honest

Pomeroy, OH

#22 Oct 3, 2012
[QUOTE who="honest!"]This is just from my point and experience in life, and I have struggled with my education, due to the fact that know body was around to help, I've strutted with drugs due to low self esteem from not knowing how to spell or use big word like some on here, and I have struggled from child abuse both sexual and physical, I struggle when people hate on people for their down falls!
But in the long run, it has made me a better person that help anybody that need it!!!
And it does hurt when someone over educated gets on here and slams someone for their vocabulary,
I'm sorry I'm not as smart as some of you, I follow some of the smarter and nicer people on here, and it has help me alot!! So to all you good people out there!! THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR NOT JUDING ME,
And you have no ideal how good it fill to have a intelligent conversation with someone not knocking me everytime i miss spell a word!!![/QUOTE]
Omg!! Iam so over welled I can't stop crying!!! Thank you guys so much!!!
As soon as I can figure this new email I swear I will email each and every one of you, and I just about you would never in your life guess who i am.
I would proudly tell you after all your kind words, but that would bring my family name on this site! And I love family to much to do that!!!!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#23 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
The best thing you can do for the child who acts like a five year old, is give him encouragement.
Seems like bullies like to find weaknesses in people and pounce on those weaknesses.
I was never bullied at school, but I was bullied at home. I liked school because it helped me escape my home life. I was beaten to the ground at home, and given no encouragement.
I can't change that, I can't change the people who bullied me, I can't change the past. What I did was changed me. I learned to be self confident, I learned that I did not need the approval of others to make me whole.
I learned that I am a pretty good person, dispite what my parents made me feel. I learned that I did not need acceptance from others to feel complete. I also learned that my parents were bullied, neglected and had it pretty bad as children. And what they taught me was all that they knew.
Life ain't always easy, but it is full of wonderful things, and if you spend too much time trying to get approval and acceptance from people who are nothing but judges, users and abusers, life is going to pass you by.
I know first hand that the pain of childhood has a big effect on how we are as adults, but it doesn't have to be that way.
If I were to die today, your words are my exact life!
I wast bullied either, but was at home, I love my parents! But I don't have a clue what they went threw in their childhood.
It's quite obvious they both had it rough!
They came from money, that's one reason I think the teachers passed with b and c. But back to the little boy,
Both of his parents are on drugs, I can only imagine what he has seen, he's never had a chance to be a child, but, so smart! He has tought me so much,
He comes over about once or twice a week and I help him with his home work. I think his parent quit doing drugs about a year ago, but he's told me daddy slips up every now and then?
I do talk to him, and I had to promis I would never tell some of things he has told me cause he doest want to go back to foster parents. It's so sad.
But just wanted to thank you for your story!! I loved reading it, it sounds so close to home!!!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#24 Oct 3, 2012
Doc wrote:
I think you are a wonderful person. Do not ever let anyone make you feel bad. It sounds to me like you have more kindness in your little finger than most people have in their whole body. Please, do not pay attention to ignorance. It is every where. You are smarter than you give yourself credit for, you are smart the way it really counts - please never forget that!!! Bless you for helping that child!!!
Thank you! I follow you all the time, lol
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#25 Oct 3, 2012
Love it wrote:
Honestly I would like to chat with you I have a ? Can I give you my email please.
Please!!!!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#26 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
If it's okay I will send you an email too. You and I have alot in common, where it concerns our past. I can give you some tips on what helped me, and what makes me love life even in the most difficult times.
Sounds great!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#27 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
Oh, and a word of advice, don't give your real name, even in an email. There are hundreds of people on this site, and some are bullies who would use what you say to do what they do best, bully you. So always keep your identity private.
Lol, I've got to figure out how to set another one up, I had someone else do it for me last time,
Thats probably what i am going to do this time to. Don't give up on me, I only get on here about hour or two every other day, my family runs a family business, and I'm part of it, so I hardly ever get any me time,
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#28 Oct 3, 2012
Love it wrote:
My email is [email protected] my name is Joyce email me when ever you can, Thanks
Thank you much!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#29 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
You can email me at [email protected]
I will!!!!!thank you!!!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#30 Oct 3, 2012
CDB wrote:
<quoted text>If there were more people like you around, this world would be a much better place. Don't know who you are...but you're ok in my book. There's so many negative things going on nowadays...its a breath of fresh air to hear something positive happening for a change. You take care of yourself and pay no attention to these a$$holes on here. I'll be praying for you.
Thank you, and I just about bet you that you have seen me somewhere!
Because I do work in the public,
That's what's so funny about all of this, I've managed my family's business since I've Been 18.
But if I give out to much information people would defiantly know me. Like I said, "somewhere" I would never drag my family on this site, I'm not the only one with problems, big family
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#31 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
Honest, you wrote a post that came from the heart. Sincerity is something that is lacking in this world today. I think you can see that people appreciate your sincerity and honesty. It is refreshing!
It's people like you!!!trust me!!! Thank you!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#32 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You wrote:
No, I don't live in Mason, but spent time there as a child, took my kids there for doctoring for years.
as for substituting one drug for another. I have mixed feelings on that. If the substitute is not addictive that might work temporarily.
This is what I know. People get addicted to drugs for different reasons, but if their reason was that it covered up alot of deep rooted pain, than any drug they take is only going to mask that pain.
So if that person is addicted to a drug, and they get off of that drug by taking another drug, it may be a short term remedy. I am one of those believers that think, don't mask the pain with a drug, get to the root of the issue, pain, trauma. Find out why you began using drugs, face it little by little, as you can deal with it.
Believe it or not, no matter how terrible life has been, no matter how much hurt or shame we humans have suffered, healing is possible! I know this first hand. And until we heal alot of wounds, it is going to always be temptimg to reach for that drug, or drown it with alcohol.
When drugs cover internal wounds, they aren' helping, they are simply covering that wound, much like putting a band-aid on an open cut, it doesn't heal it, or make it go away, it just covers it up.
You are at a crossroads in your life. You have had enough, and believe it or not, you are very ready for change! That is why you started this topic. Been there done that!
You've got a friend :)
Your do rite about substation for drug for another. Everybody needs someone like you to talk to!!! And ya, I'm there!!
Been there for a long time, just no where to turn to. Who would of thought topix would be my safe haven?
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#33 Oct 3, 2012
Love it wrote:
Same here you have a friend I'm not from mason either just would like to talk to you.
Thank you!!! Your very kind!!!!!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#34 Oct 3, 2012
Doc wrote:
I am from here. I too will have to get a new email. I will set one up and put it on here for you. You do have friends here.
I follow you all the time! I love reading your debates!! You've been very kind to me on the past!!!!'
Thank you!
Thank You for being real

