitcation. Maybe she doesn't realize that things are this bad. I had the discussion with my spouse and now things are great between us. Instead of throwing away 25 years of marriage we worked it out and now we act like newlyweds. He honestly didn't know that anything was wrong and never would have if I hadn't told him. I'm happy he's happy the kids are happy. And no one had to cheat!!!
Myrna

Chesapeake, VA

#11 Nov 28, 2012
Confused Dad wrote:
I am a married man. I have several children all by the same wife lol.
I do not feel like I am getting out of the relationship what I have put into it.
I am almost at the point where I want to cheat. I do not know if I even care if I get caught or what my children would think of me. My happiness means something, doesn't it?
I feel that you got a used woman when you got married and now you are not happy with her and this is why you want to cheat.
yep

Avella, PA

#12 Nov 28, 2012
Proud parent wrote:
My advise would be to talk to your wife. Open the line of communitcation. Maybe she doesn't realize that things are this bad. I had the discussion with my spouse and now things are great between us. Instead of throwing away 25 years of marriage we worked it out and now we act like newlyweds. He honestly didn't know that anything was wrong and never would have if I hadn't told him. I'm happy he's happy the kids are happy. And no one had to cheat!!!
My wife and I went through similar experience, except I was already talking to someone and was close to cheating. When we actually talked openly with each other, we discovered we both had many of the same problems in the marriage. Now its all working great. No one cheated and we are happier than ever in our marriage. Communication can cure many things. You owe it to yourself and your family to at least try.
not perfect

Proctorville, OH

#13 Nov 28, 2012
I agree you both need to set down and talk openly to each other, she may not have any idea how you have been feeling, so therefore its not right to cheat on her, you never know she may feel the same way as you do, communication has alot to do with a good marriage. Get a babysitter and go out! your gonna need to concentrate on this one, know what you want to say and dont be afraid to say it!! you never know this may be the change you are looking for. Good Luck
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Lubbock, TX

#14 Nov 28, 2012
Myrna wrote:
<quoted text>I feel that you got a used woman when you got married and now you are not happy with her and this is why you want to cheat.
What is your definition of a "used woman"?

“E A D G B E”

Level 8

Since: Oct 10

3rd String is the G String

#15 Nov 28, 2012
Your wife probably has many of the same thoughts and feelings you are having. If you feel so unhappy, you can't be putting forth much effort into the relationship. It does take two and I strongly believe that what is good for the goose, will be just wonderful for the gander.

If you were my husband and I discovered you had taken this to a Topix forum before talking to me....well buster, you would not have any say in the matter. Your a$$ would be soooo gone.
How disrespectful can a person be?
question

Lubbock, TX

#16 Nov 29, 2012
Misty Fitch wrote:
Your wife probably has many of the same thoughts and feelings you are having. If you feel so unhappy, you can't be putting forth much effort into the relationship. It does take two and I strongly believe that what is good for the goose, will be just wonderful for the gander.

If you were my husband and I discovered you had taken this to a Topix forum before talking to me....well buster, you would not have any say in the matter. Your a$$ would be soooo gone.
How disrespectful can a person be?
How strong could the relationship be that you could end it over him starting a topix thread? Granted the subject matter is sensitive but still, this is marriage not dating. I can also ask how strong is the relationship with the guy who turned to topix before his wife? That doesn't look good either. I see your point but can you see mine? Both appear to have weak bonds with their spouse especially you if you would end your marriage over that.

“E A D G B E”

Level 8

Since: Oct 10

3rd String is the G String

#17 Nov 29, 2012
question wrote:
<quoted text>
How strong could the relationship be that you could end it over him starting a topix thread? Granted the subject matter is sensitive but still, this is marriage not dating. I can also ask how strong is the relationship with the guy who turned to topix before his wife? That doesn't look good either. I see your point but can you see mine? Both appear to have weak bonds with their spouse especially you if you would end your marriage over that.
I see your point since, I have had three husbands. All because I never
waited for the right man. I found him but it was too late...Guess he never waited for me either.
I never had a strong relationship so I will stop giving advice. I hope if the
love is still there, they work it out.
Idk

Huntington, WV

#18 Nov 29, 2012
Misty Fitch wrote:
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I see your point since, I have had three husbands. All because I never
waited for the right man. I found him but it was too late...Guess he never waited for me either.
I never had a strong relationship so I will stop giving advice. I hope if the
love is still there, they work it out.
It's never too late. You can still find the right guy. Keep looking. He's out there somewhere.
question

Lubbock, TX

#19 Nov 29, 2012
Misty Fitch wrote:
<quoted text>I see your point since, I have had three husbands. All because I never
waited for the right man. I found him but it was too late...Guess he never waited for me either.
I never had a strong relationship so I will stop giving advice. I hope if the
love is still there, they work it out.
I am sorry to hear that. Perhaps the time hasn't come yet? Either way, do not give up.
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Since: Nov 12

New York City

#21 Nov 30, 2012
That's allot of children, hard to believe you're not getting back what you put into it.

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