Caught 14 yo stepson peeping at me

Caught 14 yo stepson peeping at me

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New York, NY

#1 Apr 26, 2012
I'm 39 female and just got married year and half ago, haven't told my husband yet nor if I should. I was gettin outta the shower today and heard something at the door so I put a towl half on me and opened it and saw my step son dart from the door into the other room, I acted as if I didn't see him, after looking at the door, there's a small hole been drilled in the door. He's been watching me. Never delt with this before, any help would be useful, bad situation!
hmm

Huntington, WV

#2 Apr 26, 2012
What to do wrote:
I'm 39 female and just got married year and half ago, haven't told my husband yet nor if I should. I was gettin outta the shower today and heard something at the door so I put a towl half on me and opened it and saw my step son dart from the door into the other room, I acted as if I didn't see him, after looking at the door, there's a small hole been drilled in the door. He's been watching me. Never delt with this before, any help would be useful, bad situation!
Tell your husband and let him deal with it!! He's a little creep!
hillbilly

Catlettsburg, KY

#3 Apr 26, 2012
Drill the hole bigger.ITS not like you are his real mom. And tell him its not polite. AND DO TELL HUBBY BUT WITH UNDERSTANDING YOU DONT WANT THE BOY WHIPPED.BE HIS FRIEND NOT HIS ENEMY.
What to do

New York, NY

#4 Apr 26, 2012
Well that's what I first thought to do, but I don't want the kid to hate me for telling his dad, but also I don't want to feel him undressing me at dinner. Cause if I tell his dad, it will for sure cause some problems and make him a little ashamed to show his face just to sit at the table to eat. I don't need any drama, but it's not my place to talk to the boy about it.it's not as easy to fix as it sounds.
Jim

Huntington, WV

#5 Apr 26, 2012
Next time you shower ask him to wash your back.

Jimbo
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Miss Practicality

Huntington, WV

#7 Apr 26, 2012
It IS your place to talk to him. You have to tell him his behavior is not appropriate and if you catch him again, you will tell his father. Get some caulk, now.
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New York, NY

#8 Apr 26, 2012
Is it normal for a young boy to peep at his stepmother? And yes his dad would over react. Is this just a phase he's going through and will grow out of? I mean really ,did any of you men ever do anything remotely close to this type of action? I'm being serious, I know boys will stay in bathroom a long time. And look at playboy mag they get from friends, but this looking at me would it be considered normal out of a teen?
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New York, NY

#9 Apr 26, 2012
Donnie Buttsauce wrote:
It's only natural to be curious, the boys going through puberty. You're not his mom, you're just some woman who's naked
I kinda was hoping this, thank you very much,
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New York, NY

#10 Apr 26, 2012
I'll fill the hole in , and will set down with him, tell him I understand but next time I'll let his father know, this way he won't hate me for tellin his father

“Often copied, never duplicated”

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Since: Nov 11

BelAir, CA

#11 Apr 26, 2012
Donnie Buttsauce wrote:
It's only natural to be curious, the boys going through puberty. You're not his mom, you're just some woman who's naked
For once, I agree with you.
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“Often copied, never duplicated”

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Since: Nov 11

BelAir, CA

#14 Apr 26, 2012
The WORST thing to do is punish him or make him feel guilty. This will only serve to make things worse both now and in the future and neither will accomplish a thing. First inform the boys' father, but tell him ( the dad) that YOU want to handle this. JUst sit the boy down and chat with him calmly and rationally.
I wouldn't presume to tell you what to say, for I have no clue about your personal views on morals or religion, but I hope that neither of those actually come into play, for this is a biological issue primarily.
Teens are smarter these days, but you need to determine if he was doing this out of meanness to violate your privacy or if there was genuine curiosity.
Make him feel comfortable that the lines of communication are always open to him, and that you are interested in listening to him.
When your conversation is over, relay that info to dad and do so accurately.

I can share with you an experience I had with my son. I left him alone at home ( he was 15) and had to come back suddenly because I forgot something. All of the lights were off, and I couldnt find him but I knew he was there. So I called out to him and he answered. Before I could ask him what he was up to, he said he was checking out internet porn. I dont know if he was pleasuring himself or just surfing. But I didnt want him to feel embarrassed or ashamed so I quickly said," son, thats 100% normal, I feel better knowing you are doing that and can be open with me about it, just realize that most of the stuff you see there is fantasy and not real life, but hell yes, go ahead and look and if you have any questions, come talk to me."

this was very effective because I channeled WITH him instead of confronting him.
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Agree

Huntington, WV

#16 Apr 26, 2012
I agree with Spleencage. It is normal. He's curious about the opposite sex. We all were at his age. And, I dint think the dad would be all that upset. He would only be uncomfortable for you. Which he should. Just laugh it off. Mention it to him in a funny way that will make him laugh. Say something like you know he's curious but girls his age look alot hotter than you and you don't want to scar him. And then laugh. Not that you aren't super hot. But that way it let's him know that you know and that it's normal but not to do it anymore.

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Since: Jun 11

Earth

#17 Apr 26, 2012
What to do wrote:
I'm 39 female and just got married year and half ago, haven't told my husband yet nor if I should. I was gettin outta the shower today and heard something at the door so I put a towl half on me and opened it and saw my step son dart from the door into the other room, I acted as if I didn't see him, after looking at the door, there's a small hole been drilled in the door. He's been watching me. Never delt with this before, any help would be useful, bad situation!
Use a condom
for sure

Ashland, KY

#18 Apr 26, 2012
I think any young boy is curious, and will peek if the think they will get by with it, be more careful and if he does it again then I would talk to dad
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girl

Roanoke, VA

#20 Apr 26, 2012
Peeping, I get that's normal. But...drilling a hole in the door? Really? That's something normal boys do?
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Ted

Proctorville, OH

#22 Apr 26, 2012
He's probably jacking off right now while fantasizing about your wet naked body. Sneak across the hall and give him his first head job.
Ted

Proctorville, OH

#23 Apr 26, 2012
But tell your husband. He won't like that at all.
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Since: Sep 11

Helsinki, Finland

#25 Apr 27, 2012
Next time you take a shower just wait until you know he's there...then when he peeps through just give him an eye full of bear mace. Problem=solved...he will forever remember the day he got maced by his Stepmom, mace sucks so the experience will stick with him.

Then as he gets older and steps out of line just remind him you can always tell his friends about the time you had to mace him because he wouldn't quit creeping on you. You solve the current problem at hand and have kind of an insurance policy to prevent douche-like behavior in the future...win/win situation.

“Often copied, never duplicated”

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Since: Nov 11

BelAir, CA

#26 Apr 27, 2012
Donnie Buttsauce wrote:
No, that's something crafty boys do... Very clever
LOL!
Jim

Huntington, WV

#27 Apr 27, 2012
What to do wrote:
Is it normal for a young boy to peep at his stepmother? And yes his dad would over react. Is this just a phase he's going through and will grow out of? I mean really ,did any of you men ever do anything remotely close to this type of action? I'm being serious, I know boys will stay in bathroom a long time. And look at playboy mag they get from friends, but this looking at me would it be considered normal out of a teen?
No! Never did any of those things.

Jim, clean

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