It's super hard to make a marriage work when you are boating with another woman and kissing her and then wondering why you're oil and water with the first wife. How about fresh water versus salt water: that would be a better analogy....I just am sick at the story and always will be when I read things like I just read. I am so sorry for the kids even if they do not yet understand just what has happened yet. It's messed up and now it always will be.