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beer man

United States

#1 Aug 14, 2012
You know who you are
guest

Paris, TN

#2 Aug 15, 2012
where is this woman from? Springville maybe
name please

Paris, TN

#3 Aug 21, 2012
what's her name?
ron swanson

United States

#4 Aug 23, 2012
Are you wondering why she does not?Umm... A sense of security at home and a sense of insecurty in herself. Case closed. This is PSY101 by the way. Where does she work?
who cares
#5 Aug 24, 2012
it's probably ur fault she has those feelings, y not find a single woman instead of breaking up a family?
ron swanson

United States

#7 Aug 30, 2012
Getting married is an arcane concept anyway. It is not in our nature as a species to mate for life.
Freddy

Cookeville, TN

#8 Aug 30, 2012
ron swanson wrote:
Getting married is an arcane concept anyway. It is not in our nature as a species to mate for life.
And your lifelong devotion to watching Discovery Channel supports this fact? Because I sure didn't see a Dr. or PhD at the end of your name suggesting that was an educated response. What is an arcane concept is people like you who believe that and potentially support others who break up families with no regard to the children who suffer as a result of it. Yes yes I know topix is generally a cess pool of folks who are ignorant, uneducated and generally unemployed so I might as well be talking to a stop sign. If you wish to mate with everything proceed to the nearest bar, take the first one you see home and repeat until you contract every disease on the planet and eventually perish. Otherwise, leave those who have decided to grow up and have a family alone or else I hope you find the one woman who has a husband who won't tolerate your interference with his marriage and he deals with you personally.
ron swanson

United States

#9 Aug 30, 2012
Thank you Freddy. That was enlightening. Here are some interesting facts that you may not know about me: I am married, I do have a family, the closest I have ever came to cheating is I kissed another girl once during the course of our marriage, which is 12 yrs. I am saying it just does not work. The difference with us is we make a good team. We work well together, and despite the fighting, which is about every other day, we have managed to pull ourselves out of many Jams and hurdles along the way. iMHO we are an exception to the rule. I do believe in marriage, when you are older like 40 plus,there is nothing wrong with settling down with someone you are comfortable with once you have gone out and expirienced as much as you can in your youth. Also, this is a different world now. Women have careers now, not just jobs, but careers. It used to be "Marry a man who can make a million dollars" Now the female can make a million dollars. So what I am saying is, these people should not get tied to one person at such a young age, even if you have children involved. Younger people are compulsive and self obsessed. This has nothing to do with the damn discovery channel, Fred, these are facts. Backed up by statistics. Half of all marriages end in divorce in America, around 30% of the others are stagnent and unhappy. So if you get married young you have a 20% chance of being happy. I don't like those odds. Go ahead, challenge my intelect again, I love it!
Hmmm

United States

#10 Aug 30, 2012
I am a 43 y.o. man, been married well over 20 years, never cheated, never plan to. So I guess my nature is flawed since I don't have the animal instinct to want to cheat. Besides, why would I want to? We get along great (in and out of the bedroom)We hardly ever argue, the last arguement I can think of was about 6 months ago.....over where to put a swimming pool. Whats going on with a man trying to get a married woman and vice versa? There are lots of single people out there, grow up and quit playing games.
ron swanson

United States

#11 Aug 30, 2012
Well, dude good for you. But facts state you two are an exeption to the rule. The bedroom part of it is very important. At least for us, when that goes kinda stale, fights increase exponentially
Freddy

Cookeville, TN

#12 Aug 30, 2012
ron swanson wrote:
Well, dude good for you. But facts state you two are an exeption to the rule. The bedroom part of it is very important. At least for us, when that goes kinda stale, fights increase exponentially
What you stated is true however just because we have a decay in the younger generation which support your statistics doesn't mean it is fact long term. People have remained true to their spouses faithfully for long periods of time overall much longer than those who decide to get married on a whim at a young age because it "sounded good at the time" and then a few months years later see something they want better and forget the children, spouse and accumulated debt that came about as a result of that decision. There need to be harsh consequences for people who cheat and get caught. It is no different than going in on a business deal with someone, accumulating debt, hiring employees and then failing to uphold your end of the bargain. In that scenario that individual would get sued and forced to suffer the consequeces of that ignorant decision. Unfortunately we live in a society today that holds no regard to the term "consequences" and definitely shys away from anything that resembles reasonable punishment. Instead we grant divorces by the thousands a day with no consequences to those responsible and the negative impact on the children, and society as a whole ensues.