United States

#35 Oct 3, 2012
Always remember, it is never an easy road when making drastic changes, or facing past issues. And it doesn't happen overnight, but it is rewarding in the end.
Once you have faced, and conquered those skeletons in the closet, you will feel free, and after that when life hands you disappointments and sadness, you will recover from them much quicker.
Alot of people give up and take what life hands them, you obviously have good instincts that let you know there is something more life has to offer.
Actually you are an inspiration because you admit to having faults, but are trying to overcome them. That takes courage and strength!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#36 Oct 3, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
Always remember, it is never an easy road when making drastic changes, or facing past issues. And it doesn't happen overnight, but it is rewarding in the end.
Once you have faced, and conquered those skeletons in the closet, you will feel free, and after that when life hands you disappointments and sadness, you will recover from them much quicker.
Alot of people give up and take what life hands them, you obviously have good instincts that let you know there is something more life has to offer.
Actually you are an inspiration because you admit to having faults, but are trying to overcome them. That takes courage and strength!
I am lost for words, Your rite, and I believe I am at the point where iam ok! And I honestly didt start this thread for potty , I did it because I read all these mean things to people that are down and out that has no clue where to go, who to talk to get help, and I know first hand how it fills walking around like you don't have a problem in the world! When in reality you have nothing.
But iam so over my self! I want to help other people that don't have anybody or anywhere to go to. But before I do that, I have to tell my story, and I used to be so ashamed of my self! And it's people like you that give people Like me courage!!!! But I also in-courage education!!!!!!!you have to be educated before you can help yourself!
Thank You for being real

United States

#37 Oct 3, 2012
You nailed that one! Many times we take on everyone else's problems so we can forget our own, but when we deal with our own first than we can help others to help themselves.

Make sure you give that boy lots of hugs, happiness and encouragement, those are things he will never forget.

I know for years I couldn't tell people my story, but now it comes easy and without shame.
Two Rivers

Lugoff, SC

#38 Oct 3, 2012
I don't live there, but have family and many friends in the area. I have given up on the negative things, drama and people that drag me down. Can't help but worry about them though, hopefully they understand why I've cut my losses and moved on. I am alone, but there's something to be said for peace of mind.
Time will heal the wounds and the scars will fade if we let it happen.
When people you've known for years start to seem like strangers and there's no light at the tunnels end, stop in your tracks. Evaluate your direction, look around you and be objective. Watch what others do, when they think you can't see. There is a lesson to be learned.

honest wrote:
<quoted text>
Thank you, and I just about bet you that you have seen me somewhere!
Because I do work in the public,
That's what's so funny about all of this, I've managed my family's business since I've Been 18.
But if I give out to much information people would defiantly know me. Like I said, "somewhere" I would never drag my family on this site, I'm not the only one with problems, big family
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#39 Oct 4, 2012
Thank You for being real wrote:
You nailed that one! Many times we take on everyone else's problems so we can forget our own, but when we deal with our own first than we can help others to help themselves.

