Why won"t woman give a man another c...

Why won"t woman give a man another chance if they are trying to change

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just wondering

Mount Hope, WV

#1 Apr 5, 2010
if he is trying don"t you thank he deserve a chance then if it is the same you can always leave again unless you don thank you would be able to leave if you have ever loved someone you would give them a chance
dontBhater

Penn Laird, VA

#2 Apr 5, 2010
It's not that easy and just cause they say their going 2 change they usely don't maybe 4 a short time but most of the time they go back 2 their old ways
just wondering wrote:
if he is trying don"t you thank he deserve a chance then if it is the same you can always leave again unless you don thank you would be able to leave if you have ever loved someone you would give them a chance
I know

Mount Hope, WV

#3 Apr 5, 2010
I've been waiting for mine to change for over 5 years now. He's always sincere when he says things will get better, he just doesn't seem to think he needs to change anything on his part to make them better.
I do love him, and pray that it will all be worth it in our old age. There have been many many times that we have called it quits, but it never lasts very long. We need each other. We have both come to accept that neither of us are perfect, therefore our relationship won't be perfect.
The questions that have to be answered are this; Does the good outweigh the bad? Are the good times worth going through the bad ones?

“~*~Dancing Spirits~*~”

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#4 Apr 6, 2010
To Just Wondering. I congratulate on "Wanting" to change.

One thing to remember is -- but stating the phrase "Trying to Change" is setting yourself up to Failure.

By getting the word “Try” out of your vocabulary and start telling yourself that you WILL do what you say you’ll do.

Trying is just not good enough. Use positive wording; "I WILL DO MY BEST"...

"What are some ways that you keep yourself accountable? If you’re not keeping yourself accountable, what do you think is holding you back?

“~*~Dancing Spirits~*~”

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#5 Apr 6, 2010
I also believe a person should always have a chance to prove that they have changed! Again; I would like to congratulate on "Accepting Your Bad Behavior".

Keep Up the Positive Motives!

One thing to remember...Always Keep Positive People in Your Life! Make sure to SMILE at YOURSELF in the mirror each morning!
dee

Mount Hope, WV

#6 Apr 6, 2010
grow a set and find another woman
LOL

Mount Hope, WV

#7 Apr 6, 2010
Sorry, but all the men I know are liars and lazy!! I've been told a million times.."oh, I'll change..." Lol...it's all bull. You ever heard a "a leopard can't change its spots"?

“~*~Dancing Spirits~*~”

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#8 Apr 6, 2010
I find it amazing that people always use the blame game instead of looking at themselves. Start looking inward and you will find the reason why.

Example:
LOL state. "All the men I know are liars and lazy!! I've been told a million times.."oh, I'll change..."

I believe you need to state to yourself...Why am I attracted to these types? What is about myself am I lacking?

People allow the behavior to happen! Only YOU can change your behavior or situation!

Like I stated on another post. "When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences."

i tried

United States

#9 Apr 6, 2010
just wondering wrote:
if he is trying don"t you thank he deserve a chance then if it is the same you can always leave again unless you don thank you would be able to leave if you have ever loved someone you would give them a chance
I believe that chances finally run out. I was with a man for ten years married to him for seven of those years. I was very much in love with him. As the years went by i slowly fell out of love with him. All the lies and things that happened finally took it all away. Time after time it was i will change or i won't do it again. Which of course always ended up being a lie. I tried to have faith in him and be there for him but sometimes u just gotta give up. If a person is gonna change they will do it with or without you. Guess what he still hasn't changed. I still love this man very much and it was hard to let him go but i for one had to do it for myself. If it is meant to be then it will be but u can't let yourself be drug down and your world tore apart to hold on to someone who takes advantage of your love.
try

Beckley, WV

#10 Apr 7, 2010
if every one else believes they have changed maybe you should give them a chance
dr phill

Princeton, WV

#11 Apr 7, 2010
LOL wrote:
Sorry, but all the men I know are liars and lazy!! I've been told a million times.."oh, I'll change..." Lol...it's all bull. You ever heard a "a leopard can't change its spots"?
Well now it can go boyh ways when a woman gets those hormones acting up their hard to please to anything,but when some of them got it set in their minds then get out. Lifes to short to fuss , fight cant get along then one of u needs to leave. I know its hard , it really is , im tired of starting over but im not giving up still looking.So this advice do cost nothing this time next time well see.
sorrow

Mount Hope, WV

#12 Apr 7, 2010
WAAAAAAAA !!!!
chances

Beckley, WV

#13 Apr 7, 2010
to run out of chances you have to be given one first
summers county

United States

#14 Apr 7, 2010
men always cheat!!!!If they have cheated once and got away with it they will do it again!!!They know they can always come back home and the door will be open!!!!!!!!
dr phill

Princeton, WV

#15 Apr 7, 2010
now it takes two, im going to start charging, lf your a woman we can trade.if man dont worrie about it free of charge
Straight Up

Burnt Hills, NY

#16 Apr 7, 2010
All this talk about change.Remember the first time or the first days,weeks,years,whatever.At that time would you have given the other person a nasty look,rude remark,or disrespect in any way.If not was that acting at that point.If you love someone it hurts to see them treated badly in any way.More than if you were hurt yourself.So as time goes by and you are taken for granted ,as in being treated wrong .what changed.The love?Has to be!!When you treat someone different from the first get together either you were acting then,or you lost your love.If you lost your love you should still wish them well.As far as cheating goes.when they get caught they say I wont hurt you again.When in reality if they relay cared,It would be themselves that was hurt as well.Because what was is now gone and can never be replaced.even if the other person don't know you have taken something special away from you and her.If it don't affect you,then you're not in love.It was a act after all.And 90% of the time it will be the same old story.Not sorry for doing it but sorry for being caught.Now that's sad .No cure for such people.You can not explain the color blue to a blind person!!!!
dr phill

Princeton, WV

#17 Apr 7, 2010
im going to let u be DR. Phill
JUST WONDERING

Mount Hope, WV

#18 Apr 7, 2010
i don't knbow what i did i don't cheat even though she gets told i do love is more then treating the other good it is treat the other good and willing to do anything for that person if i waS ASKED TO I WOULD HAVE DONE ANYTHING FOR HER BUT I JUST IT IS NOT TO LATE PEOPLE NEED TO THANK YOU CAN'T JUST BLAME ONE A RELATIONSHIPO TAKES TO NOT ONE AND IT IS HARD WHEN ONE WON'T EVEN TRY WHEN THE OTHER IS DOING SO GOOD AT CHANGING BUT THEY CAN'T SEE IT THINGS WILL NEVER BE THE SAME I CAN PROMISE THEM THAT I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THEM AGAIN
a friend

Mount Hope, WV

#19 Apr 7, 2010
dee wrote:
grow a set and find another woman
love is not that easy if you love someone you don't just leave would you leave if everything was just getting better for you and your family and you knbow cheatin g is no reason to make some one hurt
dr phill

Princeton, WV

#20 Apr 7, 2010
its hard to start over

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