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has anyone ever dated someone addicted to pain pills????

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girlfriend of a pillhead

Benton, KY

#1 May 5, 2013
Has anyone ever dated someone who was addicted to pain pills ??
My boyfriend of 6 months is addicted to pain pills. He seems to "blow up" over the smallest things! He pushes me away. Everything is always my fault ! Seems like he always wants to get away from me because I am doing something wrong! I love this man but I feel like he loves his pain medicine more than he loves me! Any advice ?!
124

United States

#2 May 5, 2013
Get out while you can. He will only bring you down with him. It's only been six months (sounds like six unhappy months) its not like you have a lot invested in this relationship at this point. Get out before you get pregnant. He will not be able to support you and a drug habit.
girlfriend of a pillhead

Benton, KY

#3 May 5, 2013
He takes 15 Loratabs a day. Sometimes he is so sweet & caring and in a second he can snap or change into the meanest man I have ever known! He loves to be "high!" I love him but sometimes I feel like he uses me to buy him dinner or just for little things. Maybe I need to wake up & realize he doesn't love me?!
truth

Des Moines, IA

#4 May 5, 2013
get out while the getting is good girl, ive seen what this can do to families and its total nightmare!!
ugh

Madisonville, KY

#5 May 5, 2013
It is a horrible thing. He will move onto bigger drugs from there like oxycotin and if he is unable to get pills, they will move onto illegal drugs. The problem with pain meds is they are not illegal unless you obtain a script illegally or sell them. But they are in my book more dangerous than some illegal drugs. I had a family member who finally died from pills, and another who is still in rehab. If he is unwilling to get help, you should get out before you have anymore time invested. Good luck
get a life

Murray, KY

#6 May 5, 2013
girlfriend of a pillhead wrote:
He takes 15 Loratabs a day. Sometimes he is so sweet & caring and in a second he can snap or change into the meanest man I have ever known! He loves to be "high!" I love him but sometimes I feel like he uses me to buy him dinner or just for little things. Maybe I need to wake up & realize he doesn't love me?!
Get a life girl. He takes 15 lortabs a day..well hope you want to take care of his dying kidneys, learn to cather him, dig out his fecal matter, and his erectile disfunction. Taking that many pills means his kidneys will be gone soon, his bowels can't work, and his penis will never get hard. Good luckk if you want to stay with him.
Les

Benton, KY

#7 May 5, 2013
girlfriend of a pillhead wrote:
Has anyone ever dated someone who was addicted to pain pills ??
My boyfriend of 6 months is addicted to pain pills. He seems to "blow up" over the smallest things! He pushes me away. Everything is always my fault ! Seems like he always wants to get away from me because I am doing something wrong! I love this man but I feel like he loves his pain medicine more than he loves me! Any advice ?!
Now girl you have gotten your advice. First hand knowledge that a pill addicted person, will lie, cheat, steal, or do whatever it takes to get pills, even go to ER in hopes of getting pills for their "pain". Eventually, they wound up in jail. Then he and you become a slave of court costs, fines, bail, bonds and paying back your , etc. and YES, their pills are more important than ANYBODY. No money left for rent, food and other neccessities of life. You have heard the story of people who have walked in your shoes. Now, it's up to YOU. If you choose to stay with him, then there is no one else to blame for the miserable life ahead.
girlfriend of a pillhead

Benton, KY

#8 May 5, 2013
Thank you everyone for all of your advice. I just didn't have anyone to turn to. I don't want my family to know my boyfriend is on tabs. My bf has been very honest with me about his addiction! Told me about good it felt to be "high!" He even asked me to try and get a prescription from my doctor to give to him. He seems to sleep so much. I've never been around anyone like this ever before. He will have so much energy and then someday a he can literally sleep all day! What scares me is how angry he gets. Seems like my little girl (3 years) old gets on his nerves. That he will just find a reason to want to fight & can just snap and become so angry. Sometimes I won't seem him for days. I don't know if he is "cheating" or if he is trying to find/buy more pain meds??! He has told me he won't ever get off pain meds that he loves to be "high"
Should I stay with him & by his side or should I leave ?? It's so hard when you love someone but when I think about it. He does nothing for me to help. He doesn't even take my little girl to daycare when I'm running late for work. He gets so angry if its not something benefiting him or his pill habit.
Wise Owl

United States

#9 May 5, 2013
Think about your daughter. No man is worth putting your daughter in harms way.
Les

