Unknown

Faber, VA

#1 Sep 10, 2013
Im young and was seeing a girl. I cared about her, but she is lazy. She has a kid, lives with her mom, doesn't drive, doesn't work....Nothing. Is it bad that I broke up with her? Im young and don't want to be with someone who is lazy and has no desire to be a productive member of society.

Level 5

Since: Sep 13

Indianapolis, IN

#2 Sep 10, 2013
Unknown wrote:
Im young and was seeing a girl. I cared about her, but she is lazy. She has a kid, lives with her mom, doesn't drive, doesn't work....Nothing. Is it bad that I broke up with her? Im young and don't want to be with someone who is lazy and has no desire to be a productive member of society.
You're worse than Hitler (Mr. Hitler to some people in Huntington.) You did the right thing. Now goose step out of that relationship and find someone else.
Yep

Fraziers Bottom, WV

#3 Sep 10, 2013
Unknown wrote:
Im young and was seeing a girl. I cared about her, but she is lazy. She has a kid, lives with her mom, doesn't drive, doesn't work....Nothing. Is it bad that I broke up with her? Im young and don't want to be with someone who is lazy and has no desire to be a productive member of society.
You done the right thing,I assume the kid isn't yours.
How old was she

Faber, VA

#4 Sep 10, 2013
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Derper

Huntington, WV

#5 Sep 10, 2013
Unknown wrote:
Im young and was seeing a girl. I cared about her, but she is lazy. She has a kid, lives with her mom, doesn't drive, doesn't work....Nothing. Is it bad that I broke up with her? Im young and don't want to be with someone who is lazy and has no desire to be a productive member of society.
Assuming that isn't your child, you did the right thing. The bible says that people should not be "unequally yoked". That's typically interpreted as "Christian with non-Christian", but I think it's good common sense generally.

If you are ambitious and have goals, then someone who just drifts through life would have made you miserable. You would have wound up making her feel bad about herself, too, even without trying, because she would eventually see you as a physical reminder of her shortcomings, and that's painful.

Seek your own kind, and good luck!
Unknown

Faber, VA

#6 Sep 10, 2013
No, the child isn't mine. I just don't understand how someone can live with their mom, who gets section 8, and is disabled, and be ok with that life. I thought she would see me working hard and want to get a job, take care of her child with her own hard work, get a license, her own place, but none of that happened. She told me all that ever happens is her heart gets broke.

Level 5

Since: Sep 13

United States

#7 Sep 10, 2013
Unknown wrote:
No, the child isn't mine. I just don't understand how someone can live with their mom, who gets section 8, and is disabled, and be ok with that life. I thought she would see me working hard and want to get a job, take care of her child with her own hard work, get a license, her own place, but none of that happened. She told me all that ever happens is her heart gets broke.
Try being her friend; people are motivated by seeing, then learn by doing. In the grand scheme of things:

1. Sex is easy. We have the plumbing and drive; she found that out already.
2. Relationship is hard: it involves becoming less selfish.
3. I think friendship is hardest of all: giving without expecting anything back.

Try friendship.
Options

Glen Allen, VA

#8 Sep 10, 2013
Unknown wrote:
No, the child isn't mine. I just don't understand how someone can live with their mom, who gets section 8, and is disabled, and be ok with that life. I thought she would see me working hard and want to get a job, take care of her child with her own hard work, get a license, her own place, but none of that happened. She told me all that ever happens is her heart gets broke.
And she was right again. Some people are happy with what is easy to get without risk of failure. Stay if you want to be her next provider.

Since: Aug 13

Lynchburg, VA

#9 Sep 10, 2013
Entertainment lawyer wrote:
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Try being her friend; people are motivated by seeing, then learn by doing. In the grand scheme of things:
1. Sex is easy. We have the plumbing and drive; she found that out already.
2. Relationship is hard: it involves becoming less selfish.
3. I think friendship is hardest of all: giving without expecting anything back.
Try friendship.
I agree with you but,are you really a lawyer? You don't sound like one.
Yep

Springfield, NJ

#10 Sep 11, 2013
You a bad person. Haha
Thin Mint

Chesapeake, OH

#11 Sep 11, 2013
Yep wrote:
You a bad person. Haha
*you're
Benny

Faber, VA

#12 Sep 11, 2013
No, you aren't wrong. What kind of life would you have had? Were you playing dad or was the child involved with their father?

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