The Truth About Strip Clubs

The Truth About Strip Clubs

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FYI

United States

#1 Oct 5, 2011
Searching the Internet I found this site. As an ex-stripper and knowing the truth about this profession, I thought some of you might need to read this.

The Truth About Strip Clubs

What Strip Club Owners Don't Want You to Know

There are so many misconceptions held by people about strippers. Below are some demystifying facts about the reality of this profession.



Working as a Stripper Is Not:

Safe - Murder and violence happen on a regular basis in and around strip clubs, and seemingly at an increasing rate of frequency. Patrons are often sexual predators who build obsessions on the dancers. Gang members, drug dealers, pimps, and other criminals also frequent strip clubs. Some of these criminals are the employees themselves, and all strip club owners are involved in some kind of criminal activity. The safety of the dancers is not a high priority.

Healthy - Many strippers suffer from drug addiction, alcoholism, abusive relationships, and dangerous lifestyles. The stresses of the job bring on many physical and emotional problems. Depression and anxiety disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder are common among dancers. Years of dancing cause back, feet, and leg injuries, some totally disabling. And there is no retirement plan for dancers.

Glamorous - The day-to-day reality of acting friendly to perverts and degenerates is disgusting. Being assaulted in the lap dance booth is traumatic and utterly humiliating. Being regularly hit on by creepy guys making filthy comments at you is not at all glamorous. Being physically attacked by mentally unbalanced dancers is also unglamorous.

Good for your self-esteem - Being treated like an object day after day by your boss and clients has a deleterious effect on your self-esteem. This effect snowballs as the years go on. Many dancers suffer from feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.

Worth the money - I have known strippers who have made obscene amounts of money and they are no happier for it. There is also a tendency among dancers to squander the money on drugs, excessive shopping, gambling, etc.

Empowering for women - On the contrary, the job is degrading to women. To be admired in this way is not true esteem and dignity, it's exploitation. Its a conterfeit form of love and attention that weakens your sense of self.

Without a price - Being constantly ogled, groped, lusted after, catcalled, insulted, pinched, and used for sex comes at a very steep price. I witnessed many dancers (including myself) leave the bar in tears due to an abusive patron or employer.

A Victimless Crime - Even if you don't feel harmed by it, think of the harm you are causing to the wives and children of the men who come to see you, or even to the men themselves. Think of the dancers who do end up dead or emotionally scarred as a result of the job. Think of the damage being done to the community surrounding your workplace.

Authentic Feminism - Feminism was never about the legalized pimping that is the porn and strip club industry. Feminism was never about making mafiosi rich by exploiting women's sexuality. Don't forget who takes home the most money in this business.
FYI

United States

#2 Oct 5, 2011
Who Are Strippers?

So many factors bring a woman to the decision to become a stripper. The most overriding factor seems to be early childhood abuse. The media portrayals of strippers are far from accurate. They are not all airheaded Barbie Dolls who smile constantly. They are college students, struggling artists, struggling actresses, professionally trained dancers, single mothers, abuse survivors, writers, wives, musicians, teachers, teenage runaways, performance artists, singers, nurses, athletes, film makers, students. They come from all walks of life. Some, believe it or not, are Christian. Please don't judge or stereotype these women. Instead, pray for them and support one of the many ministries in the links section active in helping sex workers find a new life in Christ.
Dancer

Cincinnati, OH

#3 Oct 5, 2011
Sorry I disagree.
fyi

United States

#4 Oct 5, 2011
Dancer wrote:
Sorry I disagree.
I'm sorry too. If you truly are in the business, maybe you are new. Eventually, you will see. We all do. I'm just trying to get people to see the truth behind it. The pain, the depression and the scars. Women deserve more respect, don't you agree with that. We do this for the money, the glamour and at times it makes us feel good about ourselves. I think that might be what you're seeing right now. Open your eyes, men see us as an object that they can take advantage of. If we don't look and act a certain way, we are judged every second of the day. We deserve so much more than that. I danced in a big city and I did make a lot of money. For a long time, I thought it was great. Then There were men that grabbed me, threatened me, stalked me and the disgust I felt inside when they touched me. The alcohol, the drugs and staying up all night really takes you down. Hearing of girls being murdered that I had worked with. I could go on and on. A strippers life is not as glamorous as people might think. Good luck to you.