Benton, KY

#10 May 5, 2013
girlfriend of a pillhead wrote:
Thank you everyone for all of your advice. I just didn't have anyone to turn to. I don't want my family to know my boyfriend is on tabs. My bf has been very honest with me about his addiction! Told me about good it felt to be "high!" He even asked me to try and get a prescription from my doctor to give to him. He seems to sleep so much. I've never been around anyone like this ever before. He will have so much energy and then someday a he can literally sleep all day! What scares me is how angry he gets. Seems like my little girl (3 years) old gets on his nerves. That he will just find a reason to want to fight & can just snap and become so angry. Sometimes I won't seem him for days. I don't know if he is "cheating" or if he is trying to find/buy more pain meds??! He has told me he won't ever get off pain meds that he loves to be "high"
Should I stay with him & by his side or should I leave ?? It's so hard when you love someone but when I think about it. He does nothing for me to help. He doesn't even take my little girl to daycare when I'm running late for work. He gets so angry if its not something benefiting him or his pill habit.
Take your daughter and get out of there! If he has not been using physical violence, he will be. You sound scared of him now. How do you think your baby girl feels? She don't have a choice like you do. There is a shelter in Marshall County I beleve.
just sayin

Tucker, GA

#11 May 6, 2013
I've been on tabs for four years I only take 3 a day which is less than prescribed and I love being with my family. Get out get away he's using you
asdf

Florence, KY

#12 May 6, 2013
girlfriend of a pillhead wrote:
Thank you everyone for all of your advice. I just didn't have anyone to turn to. I don't want my family to know my boyfriend is on tabs. My bf has been very honest with me about his addiction! Told me about good it felt to be "high!" He even asked me to try and get a prescription from my doctor to give to him. He seems to sleep so much. I've never been around anyone like this ever before. He will have so much energy and then someday a he can literally sleep all day! What scares me is how angry he gets. Seems like my little girl (3 years) old gets on his nerves. That he will just find a reason to want to fight & can just snap and become so angry. Sometimes I won't seem him for days. I don't know if he is "cheating" or if he is trying to find/buy more pain meds??! He has told me he won't ever get off pain meds that he loves to be "high"
Should I stay with him & by his side or should I leave ?? It's so hard when you love someone but when I think about it. He does nothing for me to help. He doesn't even take my little girl to daycare when I'm running late for work. He gets so angry if its not something benefiting him or his pill habit.
You should leave. You're not going to be able to help him until he's ready to help himself. Trust me, I've been there. I heard for so long how he wanted to stop, but it "felt too good," so he chose to not. I was always there for him, trying my best to get him the help he needed, but he just wasn't ready for it. The help I tried giving him just made him angry. I finally had all I could take. Two years with him, and I just couldn't do it anymore. It had gotten to the point that he was snorting something not even five minutes after he awoke. Not a single moment of the day was he in his right mind. He slept constantly, dozing off everywhere we went. His "thing" didn't work...ever. It was just sad. Luckily for him, he has since decided it was time to get help and about two years ago went into rehab. He's much better now, and I'm glad to know that. Anyway, it's really difficult to help anyone in that situation, especially when you're close to them as you are. And if you're not able to help them, you're just enabling them by putting up with it. Get out of that situation...seriously, as fast as you can.
My experience

Benton, KY

#13 May 6, 2013
I married a man.. We were both involved in a car accident, at this point.. I had never taken a pill in my life. Now, I was unconscious and do not recall anything. All I know is that apparently he hadn't been checked, he refused medical treatment because he was worried about me. He was sober at this point.(As far as I do know).

From then on... His back hurt, and he refused to go to the doctor. He was honest with me. He started getting pills.(Which he used to do) He'd get just a couple tabs.. and then he started saying the nerves in his back/legs were getting him... so he got xanax. I kept begging him to go to the doctor, but he refused. I stayed and dealt with it, because well, I was pregnant with my youngest, and of course love him.
He ended up arrested.. From the jail, he told me he took 90 crunchbars within a week. I guess a lot of people don't call it the same thing. That's just what he calls it... The long white xanax thing is all I know of it.