Case in point, we as married men and women who love our spouses should not allow this to become a norm. The traditional family is the backbone of this country and our dissaray is a direct reflection of the decay of that institution. The scary part is when we are all old and retired, we will rely on the children who have endured this madness to run this country. Think about that........ a society with leaders who have no respect for authority and condemn using consequences fit for the offenses committed. Doesn't paint a good picture in my eyes.
smdh

Cookeville, TN

#13 Aug 30, 2012
And I guess we shouldnt hold anyone accountable for their decisions until 40 either right? So all the children who got brought into this world because their parents got drunk and had a good time will have to suffer because they were under 40? We are to be ok with the fact these kids will think having parents at 2 different houses that fight all the time or have nothing to do with their kids is the norm because its "a different time"? Sorry dude, I don't buy that excuse anymore. My only hope is these kids that had that kind of raising become mature adults who plan to change this world for a better place for their children. One where parents who make ignorant decisions to reproduce with no intention of caring for the child properly are punished by a court of law.
figure this

Paris, TN

#14 Aug 30, 2012
figure this, the church does not require paperwork on marriage, the state and federal government do. What happens when a couple gets divorced? The government, courts and lawyers all get a piece of the money. Since this is basically a legal contract that has to be nulled by a court why dont they make even more money and end alot of the violence from said divorces. Set up a renewal system, get a marriage license for say, two years to start, and at the end of the two year interval the party can renew or let the contract expire, after a two year period they can renew for five, ten or lifetime licenses, paying accordingly. When it is time to renew the license if they parties choose not to renew and have a child then both parties are to pay a sum into the court for that child each month which then goes into a card for food and to cover medical expenses. That way there is a financial incentive to remain within the contract. Also, if either party decides to leave the contract early there should be a penalty for early release pre built into the contracts.
The older generation stayed together for security reasons and the fact that the society then discriminated heavily against divorced women, single moms, they did not get paid the same wages as men and were often harassed on a daily basis. As a society we have grown past the petty acts, or we try to say we have, why dont we just make it legally make more sense and the government will get what it craves more money.

also, to SMDH, if you think a child raised in a single parent home is at a disadvantage think again, women who leave abusive relationships (do not broadcast this fact, btw they tend to be private) are to be applauded, its the older generation that stayed in unhappy abusive homes and told the children its okay, dont upset daddy you know he doesn't feel good, that set the whole stage for little jr to grow up into an abusive jacka$$ and for baby girls to grow up as a victim and think that it is okay.
Anonymous

Clinton, AR

#15 Aug 30, 2012
I am a "single" mother of 2. Thankfully never made the stupid decision of marrying their "dad". Age has nothing to do with whether you will make it in marriage or not. Its more to do with if you are willing to fight to make it work and maturity. Why would you want to be a homewrecker? I dont understand people...if you want to mess around the dont get married. Simple as that.
John

United States

#17 Sep 2, 2012
MommyByars3 wrote:
Did it ever cross your mind your fighting may stint from you kissing another woman? I don't have to be an exception to anything to know as a woman I could go find 12 years worth of arguments to make over that one thing you did. And your proud of your marriage? It's "adults" like you that don't take marriage seriously that crushes the concept for the younger ones. Attitude reflects leadership. You are no exception to any marriage "rule." Youre a "man" that's been blessed with a wife who took her vows serious (unlike you) and stayed through your bullshit. You don't deserve her but she stayed. Thats what you got. Plenty of spouses are happy...and NOT cheating. And we come in all age groups with and without children. However, as a parent if I were to get divorced my daughters would know it was because we all deserve to be happy and I had taken my vows seriously/or not to settle to be treated a certain way by their father as your lovely wife has worked through. Thankfully my husband believes this way too so I rest easy knowing where he stands. If we're both taking ut seriously (not kissing anything with a hole and pulse) we can rest assure our marriages are being vowed. Once again you're very lucky. It's a very easy decision to make if you can't keep the commitment then get out. A person too selfish to do that, like blaming his penis on his infidelity but still "loving" his wife because she got suckered into staying, isn't a marriage exception to happiness. He's an asshole. The same rule applies to a woman. However, if I were your wife I'd be awfully disappointed I stayed with you only to find out that you still believe you weren't created to be faithful to me for a lifetime. remind me to kiss my husband when he gets home and tell him how grateful I am he doesn't think that way. Whew.
Well said!:)
Pit Bull

United States

#18 Sep 2, 2012
Just remember if they cheated with you they will cheat on u
either or

United States

#19 Sep 3, 2012
hmmmm, either that or they have never been caught, yet.... not all men are stupid and fool around in their home town, women either for that fact, but men get to travel more often than the mother of the family.....
ohh

United States

#21 Sep 3, 2012
i thing they were referring to someones comment that the majority of men were happily married and did not cheat. If a man has not cheated or thought of it, then he is a closet homosexual, ugly as sin, fat (and those still think of it , just cant achieve it) or smart and has not been caught. Women can be the same way but are not hard wired to procreate the way men are. While some men may be able to over come base animal instincts they are truly the minority.
Guest

Pearland, TX

#22 Sep 3, 2012
ohh wrote:
i thing they were referring to someones comment that the majority of men were happily married and did not cheat. If a man has not cheated or thought of it, then he is a closet homosexual, ugly as sin, fat (and those still think of it , just cant achieve it) or smart and has not been caught. Women can be the same way but are not hard wired to procreate the way men are. While some men may be able to over come base animal instincts they are truly the minority.
In other words, real men aren't weak.
lol

United States

#23 Sep 4, 2012
if that is how you choose to view it then there are not very many "real" men in this town. Then again, lets not forget the women. They are just as bad around here, women with women is cheating also, even if they go to church every wed and sun. So what do we call them? Weak and not real women?

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