Ydg

“voted most successful”

Since: Mar 11

Location hidden

#5 Oct 5, 2011
I'm going to the strip club Friday.
Nyla

Zionsville, IN

#6 Sep 7, 2012
Preach it!!!! thankyou for telling it like it really is..........
only the ones who have walked in those stiletto's know the scars...
Yeah

Macon, MO

#7 Sep 7, 2012
FYI wrote:
Searching the Internet I found this site. As an ex-stripper and knowing the truth about this profession, I thought some of you might need to read this.
The Truth About Strip Clubs
What Strip Club Owners Don't Want You to Know
There are so many misconceptions held by people about strippers. Below are some demystifying facts about the reality of this profession.
Working as a Stripper Is Not:
Safe - Murder and violence happen on a regular basis in and around strip clubs, and seemingly at an increasing rate of frequency. Patrons are often sexual predators who build obsessions on the dancers. Gang members, drug dealers, pimps, and other criminals also frequent strip clubs. Some of these criminals are the employees themselves, and all strip club owners are involved in some kind of criminal activity. The safety of the dancers is not a high priority.
Healthy - Many strippers suffer from drug addiction, alcoholism, abusive relationships, and dangerous lifestyles. The stresses of the job bring on many physical and emotional problems. Depression and anxiety disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder are common among dancers. Years of dancing cause back, feet, and leg injuries, some totally disabling. And there is no retirement plan for dancers.
Glamorous - The day-to-day reality of acting friendly to perverts and degenerates is disgusting. Being assaulted in the lap dance booth is traumatic and utterly humiliating. Being regularly hit on by creepy guys making filthy comments at you is not at all glamorous. Being physically attacked by mentally unbalanced dancers is also unglamorous.
Good for your self-esteem - Being treated like an object day after day by your boss and clients has a deleterious effect on your self-esteem. This effect snowballs as the years go on. Many dancers suffer from feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.
Worth the money - I have known strippers who have made obscene amounts of money and they are no happier for it. There is also a tendency among dancers to squander the money on drugs, excessive shopping, gambling, etc.
Empowering for women - On the contrary, the job is degrading to women. To be admired in this way is not true esteem and dignity, it's exploitation. Its a conterfeit form of love and attention that weakens your sense of self.
Without a price - Being constantly ogled, groped, lusted after, catcalled, insulted, pinched, and used for sex comes at a very steep price. I witnessed many dancers (including myself) leave the bar in tears due to an abusive patron or employer.
A Victimless Crime - Even if you don't feel harmed by it, think of the harm you are causing to the wives and children of the men who come to see you, or even to the men themselves. Think of the dancers who do end up dead or emotionally scarred as a result of the job. Think of the damage being done to the community surrounding your workplace.
Authentic Feminism - Feminism was never about the legalized pimping that is the porn and strip club industry. Feminism was never about making mafiosi rich by exploiting women's sexuality. Don't forget who takes home the most money in this business.
I totally agree! I'm a man and really don't like seeing a woman at a strip club, because of all the values you just mentioned. I could'nt look at at woman naked not knowing how she really feels about showing me her private parts. We are making women that will lower our society. I understand the money but it's not worth it. Hell I'd rather work the sewers. Not trying to lower their esteem any more but just trying to help at least one beautiful woman.
Care bear-2014

United States

#8 Dec 5, 2013
All the things ur not told when u go in to these places and think well ill just make some quick money and get out,... Just pay some bills real quick so I can have a good Christmas for my kids...." Since I found the courage to not live the life my mother did and stay w/ a cheating abbusive man that wouldn't let me b anything accept bare foot and pregnant. As a child some of my fuzzy memories were hell.... Didn't want that for my kids! Thought strip clubs, wow that's the answer.. I don't need a man to support me... I was stalked regularly by 4 to 5 different "regulars" at all times. And don't mistake the more attractive and well liked u r by people, the more all the "organized " ( gangs") ect.. Of all types.. Want to own u... They won't stop.... They cause havoc and problems in ur life they r horrible people that want to make money off u... Threaten ur family and friends. Won't let people help u. Good people r afraid to get close cause of all the assholes around u. What does it take to get rid of an asshole?? A bigger asshole!!! A viscous circle...that's only part of it!!!!
crazy

Owensboro, KY

#9 Dec 8, 2013
Really it's not that hard if u dont wana b a nasty skank then don't do it
wowsers

Florence, KY

#10 Dec 8, 2013
Don't forget that 99% of the strippers are drug addicts and are normally pretty big sl uts
wornthin

United States

#14 Sep 1, 2015
Not 99% are drug addicts and sluts. Ignorant
LImey

Henderson, KY

#15 Sep 1, 2015
I really don't care, I just want to see the tits and booty.
Browneyedbeauty