He is still sober to this day, but that does not replace the lying, hiding and all that. He told me very little. If your boyfriend only takes 15 pills a day, I would not be surprised if he took more, or eventually takes more.. 15 pills is a pretty set number.. Never heard of an addict with a set amount..
All I'm saying is that I dealt with the pills cause I thought he was in pain, and at least he was being honest with me. He was only being somewhat honest, he didn't tell me about everything else. I was ignorant and naive. Of course, idiotic, for dealing with it.
This doesn't mean your boyfriend WILL do the same thing, I mean, I was told my ex would never be sober. He still is, and he would take several drug test a week.
I think I remember him saying he was so mean to me when he was coming down. My point is, I'm way better off.. My kids are not around any of the sort, they are in a safe home and all that really matters is we are happy. I regret ever making my choice to stay, but it was the best thing I knew to do at the time.
girlfriend of a pillhead

Benton, KY

#14 May 6, 2013
Seems like sometimes he doesn't want me living with him. That he wants me to leave because my daughter & I get on his nerves. My daughter really seems to make him snap. He seems like he is always "hiding his phone" I don't know if he is talking to "dealers" or to other "women"?! It hurts especially when you love someone so much! He seems to only love me when I get paid & when he needs some "money!" He can be so sweet & say the sweetest things to me & then snap and become verbally abusive & will leave for a few days. I ask when he comes home where have you been ? Are you seeing another woman ? Are you in debt to another dealer ?? He never tells the truth! He tells me over & over he does NOT want to get "clean" he loves to be "high!" All of this has made my life miserable because he won't change. He never plays with my daughter or wants to take or pick her up from day care while I'm at work I have to ask my mother to do that. I'm to the point where I do want to leave.
girlfriend of a pillhead

Benton, KY

#15 May 6, 2013
I know what you are saying. No he has to have at least "15 tabs" a day! At least! He too uses the excuse that he once had a back injury and it is for "pain" and that he does "hurt!" But he admits he loves to be "high!" He gets so mean!!! That is when I don't know of he is running out of tabs or if he is coming off his high! And then all he wants to do is "sleep!" Getting him to do anything I have to beg! Which of course my daughter isn't his so he doesn't think he is responsible to help me with her!! I think he would sell himself or anything to get those tabs. I don't know if he is taking or doing anything else. Only thing he admits and tell me he HAS to have is his tabs. He will get a handful and take all at once. Not just one at at time handful!!
Seriously

Tucker, GA

#16 May 6, 2013
This is probably one of the dumbest topix I've ever read. Dump him. Move on. If you're too dumb to do that, then you deserve what's coming.
diamond

Richmond, VA

#17 May 6, 2013
I think you should stay with him; really, could you find a better man then one who is addicted? You can control him with pills, you can trust him to be with your daughter...but this means until she hits puberty you don't real have anything to worry about; I mean he won't hit her or sexually abuse her, he loves pills too much for all that. As for longevity, so what he dies early after leaving you embarrassed and broke from all his escapades, I mean who worries about keeping things stable, or planing for retirement when you can have all the drama and even more then is on TV; you'd be the talk of the town! So what if he'd end up being with anyone sexually if drugs were involved, I mean I have seen cheerleaders turned on methamphetamines, or crack live great lives with multiple paying customers. Sure it wasn't for they're cheerleading skills, but they were kneeling and were taking one for the team, and they surly weren't praying...the guy was paying. But he is a man's man, he wouldn't sell himself for drug money, he wouldn't be a thief or even not help little ole' ladies across the street; he has always followed all the rules; even those on the labels of prescription drugs and cereal boxes. Once again, I say stick it out, you don't want to be alone, there are no good guys out there, and you haven't totally screwed up your daughter yet; don't be a quitter, she'll thank you later for not leaving him. You don't want some nerdy guy who puts you and her first, treats you with respect and goes to work each week...can I hear a, "BORING!!!" You know, life is one big PARTY!!! You, yes you, are living large...don't listen to all the losers telling you to leave him...You have hit the 'man' jackpot with him; he is a KEEPER!!!!!
Kelly

New Haven, CT

#18 May 6, 2013
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Seriously

Tucker, GA

#19 May 6, 2013
Kelly wrote:
Thought I should share the solution to a similar experience. I never believed this things work till i visited gullahmana.site40.net . Spells do work and they are permanent when cast by the right people like gullahmana.site40.net . you can also email [email protected] to enquire.
Kelly, you are retarded. No one needs to hear from you.....ever again!
nosy

Paris, TN

#20 May 6, 2013
Unless he sees the problem and gets help you can't do much for him.Love only goes so far and your child deserves better than an angry man in her life.

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