Make sure you give that boy lots of hugs, happiness and encouragement, those are things he will never forget.

I know for years I couldn't tell people my story, but now it comes easy and without shame.
Your so rite, I used to think about my past when this child entered in my life, he has help me more then he will ever know, I try to do things that I used to beg and cry for, like someone telling me how proud they are, he loves it when he does good in school, I'm not to sure if his mom or dad are completely sober? So I just reinsure him, he is safe! I won't let any thing bad happen to him, and he does trust me, Thank God!! he has nobody, Hes entire family, grandparents, both sides aunts uncle,friends ect. Nobody!! I never see him playing with any other kids, But I have noticed from his report cards that hes teachers knows that something going on in his life by reading some of her remarks?
And I also try talking to his parents about getting him some kind of counseling, I dont think it will ever happen? I think they are afraid of what he will say, their always telling me he makes up stories, for a 11 year old, he sure does know a lot about stuff that nobody should know. And you should see his face when he's mom tells me that he lies, he drops his head like he's so lost, that's when I tell him I believe every word he tells me! I've never caught him in a lie. And I will never give up on him! I promise, I will do my best to give him a chance in life! That's why I preach education to him so much,
Just like one of the above post, she was saying she would escape from her torture to her books, I remember praying to God, when I grow up I just want to be smart, so I could escape. But like I said before, I graduated with flying colors but when tested a few years back, I was reading at a 3rd grade level, I used to be so ashamed of that, but to see how far I have came, I know I'm not there yet, but I also have learned how much I love learning,
Once again thank you! I will never ever forget how kind and understanding you are!
P.S. So sorry about my mistakes and grammar here, im late for work and rushing around, but after reading your post it makes me fill so much better,!
honest

Pomeroy, OH

#40 Oct 4, 2012
Two Rivers wrote:
<quoted text>I don't live there, but have family and many friends in the area. I have given up on the negative things, drama and people that drag me down. Can't help but worry about them though, hopefully they understand why I've cut my losses and moved on. I am alone, but there's something to be said for peace of mind.
Time will heal the wounds and the scars will fade if we let it happen.
When people you've known for years start to seem like strangers and there's no light at the tunnels end, stop in your tracks. Evaluate your direction, look around you and be objective. Watch what others do, when they think you can't see. There is a lesson to be learned.
That's what I had to do, cut all ties with everybody and everything before I could even recognize my own problems, ya, I do fill bad and I fill trouble when I see one of them and I walk the other way, not always but to the ones I know that are not ready for help, but I do talk to the ones that are struggling, and theres a bunch of them, that want help, they just don't have anybody to turn to. If I could I would take in every single one of them. And I also am very aware of my surrounding, it's took me to long to get where I am at, it's all about getting threw the day,
I am in the best place in my life at this moment, and I'm living in the moment for the first time in my life! And it fills so good to finally to be happy! and I have every intention to pass it forward!
T rivers

Shelby, NC

#41 Oct 4, 2012
Good analogy...glad to hear that you know where you are and your surroundings. You are correct. Happiness is the best thing to hope for. If we're not happy, there is no peace of mind or anything else for that matter. I commend you on your accomplishments...one thing and one day at a time. Replacing one set of issues with whole new set, is no way to fix anything. You end up with multiple problems that never really get resolved. Sometimes just making it one day to the next is bad enough...without compounding the issues at hand. I do know what you mean by wishing to help a troubled soul. If there was a way...i'd wave my wand and it'd all be gone, but the best we can do is offer advice from our perspective on what we've been through ourselves. Back to work. ttyl
honest wrote:
<quoted text>
That's what I had to do, cut all ties with everybody and everything before I could even recognize my own problems, ya, I do fill bad and I fill trouble when I see one of them and I walk the other way, not always but to the ones I know that are not ready for help, but I do talk to the ones that are struggling, and theres a bunch of them, that want help, they just don't have anybody to turn to. If I could I would take in every single one of them. And I also am very aware of my surrounding, it's took me to long to get where I am at, it's all about getting threw the day,
I am in the best place in my life at this moment, and I'm living in the moment for the first time in my life! And it fills so good to finally to be happy! and I have every intention to pass it forward!

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