Corona, CA

#16 Sep 6, 2015
11 years I've wore my stilettos and honestly you are right about a small portion...but you are wrong on many other levels. Everyone has a story...it really upsets me how many people praise woman/models Of Victoria's Secret and Playboy...yet when it comes to a stripper...we are under/below/disgraceful. As a "stripper" your job title is to entertain the crowd/audience in a artful manner while topless or nude. And also to give lap dances to men/woman who wish to get one. In many situations a dancer may have split a marriage or caused drama to a family or relationship but that's not because the woman was a dancer...these girls work hard and it's more than getting naked...it's a job, it's an art, it's a family unit behind the curtain....strippers clock in and clock out like everybody else...at the end of the day it's a JOB....be happy there's strip clubs around...many men come to these places to look at a pretty girl and get a lap dance then goes home to his wife...getting a lap dance isn't cheating but I guarantee if every strip club was torn down, every husband would eventually be caught picking up a hooker or worse in times of need. As for drugs...yes...it's true many strippers are on drugs but it's not because they are a stripper....we meet tons of lawyers, entrepreneurs etc and they are on drugs as well...so what does that say about them??? ITS AN ART. Learn to appreciate it and respect it....or just simply stop talking about it until you learn to be a little bit more honest and real...this life is nothing like the movies or your opinion.
Garrett Book

Louisville, KY

#17 Sep 7, 2015
Strippers are amazing
wow

United States

#18 Sep 7, 2015
Browneyedbeauty wrote:
11 years I've wore my stilettos and honestly you are right about a small portion...but you are wrong on many other levels. Everyone has a story...it really upsets me how many people praise woman/models Of Victoria's Secret and Playboy...yet when it comes to a stripper...we are under/below/disgraceful. As a "stripper" your job title is to entertain the crowd/audience in a artful manner while topless or nude. And also to give lap dances to men/woman who wish to get one. In many situations a dancer may have split a marriage or caused drama to a family or relationship but that's not because the woman was a dancer...these girls work hard and it's more than getting naked...it's a job, it's an art, it's a family unit behind the curtain....strippers clock in and clock out like everybody else...at the end of the day it's a JOB....be happy there's strip clubs around...many men come to these places to look at a pretty girl and get a lap dance then goes home to his wife...getting a lap dance isn't cheating but I guarantee if every strip club was torn down, every husband would eventually be caught picking up a hooker or worse in times of need. As for drugs...yes...it's true many strippers are on drugs but it's not because they are a stripper....we meet tons of lawyers, entrepreneurs etc and they are on drugs as well...so what does that say about them??? ITS AN ART. Learn to appreciate it and respect it....or just simply stop talking about it until you learn to be a little bit more honest and real...this life is nothing like the movies or your opinion.
I suppose if that's what you've had to convince yourself of to sleep at night then more power to ya! Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I think it's a trashy way to make a living. I would be pissed if my husband spent our families money on a dirty stripper. Taking money away from our family to give to hers. However, it's not only the strippers fault, it's the mans as well.
PQRT

Carrollton, TX

#20 Oct 31, 2015
IMHO, the issue begins with the wife of the man. The wife doesn't treat him well, specially after having kids! Her purpose is done - she got what she wanted. The man, however, being rejected by his wife, looks for an adult companion. That's where strip clubs come into picture. If there is a demand, then there will be a business. This is true for IT, Medical, Strip club & what not! I understand that there are some risks of being a stripper but every job has it's own risks! How about a fire fighter, police, construction worker or DEA agent? Their jobs are very risky as well. The doctors can be sued - that's a huge monetary risk as well!
lovelace

Greenville, KY

#21 Nov 1, 2015
Browneyedbeauty wrote:
11 years I've wore my stilettos and honestly you are right about a small portion...but you are wrong on many other levels. Everyone has a story...it really upsets me how many people praise woman/models Of Victoria's Secret and Playboy...yet when it comes to a stripper...we are under/below/disgraceful. As a "stripper" your job title is to entertain the crowd/audience in a artful manner while topless or nude. And also to give lap dances to men/woman who wish to get one. In many situations a dancer may have split a marriage or caused drama to a family or relationship but that's not because the woman was a dancer...these girls work hard and it's more than getting naked...it's a job, it's an art, it's a family unit behind the curtain....strippers clock in and clock out like everybody else...at the end of the day it's a JOB....be happy there's strip clubs around...many men come to these places to look at a pretty girl and get a lap dance then goes home to his wife...getting a lap dance isn't cheating but I guarantee if every strip club was torn down, every husband would eventually be caught picking up a hooker or worse in times of need. As for drugs...yes...it's true many strippers are on drugs but it's not because they are a stripper....we meet tons of lawyers, entrepreneurs etc and they are on drugs as well...so what does that say about them??? ITS AN ART. Learn to appreciate it and respect it....or just simply stop talking about it until you learn to be a little bit more honest and real...this life is nothing like the movies or your opinion.
VS models are not known to rub on men's cocks for money!!

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