Why Do Men Cheat and Lie?

Why Do Men Cheat and Lie?

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Since: May 11

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#1 May 28, 2011
I know all people cheat and lie so this discussion is not excluding women but is really asking you Henderson men: If you are a lier and a cheat... why? What makes you feel the need to do that? Is there anything your woman could do to make you want to be honest and faithful?
Kib

United States

#2 May 29, 2011
I don't cheat and never have. I've been cheated on and it hurt too much to ever want to do it to someone else.

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#3 May 29, 2011
I made the mistake of cheating on someone when I was young and I couldnt even look at myself in the mirror. I have been on the receiving end of infidelity for some time now. Although I have not spent time or energy in trying to catch him out right, some of the women who turned him down came to me and he seems to have a porno thing that keeps him occupied/satisfied most of the time. I dont understand it. I just know it hurts.
Woman

Shepherdsville, KY

#4 May 29, 2011
Because unfortunately are in the "must have it now" age. We think if we want it, we can have it. I don't think any of us think about who we could be hurting.
match

Milan, TN

#5 May 29, 2011
cause women are glitchin all the time....chill the heck out dang!!!!!
Scientific

United States

#6 May 29, 2011
When men are aroused, the increased flow of testosterone strongly enhances the male libido. When this happens, weak-minded men do whatever is needed to "relieve" themselves, which often leads in affairs and/or the fulfillment of sexual fantasies (which explains why men occasionally cheat on their spouse with a less attractive woman). Either way, it isn't a good enough excuse, and a relationship is a commitment...so cheating should never be a fear.
the real slim shady

Winchester, TN

#7 May 30, 2011
I DON'T CHEAT.......but apparently.....i lie .....LOL
Kib

United States

#8 May 30, 2011
What kinda lying are we talking about, lying to significant others or lying in general? I lie to my brother to keep peace in the family. Every time he calls I tell him I'm busy cuz I don't want him coming over to steal from me.
rouphis

Milan, TN

#9 May 30, 2011
I have never cheated, however, I have been cheated on not once but twice! Ny two different women! It does hurt!
010305jjem

United States

#10 May 30, 2011
match wrote:
cause women are glitchin all the time....chill the heck out dang!!!!!
I cant accept that one person does things because another person is "glitchin." I dont lie nor cheat because he does. Im faithful, attractive, tallented, smart, honorable, and honest. I have "over reacted" (if thats possible) to catching him in lies but I dont "glitch" on him for no reason. I am trying not to "glitch" on him at all now. I found out about another woman he flirted with in my house today and haven't said a word about it to him. Just sayin
Kib

United States

#11 May 31, 2011
I think (SOME) people just want drama cause they constantly get with people that are gonna do things to hurt them. I'm no exception. I've dated some of the sluttiest girls in Henderson and beyond. I'm talking girls that should wear capes with a giant W for whore. Every time I should see it coming and yet I go for the same girls time and time again.
010305jjem

United States

#12 May 31, 2011
Kib wrote:
I think (SOME) people just want drama cause they constantly get with people that are gonna do things to hurt them. I'm no exception. I've dated some of the sluttiest girls in Henderson and beyond. I'm talking girls that should wear capes with a giant W for whore. Every time I should see it coming and yet I go for the same girls time and time again.
Kib,
I can honestly say i didnt see this one coming. In the past I was just like you. I saw red flags and ignored them. This person, however, puts on a really good show! Outsiders cant believe that he is the way he is either! His true colors are starting to show to those who he tries so hard to convince that he is someone other than who he is. The guys Ive dated (or married in this case) should have a big "C" on their capes for "Conman"...lol
111

Brownsville, TN

#13 Jun 1, 2011
Lying can destroy a marriage to! You admit that you lie? Why do you?
010305jjem

United States

#14 Jun 1, 2011
111 wrote:
Lying can destroy a marriage to! You admit that you lie? Why do you?
When I was younger (before I was married), I lied to try to hide things that I was doing wrong and out of selfishness. That was several years ago and I learned a great deal from the mistakes that I made so I changed. I am older and much different now so Im unsure how you got the idea that I lie. I am a very honest person. The mistakes from my younger years taught me the value of honesty. In my opening comment, I made sure to state that this question was not bashing men and holding women blameless. Personally, I dont cheat nor lie. My marriage is being destroyed by lies and infidelity and I am searching for ways to understand and possibly ways that I can help to change things by asking men why they do these things if they do them or if they can understand why other men do them. Because I am a woman, I cannot possibly presume to understand why a man would do things.
111

United States

#15 Jun 1, 2011
I was talking to the real slim shady. They said they lie. I was wondering why ppl lie?
the real slim shady

Shelby, NC

#16 Jun 1, 2011
That was meant as a joke....as in...lying ABOUT cheating...but on a serious note ....in MY case ...i tell women up front what i'm willing to give to put into a particular situation and what i'm looking for...and for some reason...EVERY girl i hang out with seems to think they can change it...then when i stick by my guns ....they run around callin me a "playa" a "liar" and a "cheat" when in reality...i'm none of these ...i'm just a guy who knows what he is looking for in a relationship...and i'm not willing to settle for less...i'm 28...no kids...and i've settled my entire life....i refuse to now....but i still enjoy hanging out with females...and feel as tho since i'm honest up front....that i'm bein "real"....but god only knows why that's just issuing a challenge to some women
111

Brownsville, TN

#17 Jun 1, 2011
At least your honest. If you tell them up front and they already know how you are, then its their fault. Im a woman and i see your point. But my husband actually does lie all the time. And it is destroying our marriage.
Kib

United States

#18 Jun 1, 2011
Cheating and lying often stems from a very selfish personality. The people who cheat and lie usually only do for themselves and could care less who they hurt
the real slim shady

Kinards, SC

#19 Jun 2, 2011
Well 311....i hate to be a pessimist but your marraige at this point is most likely already damaged beyond complete repair.....will you ever completely trust him again?..when he leaves the house late at night...can you sleep well trusting that he really is doing what he says he's doing? I've lived that life babe...and i'll tell you right now...i put a drop dead gorgeous woman that i was head over heels in love with to the curb because of this very issue...l feel so lonely....sometimes...and it hurts...but even when i give in and take her back.....it feels like i have bills that i can't pay ....and when we split .....it started feelin like i had paid off a second mortgage ....it was the biggest relief i could imagine....i miss her...and i'll probably never replace her looks....but she was sinkin fast and takin me down with her......you'll eventually come to hate him for having so much of you and pushing you away with his lies ..and you'll always have an empty space that it will seem no one will seem to fill ...you'll always feel torn between the happiness you once felt..and reality of misery with either choice....my thoughts are with you....and though quite a lot of my posts on here are meant to be humouring ...and lighten up a dark situation.....i do have a serious side ...maybe i should entertain it more often....
111

United States

#20 Jun 2, 2011
Sounds just like me! And it is damanged to much to repair. I already have hatred toward him. Its just a matter of time.

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